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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Goderich Signal-Star, 1970-02-12, Page 18.. It's hard to believe Tony is only five months old, His alert expression suggests a much older child. • This handsome little boy is half Spanish -Negro. Not .- much is known about- the other half of his ancestry except •that it is white. Tony is a big boy and very strong. Those lovely big eyes are dark blue and he has medium brown hair and clear, fair skin. Tony is a very responsive baby". He welcomes attention with . happy coos and he's full of smiles and contented little sounds. He is veryaware of his surroundings, obviously r enjoying watching any kind of movement. He is in, good health. This baby needs parents who will enjoy a bright little son and will appreciate his background. Toinquire about adopting,.Tony please write to Today's, Child,. Department of Social and • Family Services; Parlia- ment Buildings, Toronto 182.. For general adoption informa- tion ask your Children's Aid Society. James Richardson 8� Sofls Ltd Serving The Feed healers of Western Ontario PHONE 524-8388,- GODERlCH qo' mien Wistar is an ern • DEAR ANN LANDER -S) 1 don't know quite how to say this, but I will ck my best. Our minister is an erplwrassment to the congregation. He is a very fine person, and . extremely• conscientious but he always looks sb l tacky. His clothes appear' to .be worn, his shoes look rundown, and his shirt cuffs are' frayed. "His winter coat looks. like something he picked up in a rummage sale.'Please don't think I atn bein 4cafty,- but his wife also looks 'Shabby. No one expects 'a 'minister's wife to be a fashion plate but this woman is . wearing dresses and hats that are at least eight years old. No one wants to tell the minister and his .wife to shape `'up. They are compassionate, lovable people and his sermons are the best, but we feel that since -they do represent us in the , community they should not go • around looking like charity, cases. Any. suggestions on. how to _ get the message across? — MEMBER OF THE COMMITTEE' DEAR MEMBER: You failed to give the most important "detail." How much do you pay. your lovable, compassionate, conscientious minister? - Are you aware that half of the Protestarft . ministers in this country earn less•than $8,000 a year? A chemist with comparable education earns approximately 50 percent more Plumbers, . electricians, 'and bricklayers often make twice as much°'as the man th ,y listen to in the pulpit on Sunday. This . situation is a national disgrace and I hope you will -go backand tell your fellow committee' members that the reason the minister's coat looks 'like -he picked • it,,„ up " at a rummage sale is ---because he probably did. DEAR ANN • LANDERS: - 'Mew- elaborate'en your advice regarding the 10 -year-old girl rand her .19 -year-old brother. You said . three ' •behavioral specialists agreed they should be separated because of the likelihood of a 'perManent incestuous relationship — emotional or physical, in' ,both, I have never heard of einotional incest.' Would like to know, more about it because of some . odd and peculiar relationships jn our own family. This cou,ldq\be ;tile "explanation. •Thank you. — N,0 IDENTIFICATION' PLEASE DEAR NO D.; The letter to which • you • rel;er described a brother,sister---.relationship ` that was much too clo"S9 f pr n ctxt: The little .girl was constantly on her 'brother's lap, -kissing" and caressing „4, him. ' Whenever he. brought a, date to the 'house, Little Sister became ugly and sullen. She viewed every other female as a predator. Her rrassmenf p'bssessivene$s was appalling, lie, in turn, fondled her, called her bis"NCutie Pie and e"ncouraged her toluss over him. -My consultants agreed that .the pawing, patting and pseudo love making described in the letter was unhealthy and that the boy should live elsewhere, if -Visible. They agreed, also that incest between brother and sister need not be physical. It can be emotional: Even though --there Is - no sexual activity, the two can be in love with one another to the extent that neither' can relate normally' to a member of. the opposite sex. To the boy, his sister remains throughout his life his Number One •3h1, And to her, - brother is considered forever the most important man in the world. ®AD bor314-1- KNOW YET ---BUT JUNIOR }i AS SOME DO IT YOUR- SELF IDEAS OF HIS OWN fl Por ur -Toops AWAY OF C C -t1 / 1-1REN �.. CFH▪ C 1t,7 was a close sgtteak, but 1 ,retained my ' posit on as Presi- dentof PORK (Parents Of Rot ten Kids)" at tate annual elect- ten - of offieers. held in my study recently.:, 1 was •°given the honor of. leading, • Once. ' again, - this progressive and widespread or* ganization,, with Members in every townand -city' in Canada, because my daughter quit uni, versify after one term. .We now have the situation" of our son, who 'dropped elft two years ago, and dropped back in this year, urging his' kid sister not to he a slob, a ninny, a quitter, a lazy bum, just as we urged him when he did it. The reason for Kim's deci- sion is rather fuzzy in our eyes, as she wasn't failing, and even seemed to like some aspects of it. „But I think the main reason was that, after 13 years of school and piano lessons, she. had simply' had enough, and wanted to find out what real life is all about. I haven't figures (but I'll bet . they're shocking) of the num- ber of bright young people who quit college in their ,first year. The reasons are obvious. It is boring,. it doesn't live up to their expectations, or they can't stand the new freedom and -fall behind, hopelessly, in their work. is that they want to `find" themselves, to learn to I.tvc' 4t • a world. . that,. is- not cattail- ' wrapped. :,gr institutionalized. This .argument- ' 'hrings ulcers, • apgplexx_. ad-,..fallen..atches ' of • the soul to parents, ; And ,I have 'some sympathy for the kids. As Tong as they're not My own, They ,,want • to get out of the `i"atface of mart- ,. gages, taxes and ..striving' for ,security in which' they see It's a bitter • blow for- parents with high_ hopes, especially' for • those who couldn't afford it themselves and want some- thing Netter for their children.' There are tears and exhorta "tions and 'beating of breasts. There is the rational approach, the 'plative approach,. -the thunderous condemnation. But you .might as well try to reason with John Calvin or. •an oak :stump as• with a stubborn 18 -year-old who has made up . his -or her mind about some-. thing. The, favorite expression• - their grey -faced parents en,- gaged:- They , are ,.simply sick of . a system with a stick at c)ne end and a carrot, •in the form of a pleb or paper, at the other. For some kids, the system is fine. And.i especially admire those who, without too much natural ability, and practically no money, haul themselves through school by their boot- straps, on plain hard work; For others, a minority, the system is rotten, arid to some extent I agree with them. They want a simpler, cleaner way of • life. It's . a tough decision for them. Often, it takes more courage toquit than to con- form. They hay to hurt their baffled parents. They are ' la- belled as lazy punks and drop- outs. They are told they can't face reality. They are Confront- " ed. by nagging, ' , bullying, threats and bribes, along with their own feelings of guilt. i RRK .. president re-elected They often become emotionally disturbed, or pretty .tough on the Surface. '$ut ,there's one tiling par- • ents must do. They must stop trying -to litre through :.them• kids, especially when the latter are old enough to, work, to marry and to. live 'their." own ' lives. Parents should dols the same -- ' hive their 'wtl lives. They should" go on loving their offspring, ifpossible. They should help them, if they need help. But they should stop trying to manipulate them, to mold them into a design they think is the right one. Please don't 'think I'm de. fending- all ---dropouts. Some of them are lazy bums, and quit. tars.' gut I can't help wonder- ing what 1 --should do, if I were 1' 18 today. • When I went to univefsity, it • was. 'a way of getting off ,the treadmill, of escaping a dull iqb and a limited future and a life of diapers, and boiled cab- bage, and hamburg four times a week, and never enough 4 money. - Today's affluent kids are getting off another type of - treadmill in a different way. They" have my sympathy,but. ) my heart bleeds for those who won't make' it, and discoyer, too late, that' they have ex- changed a treadmill for a squirrel cage. dP 'Olt, YOUR AUTO INSURANCE See or Phone MALCOLM MATHER-S cENEWALIN.StliANCE AGENT 46 WEST ST: 5249442. IRECTOR r.. ALL 'NEW GODERICH RESTAURANT Steak Noise' and Tavern - THIS SPACE RESERVED FOR YOUR AD FRIGIDAIRE * t°ti'ESTINGHOUSE * G IBSON ' * -HOOVER ' Sales and Service Mel Ball 97 East St. t0 -MEN'S WEAR ' ter E R APPLIANCES` The Square — Goderich Now Owned and Operated by Chuck Jewell 1 The Names Of Six Signal -Star Subscrib- ers Are ToBe Found In One Of TheseAds, 1 • Novi `Showing • nowyou can SEE aaythiEhg .you want at... 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