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HomeMy WebLinkAboutTimes Advocate, 1984-08-29, Page 26Pogo 14A Times-Advocotst, August 29, 1984 What Every Family Should Know ONTARIO FUNERAL SERVICE ASSOCIATION Children and death: When a family member dies a question that usually comes up is what to teil the children in the family. Should they be involved in a funeral and if so, to what extent? Before adolescence, a child perceives his identity as being part of a family rather than a unique individual. With this in mind we realize that children are very sensitive to the family behavioural pat- terns. The regularity of these behavioural patterns give the child security as he learns to feel comfortable with them. A death in the family often greatly disrupts the regularity of these behavioural patterns. Dad may not go to work, Mom and dad may be depressed or crying, phone calls may come more often than usual or perhaps the fami- ly will visit all at once and it isn't even Christmas. Because of his inquisitive nature, the child will ask questions so that he can understand these hap- penings and regain his sense of security. The response to these questions is extremely Important. One afternoon during a visitation period at a funeral home, the funeral director noticed a nine year old girl standing in the doorway of a stateroom where her grand- mother's body lay in a casket. She was sobbing from heart- break. Her mother tried to comfort her but seemed to be at a loss for words. The funerat director seeing this, wisely stepped in and asked to speak to the mother and child. After a short conversation he showed them a tape which was written by a child psychologist and which explained death and the funeral to children. The funeral director then had the child draw a picture of how she felt while he explained to the mother how to deal with the situation. When they went back into the stateroom, the child approached the casket, placing her picture inside the casket, saying "Everything's all right noW Nana". When telling a child about death we should answer the child's questions honestly on the child's level of thinking. Children should be encourag- ed to be involved in the funeral process but never forced. However this situation is handled, it will affect the child's perception of death and ability to grieve. for the re- mainder of has or her life. The OFSA makes brochures available to help parents understand the why and how of explaining death to children. Your funeral director will be able to give experienced guidance. Bruce Armstrong. the author of this article, is an OFSA professional from Port Colborne. Your area Ontario Funeral Service Members are IRV ARMSTRONG FUNERAL HOME PHONE 235 1220 BOB FLETCHER T. Tflaskett ttnh 'nn FUNERAL HOME 223 Main St. Lucan 227-4211 A SAILING WE WILL GO — Teachers Ruth Martin and Sandy Bannister watch as Shannon Gielen, Brent Ratz, Megan Ratz and Greg Hendrick sail their boats at Crediton United Church Vacation Bible School, Thursday morning. Thames Road couple back from Europe By MRS. WILLIAM ROHDE Mr. and Mrs. William Rowcliffe arrived home recently after having been on an enjoyable trip to Europe. Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jef- fery returned home recently after having been on a bus trip to the East Coast and Newfoundland. Mr. and Mrs. Bev Alex- ander and Mr. and Mrs. Mac Hodgert returned home a week ago Sunday evening after having a visit to London England for two days to meet up with the rest of the tour to journey other countries in Europe. William Rohde and grand- son Danny Rohde spent a few days last week at Family Paradise Camp. Karen and Kathy Rohde, Exeter spent a few days last week with their grandmother Mrs. Bill Rohde. Lee and Patricia Hodgert are visiting with Mr. and Mrs. John Miner of Vibank, BRUCE GC IN HURON BRUCE gf Liberal 3. Bruce McDonald believes Canadian initiatives for peace and freedom from nuclear war are vital to the survival of mankind on our planet. Prime Minister Turner has pledged Canada's continuing effort to bring Russia and the U.S. to a successful international pact on arms control and disarmament. BRUCE McDONALD BELIEVES: 1. One of the most pressing needs of farmers today is long term credit at affordable interest rates. The Liberal government under John Turner is pledged to do even more through the Farm Credit Corp. to meet the changing need of farmers. 2. Bruce McDonald believes the sale of a farm is a farmer's pension and should be subject to generous tax exemption. The Liberal Government under John Turner is pledged to Income Tax changes that permit farmers to transfer up to $120,000 from the sale of their farm businesses to an RRSP without incurring tax liability. (The Conservatives opposed this measure in the '84 budget) 4. Bruce McDonald believes the secret to a sustained economic recovery in Huron -Bruce is a healthy agricultural and small business sector. When agriculture flourishes in Huron -Bruce, small business flourishes. Since 1980, the Liberal Government has paid $290 million in stabilization payments to Canadian producers of fruit, grain and livestock. A special farm assistance program will rebate 4-5% of interest charges for 2 years. 5. Bruce McDonald stated his position on Abortion and it was reported in much of the local press. It was repeated in his "Campaign '84" mailing for those who have not heard it or read it, we repeat it now....tf has not changed or varied! He said Liberals generally believe in the freedom of individuals but that freedom can be abused. Abortions should not be allowed on demand, said Mr. McDonald, in response to a question on the subject. He said abortion should not be treated as a form of birth control. Our candidate does not favor any loosening of the current laws on the subject and suggests current laws be enforced more stringently. BRUCE McDONALD LIBERAL HEADQUARTERS: FORMOSA 367-5622 LIBERAL COMMITTEE ROOMS: WINGHAM - 357-1302 CLINTON - 482-3401 SEAFORTH - 527-1022 GODERICH - 524-2103 EXETER - 235-0151 For Election Information or Election Day transportation Please call! FOR: •YOUTH• •EXPERIENCE - •VITALITY• VOTE BRUCE McDONAL SEPT. 4th N.D.P. • 1111M1111111111 •4 • McDONALD, BRUCE LIBERAL LIBERIA IAN COME CELEBRATE ELECTION NIGHT WITH US IN SEAFORTH COMMUNITY CENTRE...AND GET THE RESULTS FIRST HAND Authorized by Barry Reid, official will for Bruce McDonald. Saskatchewan. Mr. and Mrs. Harold Frayne, Prospect Hill visited Sunday with Mr. and Mrs. Jack Duncan. Miss Doris Elfprd, Mrs. George Kellett, hnd Mrs. William Rohde were among those who attended the Kirkton Horticulture Flower Show at Kirkton Community Centre, Tuesday evening. Quite a number of people. from the community attend- ed the Decoration Service at Shipka couple celebrate 40th By MRS. HUGH MORENZ Congratulations to Wray and Madeline Sweitzer, who celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary on August 19th. A family dinner was held in their honour at the home of their daughter Barb and Don Dundas and family, with 22 in attendance. Visiting Friday afternoon with Hugh and Annie Morenz were their great niece, Lesley Adams, Exeter and Rachel Smith, Dashwood area. The girls enjoyed a playtime and tea party in the grandies tree house that Hugh built this summer. Ferman and Leota Snyder, Harold and Lucille Vincent, Lori, Mike and Michelle spent time at the Church of God camp at Thamesford, held on the Free Methodist camp grounds, last week. Don and Liz Adams spent a few holidays sightseeing in the area of Picton, Belleville and' Kingston. Exeter cemetery on Sunday. Mr. and Mrs. Reg Hodgert spent a few days the first of last week with Mr. and Mrs. Alex MacNaughton, Toronto at the latter's cottage at Port Carling. Mr. and Mrs. Rick Parker and family hosted a bon voyage supper party for Shirley and Jane Hewitt who left on Friday for their home in Australia. Those present were the above mentioned and Mr. and Mrs. Ivan Hern of Zion, Mrs. Mary Hodgert of Exeter, Mr. and Mrs. Reg Hodgert, Grant and Scott, Mr. and Mrs. Arnold Cann and Brad, Mr. and Mrs. Ross Hodgert and Alan, Miss Michelle Riehl. Mr. and Mrs. Lorne Passmore were guests later in the evening. Quite a number of people from this community attend- ed a wedding reception and dance Saturday evening in Hensel) for Rhonda McCowan Seaforth and Brian Miller, Cromarty who were married Saturday. Mr. and Mrs. Reg Hodgert attended a 35th wedding an- niversary celebration for Mr. and Mrs. Wally Becker of New Hamburg, Sunday. Sunday school and Church service will commence on Sunday September 2 at 11:15 a.m. Promotion for the Sun- day school members will take place during the church service. The United Church Women will hold their supper meeting September 10. Note the change of date. ADMIRING BLOOMS — Pat and Gladys Skinner of Ex- eter are shown admiring some of the gladioli at Tues- day's flower show sponsored by the Kirkton Hor- ticultural Society. T -A photo Staff reunion at Craigholme By ALIO MOONS "Renewing old acquain- tances, Making new friends". That's what happened in the auditorium at the Craigholme Nursing Home, Ailsa Craig, Friday. A family reunion was held for all the staff who worked in the old Craigholme from 1950 to 1974. They came from as far away as Port Elgin, Tavistock, Strathroy, Parkhill and Ilderton with 68 attending. A pot luck dinner was en- joyed by all and the evening marked a special event in that they honored Simon Bender with a birthday cake. Simon will be 90 years young on October 11. Alfred and Verna Ropp, Tavistock, played the guitar and sang two numbers. John MacDonald sang an old Scot- tish tune and a beautiful hymn "He is divine". Home economist at Granton ACW By MRS. E. SUMMERS The St. Thomas Anglican Church Women are sponsor- ing a meeting where Ms. Shirley Vanek, a Rural Organizations Specialist (Home Economist) will be the guest speaker. Her subject will be "How to make a bazaar or fund raising event a success." This meeting will be held on Thursday September 6 at 8 p.m. in the church hall. Everyone welcome. Personals Congratulations to Mr. and Mrs. Warren Gregory (War- ren and Daisy) who celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on Sunday after- noon with an open reception held in the St. Marys United Church parlor. Warren and Daisy were former Granton residents. Church news At the Granton United Church the Rev. Bruce Pierce was in charge of the Sunday morning worship and entitled his message "When you have been wronged." Whatever may go wrong in our lives, Jesus will not for- sake us. There are lessons to be learned, just because you have been wronged, the world will not stop. Learn from ad- vice from others who have ex- perienced the same situation, don't give up, refuse to be defeated by the wrong done to you. Seek God's comfort, He will comfort and encourage you, said the Minister. There are three things to remember (1) Forgiveness, (2) Attitude, (3) Innate Integrity. A vocal solo by Mrs. Elwyn Bryan (organist) "I Stood at Calvary" was enjoyed. Joan Cunningham hosted a barbecue dinner Friday for 15 residents of Craigholme in- cluding Wilfred Cunningham, Mary Carter and Cecil Morgan. Many attended the "buck and doe" party for Dave Walzak and Joanne Cunn- ingham, Saturday night at the Shillelagh who will be mar- ried at St. James Church, September 8. Decoration service will be held September 2 at St. James Cemetery. Our sympathy is extended to Jean and the Hodgins fami- ly for the loss of Art, a valuable well -liked citizen. A delicious lunch was served by the Clandeboye United Church ladies following the funeral, Saturday. Our sympathy is also with the Edginton family for the loss of Mark who died from his motorcycle accident injuries. The Exeter Times -Advocate now carries a full Zine of Art Supplies * Acrylic and oil paints * Acrylic and oil brushes * Tempera powder * Artist pads * Tracing paper and tracing rolls * Calligraphy supplies * Turpentine, * Damar varnish and spray varnish * Acrylic medium and spray Come in-,nd see what we (have We can special order more stock Times - dvocate 04 ,XV;4 424 Main St. PH: 235-1331 Lorne Bender, acting as MC reminisced about times past and present. Shirley Hodgson, who is Director of Nursing Home commented on the changes now and how you're never through with the paperwork. A Gospel trio and Unity from London consisting of Betty Mitchell, Mary Testolin and Perci Kennedy with Eunice Nanton on piano end- ed the evening by singing four numbers. Farewells were said and a good time was had by all. Congratulations to Mrs. Ida Bice, Craigholme, who will be 93, Friday. The "Heritage Old Timers" Monday, September 17 from supplied toe -tapping music 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. in the for the Craigholme residents' Masonic hall, Main street, birthday party last Wednes- Ailsa Craig On display will be day evening followed by more Community History books, good music on Thursday current event books and afternoon provided by Marg antiques. and Leroy Walker. All The Tweedsmuir History reported two enjoyable committee will be looking for programs. you to browse through the in - Riverview Women's In- teresting history books. Won't stitute meeting will be you join us'? September 5 at '8 p.m. Congratulations to Dave ( Wednesday) when Jo -Anne Gillies, Lyle McLeod and Jim Pickering, public health Tweddle, with their Ailsa nurse, will be guest speaker. Craig Turtle Race float which Visitors are welcome. won second prize at Lucan Riverview Women's In- Fair as an humorous float. stitute are holding a Bicenten- Fifty other floats were in the nial Tweedsmuir History Tea, competition. TOWNSHIP OF STEPHEN THE PLANNING ACT NOTICE OF THE PASSING OF A ZONING BY-LAW BY THE CORPORATION OF THE TOWNSHIP OF STEPHEN TAKE NOTICE that the Council of the Corporation of the Township of Stephen has passed the following By-laws: By-law 35 of 1984 By-law 36 of 1984 By-law 37 of 1984 By-law 38 of 1984 on the 14th day of August, 1984 under Section 34 of The Planning Act, 1983. And take notice that any person or agency may appeal to the Ontario Municipal Board in respect of any of these by-laws by filing with the Clerk of the Township of Stephen, not later than the 19th day of September, 1984, a notice of appeal setting out the objection to the by-law and the reasons in support of the objection. An explanation of the purpose and effect of the by-laws describing the lands to which each applies, and a Key Map showing the location of the lands to which the by-laws apply is provided below. The complete by-laws are available for inspection at my office during regular office hours. DATED at the Township of Stephen this 14th day of August, 1984. Mr. Wilmot- Wein Clerk -Treasurer Township of Stephen Box 100 CREDITON, Ontario NOM IMO 519-234-6331 The explanation and purpose of these by -lows ore to provide for certain amendments to Stephen Township Zoning By-law 12 of 1984, which regulates the use of lands and the character, location, and use of buildings and structures, in various defined areas of the Township of Stephen. The by-law amendments included withinBy-laws 35, 36, 37and 38 refine By- law 12 of 1984 and continue to implement the Township of Stephen Secon- dary Plan. A summary of the content of these by-laws are as follows. By-law 35 of 1984 amends By-law 12 of 1984 replacing the definitions of motel, recreational residence, road, and sewage disposal facility with the following modified definitions: 2.100. Motel means a separate building or two or more connected or detached buildings designed and used for the purpose of catering to the needs of the travelling public by furnishing sleeping accom- modation with or without supplying food and/or other refreshments, and without limiting the generality of the foregoing shall include a motor court and auto court within the meaning of the Tourist Establishment Act. 2.135. Recreational Residence means a single family detached dwelling used for residential purposes during all seasons including recrea- tional purposes but which is not supplied with the full complement of municipal services. 2.141. Road, Street or Highway(Public)means a rood which has been assum- ed by the Ministry of Transportation and Communications, the Coun- ty of Huron or the Township of Stephen and shall mean such public highway, street or road as affords the main means of access to any lots abutting thereon and for the purpose of the zone provisions or regulations shall include any public roads or any privately own- ed roads shown within a registered plan of subdivision. 2.149. Sewage Disposal Facilities shall mean a system of underground pipes or conduits and related pumping and treatment appurtenances operated by the Township of Stephen and/or the Ontario Ministry of the Environment for public use for the treatment and disposal of storm and/or sanitary sewage and also includes a septic tank and tile bed disposal area. By-law 36 of 1984 amends By -low 12 of 1984 restricting the permitted structures on those lands zoned Natural Environment and located to the west of Highway 21 to the following: 1) accessory buildings and structures for trails and footpaths, such as stiles , stairways, bridges and benches; 2) buildings and structures necessary for flood and/or erosion control or prevention; 3) buildings and structures accessory to the permitted uses. By-law 37 of 1984 amends By-law 12 of 1984 limiting the permiited uses within an area zoned Recreational Residential (RC1) to the following: 1) conservation 2) forestry uses 3) recreation, passive 4) private park 5) recreational residence 6) uses accessory to the permitted uses, including o guest cabin. By-law 38 of 1984 amends By-law 12 of 1984 adding the following general provision: 3.12.3. No parking lot area shall be located on a septic tank and tile bed disposal area. 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