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HomeMy WebLinkAboutTimes Advocate, 1992-08-05, Page 4• _— — Thoaa- 9 kvooate, Atioupt 5, 1992 Publisher: Jim Beckett Nwtra ham Adnan Harte Don smith Ceengstasetion 1llanite= Deb Lord eCiA iN ba anions M.tm Nliktestion Number oaee WNW 40 nem fes au.) otliswad to non loner sorb, s.arwws MAO piss 0210 GUM Ootoide 40 ndlos'(061on.) or any totter.artbr atldr000 090.00 plus $91.86 (ts l 11.211) + $.119 GALT. Out*, crust. $I6.00 • Opini�n 1,--ALL71": 1 T 11)1'I)I 1 1,1 "Men are never so likely to settle a question rightly as when they discuss it freely." ... Thomas Macauley Exeter, Orrt.rN 110MM 1114 L W. Teispho n 1 at424MonIle., IrAM.d s LN. •2.. r1t105t10g11 Images of family life he largest child-care. study in Canadian history has found a simple, sobering fact that in the long run, could have more impact on Canadian life than the free trade agreement or Eric Lindros. "Established images of family life no longer match reality," a StatsCan report says. A declining birth rate, rising divorce rate, and increasing numbers of moth- ers with small children in the work- place are combining to rearrange the physiognomy of Canadian life. Here are some startling statistics: • More than half of all families with children under five had both parents working or were single -parent opera- tions; • Two-thirds of all parents hold full- time jobs while 43 percent of single parents worked full or part time; • 55 percent of families with children under six needed some form of child care for parents to keep working. Child care is the buzz phrase of the 1990s, it seems. This is a troubling. picture of Canadi- an society. r' It has been evident for years that sin - 41e -income .families with father out slaying dragons and mother keeping the home hearth burning is as much a part of the past as chrome fins on Cadillacs and five -cent cigars; but the numbers show things to be much more advanced than anyone might have thought. If indeed, half of all the toddlers around today are being raised by people other than their parents, what will be- come of them? Children do not bond to day care cen- tres or to the professional mothers and professional friends looking after them. Children bond to their families. The power of the family to imbue its constituents with conscience, respect, love and social membership is the bind- ing energy of our civilization. What will happen to a society when millions of children raised with no alle- giance to anything but themselves, hav- ing been shown by their parents that per- sonal gratification is all that matters, suddenly find themselves free of the in- stitutional constraints that have held them in bondage? It is true that many familes need two incomes to survive now. It, is true that most single parents are faced with real hardship and have little choice about how their children are raised. The problem is not theirs alone. We will a1I be dealing with generations of unrepentant egotists unless the trend to institutionalizing our children is re- versed. from the St. Marys Journal -Argus The new millenium? I'm in no hurry I was having some difficulty coming to grips with the fact that in less than 8 years well have not just a -new century, but a new millenium. So I sat down the other day, making a little projection. Not on world affairs -= I'll leave that to the govdmment soothsayers and their crystal balls. But on our own family. Where might everybody be? What might they be doing? And what will it all mean to us? Now if you're a pensioner, say in your late sixties, predicting your future is no big deal. Chances are that in 2002 you'll still be collecting your pension, comfortably pegged to inflation. You'll be ten years wiser, with a few more wrinkles perhaps, but your circumstances will be more or less the same. What about ours, though? Here we arc in 1992 with 13 - year old Alex who is taller than his Mom but not yet as tall as his Dad. And then there are Duncan and Stephanie, 10 year- old twins - no trouble whatsoev- er. Duncan still wants me to pick him up and twirl him around in the air. And Stephanie still wants me to tuck her in at night and sing her a lullaby. Chances are that in 2002, Alex (23 and six foot one) will be liv- ing hundreds of miles away. hopefully not missing too many classes and Rnntically working on his Master's. When he tuns out of funds (again), we nht sec him smiling on the video- phone. Well transfer a oeuple=of thousand ,dollars via :modern, hoping that 1heyl1 last weak er So. At VIu(iinas come home in his solar -powered turbo -car and introduce his lat- est girlfriend. Duncan- (almost 21, six .foot two) might be studying in one Peter's Point • Peter Hessel city, Stephanie (almost 21, five foot ten) in another. They'll be in constant touch with us and with each other via whatever tel- ecommunication links the elec- tronics magicians will have con- jured up. We'll see them regularly on the phone and on our compu-vision screens, but their rooms, the colourfully clut- tered rooms of their childhood will stand empty most of the year. At least they won't gather dust - thanks to the automatic sensor -controlled central vaou- all system well probably have. You think I'm dreaming? Well, I believe that in my wild- est dreams I cannot imagine some of the changes that will overwhelm us between now and 2002. 0 you don't believe me, just travel back 10 years instead of ,fotnvatd. An 1982 I was hammer - .ins ,away curt .an fOlbt *Ilan* typewriter - now a maw piece.. V00Ple,nweee .11M i 1osm m.1D•aahObetrLtmlp0t- ber these?). rifles lad as - tales *how a1W1t Aoalokil shorthand, and clerks who were adding long lines of figures with adding machines. Barbecues meant .dumping ,charcoals into, a bin and lighting them with a Metal loop that got red-hot. Cars needed snow fires in the winter. And a hundred dollars was still a lot of money. In 2002 we won't have to coax the kids to mow the lawn or to rake the leaves. Our kids - our adult kids - will be far away. If we want lawn, we'll have to do it ourselves or hire "consultants". Yes, everybody will be consult- ing. There will be sanitary instal- lation consultants (formerly plumbers), health care consul- tants (formerly doctors and nurs- es) and fiscal consultants (for- merly bankers and accountants). There'll be no more services, just information. Mostly digital. Loads and loads of it. We'll just have to leam how to use it. So in summary, I see Elizabeth communicating at her work sta- tion, and me transmitting and re- ceiving data at mine. Maybe oc- casionally, on some cold winter evening, we might decide to tum the clock back. To the early nineties. Light a wood fere may- be. Or heat up a bowl of soup in the old fashioned microwave. Mead a book even. Or write the children letters by hand. Yes, that would be very extravagant. Because it'll cost ,a bundle to send actual letters via .a tramcar- Ultion consultant. Mali, of confuse, will be a thing of the Pon Came ao thunk ,of it, i,m lrt ao AlmAmy you? io Mach NO2. What ,obu BRIAN MULRONEY IN HONEY, 1 SCREWED UP THE COUNTRY Camping, oh yes Oh yes, camping. The thrill of having mosqui- toes eat at you, the smell of smoke which will soon be stuck to your clothing. Camping isn't something I do often, in fact I can count on three fingers how many times I've done it in the past five years. The most recent was this Civic Holiday weekend when my wife Mary Ellen, my dog Simon . and myself joined the Exeter Imperials at the Elimi- nationsin.Owtrt Sound. Ever try to get two adults and a 70 pound black lab into a three-man tent? Normally I would have enjoyed the ro- mantic atmosphere created for my spouse and I, but the dog innterupted. 11 you ever think about tak- ing a dog into the great out- doors, think again. Harrison Park in Owen Sound was the site of a dog show, and they were everywhere. Big ones, small ones and some who wouldn't keep their yaps shut. Even if there hadn't been a Illby Fred Groves On the Road show there, it still would have .been tough for Simon. Simply because it was a new experi- ence for him and to tell you the truth, I don't think he enjoyed it. When you camp, expect the unexpected; especially rain. My faithful dog sat in the car and watched it rain, and rain and rain. He didn't enjoy being kept in the car and I didn't like the idea of my pal being con- tained and forced to do nothing else but sleep. But like I say this was an ex- periment and Simon did learn a few things. Like never get too close to a pen with geese and if you are going to jump in the creek, watch out for duck crap. Oh yes, camping. Listening to children scream and yell at 6 a.m., many of them punishing their parents who went to bed a couple of hours earlier. Camping is togetherness, es- pecially when it comes to shar- ing a washroom with total strangers. Camping is sharing can openers, firewood and food. But camping, believe it or not, is fun. Togethemess and close- ness and getting to know each other a little better. Where else can you go, get down and sleep on the ground for S16 and not worry about getting dirty? Camping, oh yes, you've got to like it. Opc,r, t'.ctt(:' tc, WIPP Keep ambulance service private Dear Paul: I am writing in 'espouse to a "united", (a •rare occurrence in Canada these days) oosamumica- tion artick in the village of Zu- rich's July 22, 1992 Lakeshore Ad- vance newspaper. By 'united' I we t to brinicle wto as youratieatian that thHoff- man's Dashwood- cas' Seafocth sad Qisaoa Aatitu- Iance, Zurich AmbaiMuoe, Fi 'wt's North Middlesex Alainjw0e aad wraith's Lucas Aas alwoe,nirvic- es. If goverament's e1 estive is to decrease wa spride. >wripe out worker's ,4y industry wily! 0141116 WOWS see bodld in entrepreneurs mod take away trout sine pyment of ec, a manually encournSiell .of ther bertha* more taus d fres of resentment, then by all weans eliminate this group of ex- ceptional !sumac beings and take over Canada's ambulance service industry. This move will only mamathe sake over of Canada's postal service. cows postal workers we an obviously. rve spur a liaison with trans. My snail is aoiaditeciod Or damn �ty>ft►Lln about the etrt- y whoa yea drop mil in die box ga�K C111-.j�r l ;#tgdC #w,t]Y torr 4411". !rd a asii6Dut 1Qige Itauch They don't sit around and gripe and they always have a bandaid for anyone who needs it. They are quick to respond to a call, the am- bulance is in 1mmaculase condi- tion, the equipment is state-of-the- art and the attendants are constant- ly upgrading their skills. Is the government going to millions to ensure these stards are kept up? How can we afford it? You don't Deed to "research the recommendations" after -the -fact. lust poll Canadians, thaey'll give you ea the s� nmbulanr user is �b1��at�c� services as it is. Leave workers' pride where it belongs: It goon a lot further than government g I would appreciate it if you would pass these and an other volts along to those pots.. tn- Siocerely frustrated and totally exasperated. y Lyn