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Clinton News-Record, 1983-02-16, Page 28PAGE 8 RI ES EDITION 133 K.C. COOKE F(O can help make your w Weddiaa;;y Are Our Sped Fresh or Silk; Flowers Distinctive ..« uquets Drop in and see us or call for an• ` �d appointment to discuss flower plan§' • for the memorable day of your wedding. A Free Throw Bouquet with every complete Wedding order!!!! r Remember those fatuat ,r. i :,ys of gir when, pen in hand, you would dreamily write the name of you most recent bean with a neatly -penned "Mrs." preceding it? What little girl does not dream of the day when she will become, for example, Mrs. Michael Evans? Well, it just might be that little girls of the '60s no longer think along these lines. It is no longer the excep- tional woman who, once she's married, decides to keep her maiden name. This is a trend which has become increasingly common among American women in recent years. Women are more assertive these days. And, with more than 50 percent of American women in the work force, it is frequently more practical from a professional point of view to keep the maiden name. This is not to say that all s in an - ,,,,:..I 482-7012 '61 Orange Street, Clinton me? n, pi ty! women are retaining their maiden names. A marred woman has several options, as was pointed out recently an Brides magazine. Taking the husband's name as by far the most popular choice among mar- ried women. If you are Janet Grayson, for example, you will pro :. bly become Mrs. Michael Evans or, more commonly, Mrs. Janet Evans. (Strict etiquette would have held you to Mrs. Michael Evans in former times; today, however, Mrs. Janet Evans is quite accep- table.) If you like your maiden name, and for whatever reasons, decide you want to keep it, by all means do so. Becoming .'Mrs. His -Name" is custom, not law, Bride's points out, except in Hawaii, where a woman is legally re- quired to take her husband's name. You may Choose to lead a dual existence: one as Ms. Janet Grayson ( most likely for professional peroses), the other as Mrs. Janet Evans. Both names are legally recognized, as long as you carry dual identifica- tion. A popular solution to the identity dilemma is to hyphenate both names, in this case becoming Mr. and Mrs. Grayson -Evans. This does not necessitate a cou- ple's going through legal proceedings. An important considera- tion for the newly -married woman, Bride's points out, is to establish credit in her own name. Use one name — either Janet Grayson or Janet Grayson Evans — in all your financial dealings_ Have your own bank and charge accounts, and expect to be treated as an individual. If you do open any kind of joint account, insist that creditors keep separate files on both you and your husband. Advice for remarrying Nearly 30 percent of all marriages today are remar- riages. But the number of remarriages isn't all that's • • '•4;11r -A.- 4-. ", )t ._.-._.4:. ia, d YOU'LL FIPI IT AT TI1 CAPTURE THE SILHOUETTE OF 983 Welcome sweet spring and summer stylin►gs by looking as fresh es the first flowers In fashion bloom. Whether Ws sportswear, oasaral, ac- cessories, lingerie, that important special occasion dress or going eweyv sant, find It all et the Fashion Shoppe In ®.e.'edoh. WATCH FOR OUR EXCITING FASHION S11W Wednesdays, Meroh 0'83 - North Street Church - Goderich 32 Shotes Square - ®odedeh 524-6431 growing, says Bride's magazine. So is the spirit of celebration. Traditionally, couples em- barking on second and third marriages faced strong pressure to keep the wedding a small, quiet affair bearing little resemblance to a first wedding. Etiquette books ad- dressed the subject with an abundance of negatives: "The remarrying bride does not wear white:" "A second engagement is never an- nounced in the newspapers." All that's changed, says Bride's. The emphasis now is a lot less on rules, a lot more on the importance of sharing a joyful new beginn- ing surrounded by family and friends. Some of Bride's sugges- tions for a remarrying cou- ple: • As the bride, be just a lit- tle bit selfish at this time. Wear an engagement ring. Indulge in a beauty day at the salon — complete with lavish haircare, facial, and manicure. You deserve it all! o Feel free to marry in the outfit of your choice. The traditionally simple, cream - colored suit is still lovely - but so is a romantically long and lacy gown, in white or your favorite color. The only accessory best omitted, suggests Bride's, is the veil — long a symbol of youth. A more sophisticated choice might be a dramatic picture hat, cloche, or wreath of fresh or silk flowers. • If either of you has children, try to include them in as many plans as you can. As Barbara Tober, Editor - in -Chief of Bride's says, "If children will be part of your marriage, why not make them part of your wedding?" They'll feel especially im- portant playing a role in your ceremony — depending on their ages, they can be ring bearers or flower girls, bridesmaids, ushers, or honor attendants. • Make your reception as extravagant a party as you wish, complete with all the wedding traditions — a receiving line, the "first dance", the ceremonial cut- ting of the cake, and a cham- pagne toast. A warm way to welcome guests is to head up the receiving line yourselves rather than leaving it to your parents. They, in turn, will be free to circulate among guests. ,' • Don't feel a honeymoon isn't necessary "this time around." Getting married is tiring, even if you've been through it before. How to fit in some rest and relaxation around children? If possible, plan a trip just for the two of you first, then a "group honeymoon" so you'll all feel like a family. Giving of rima.. from ps _;e 5 ceremony. It's to be hoped that the love felt by the two people married in such a way was more lasting than the bride's possession of the wedding ring. For bride and groom And, what of a ring for the groom? Is today's increas- ingly popular double ring ceremony a phenomenon of the 20th century? With This Ring says, not necessarily, and cites the case of a man named Nicholas Blundell who, way back in 1703, pur- chased two rings — one for himself as well as one for his bride-to-be. And this, very simply, is an idea which more and more people are beginning to feel "runs rings" around the more traditional one where the bride only receives a wedding ring from her, groom. The iexchange of rings parallels the exchange of vows, and is the symbol of the deep mutual commit- ment both partners have made. What could be more romantic?