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Peer mentoring helping teens through
the difficulties of growing up
By Amy Neilands
Special to the T -A
EXETER - High school can be a
difficult transition for young ad-
olescents. Some often feel frustrat-
ed and isolated, but there is some-
one there who will listen and care.
The Peer Mentoring program at
South Huron District High School
is in its third year of helping grades
7, 8, and 9 students through this
transition.
Peer Mentoring evolved from the
START Program, a stay in school
enrichment program. Peer mentors
are chosen from grade 10 or 11 stu-
dents and are paired up with a stu-
dent in grades 7, 8, or 9. Ele-
mentary school teachers choose a
student who they think may need a
little extra help or support and pair
them with a mentor from the high
school. Some of the mentors are
also trained to deal with people
who have been sexually assaulted.
"It's y,pputh serving youth," said
Val t hhlson Jansen, START Pro-
gram co-ordinator who has a back-
ground in social work. "They'd
sooner talk to their peers."
"We're here to listen to their
problems," said Michelle Du-
charme, student coordinator of peer
mentoring. "We don't give advice,
we let them talk and search for the
answers themselves." Ducharme, a
grade 12 student, has been a peer
mentor since the program began.
The mentors have been through the
pressures of trying to fit in both ac-
ademically and socially so they
know what the mentees are going
through and can help them by their
experiences, said Millson Jansen.
At South Huron there are about
35 mentors and about two-thirds of
them are paired up. Peer Mentors
are chosen by the educators in the
school and are recommended to
Millson Jansen who has them fill
out a sheet and interviews them.
This year she interviewed 55 stu-
dents for 10 peer mentoring posi-
tions at South Huron.
The program has received a lot of
support from the school and from
community agencies, she said.
4' Betty Jenke is the staff contact
for the program. "It is a self-
sufficient organized group," the
South Huron guidance counsellor
said. She helps coordinate the pro-
gram in the school.
Peer Mentoring is active in all five
Huron County high schools. Mill -
son Jansen is the board office co- '
ordinator of the program.
"For the first year they watch the
other mentors." Then they expand
out into the school.
Ducharme had to formally end
her partnership in her first year as a
mentor.
"I was too committed to other
things. I was trying to find my pri-
orities and later realized that peer
mentoring was one."
Peer Mentoring was related to
what she wants to do once she fin-
ishes high school.
"I want to go into social work."
When the mentor is paired up they
get together with their mentee once
or twice a month, depending on
their individual schedules. Group
activities have also been organized
such as toboganning, pot -luck din-
ners, games, and they are sched-
uling a self-defense course for the
near future.
The program focuses on "how we
can make them feel more comfort-
able?" and on the needs and feel-
ings of the young adolescents.
"It provides a sense of com-
munity in the school," said Million
Jansen.
The Peer Mentoring program has
proved successful for both mentors
and mentees. 1t has broken down
the barrier between grade 9 stu-
dents and senior students.
"There's no difference between
us," said Ducharme. "We're all
coming together."
"I have a helpful friend," said
Matt Wurm of his mentor Teresa
Petch, a grade 12 student.
Wurm became Petch's partner
when he was in grade 8, when the
program began. It also made start-
ing high school much easier for the
grade 10 student. "1 knew more
people."
About hanging out with younger
students Petch said, "Their fun, 1
like being around them."
The pair get together outside of
the program as well.
"We go to parties together," said
Petch. "My friends love him. When
we go out they ask 'h Matt com-
ing7"
The mentoring program is more
than just helping the mentee. It's a
partnership where they share each
others problems.
"We're here for each other," said
Petch.
The hardest part of being paired
up is developing the relationship.
"Matt was quiet at first," said
Petch. "It takes time."
"Building trust is the important
thing," said Jeff Bowen, a grade 12
mentor. His partner is a grade 8 stu-
dent' who meets with Bowen a
couple times a month. In the be-
ginning they worked at earning that
trust.
Mentors can also help academ-
ically. Bowen's partner was doing a
science fair project and asked for
his help. They worked on it for a
couple of days and in the end he re-
ceived an honorable mention.
"Being a mentor takes a lot of
commitment and patience," said
Bowen. "But if something goes
right, you're flying for a week af-
terwards."
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