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Home My WebLink AboutTimes-Advocate, 1988-04-20, Page 151 Page 14 Times -Advocate, April 20, 1988 'Positive Parenting' course at Exeter United Church Philosopher -prophet Kahlil Gi- bran took dead aim at parents when he said "You arc the bows from which your children as arrows are sent forth". Many parents worry that because of their unpracticed hand or unskilled aim their off- spring may land far from the bull- seye, or miss the target altogether. Parenting is one of the most im- portant - and most difficult - of all jobs, as well as one offering little pretraining. Fathers and mothers. usually learn by trial and error how to be good parents. For those who would like to have some questions answered, Ex- eter United Church is hosting a one -day workshop on positive pa- renting on Saturday, April 23 at the church. The focus will be on positive discipline in the morning session. The central question will be "Is it really possible to gain responsible, cooperative behaviour without spanking, criticizing or excessive grounding?" PARENTING - Barbara Burrows, who will be leading the Positive Parent- ing one -day workshop at the Exeter UC on April 23, displays a copy of the newsletter for parents she publishes five times a year. COOKING F O R A HEALTHY HEART 10 AMI ASA Silk"( Iia NU 1 CM (y4 IA&Q Do you love good food, but want to know more about how to eat to stay healthy? Learn to prepare meals that - are exciting and delicious and 1 in fat, salt and calo t... COOKI FOR A HEALTHY HEART Clinton's course will be held Monday, April 25th, 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. at Huronview Auditorium. Exeter's course will be held Wednesday, April 27th, 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. at South Huron District High School, Room 224. FOR MORE INFORMATION PLEASE CALL Huron County Health Unit 524-8301 This ad has been sponsored by: Huron County Health Unit. FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE - Mr. and Mrs. Donald Ross and Mr. and Mrs. W;;Iiam Coleman are pleased to announce the forthcom- ing marriage of their children Carol Lisa and John Thomas, on Satur- day, April 23, 1988 at Mount Carmel Church and open reception to fol- low in Exeter. BED • BATH • WALLPAPER • LINENS • GIFTS Old Village Paint Stulb Old. Village paint craftsmen create the authentic colours of Colonial, Federal, and Victorian periods for your use inside and out. They are fun to use, classic and can be used in endless combinations. Old Village authen- ticity costs more at first but less in the long run because no second coat is normally needed.' An easy to apply oil base, low sheen, velvet finish. • k f.r . •I• Vill.. • P -in •I• r h. Pints and quarts, currently in stock. Gallons quickly obtained by special order. Main St., Exeter CaII: 235-2957 4 Parent-child conflict will be ex- plored in the afternoon. Ways of building self-esteem for everyone in the family will be presented, based on the precept that nobody has the right to take out anger and frustrations on others in the fami- ly. The one -day course is an out- growth of the church's "Time Out" program. Staff associate Bev Ro- binson found that mothers dis- cussed many parenting -related is- sues as they met for two hours each Friday morning. Typical sub- jects that came up were wondering if certain actions were normal to a specific age, how to maintain a child's sense of self-worth while ap- plying discipline, and what behavi- our to expect as a child progressed through various stages. The workshop will be led by Bar- bara Burrows, founder and director of Positive Parenting based in Bur- lington. (Burrows and Robinson have been friends since the days both were counsellors at summer camp.) Burrows, who is trained in sociology and psychology, has been leading parent groups for six years. She is also a consultant with Fami- ly Services in Halton County, and publishes and distributes 5,000 cop- ies of a. Parent -to -Parent newsletter five times a year. Respect is at the heart of positive discipline, according to Burrows. "Every one of us, regardless of age, responds best when treated with respect", she maintains. The course is suited to parents of children of all ages, as "respect is a principle for all age groups". Some children need a gentle ap- proach, and others need boundaries; the essence of parenting is to un- derstand the needs of both child and parent in order to decide how a cer- tain situation would best be re- solved. Continuation of the wrong disciplinary method can turn an ad- venturous 20 -month-old into a re- bellious, out -of -control four-year- old, while recognizing a child's hid- den needs and extending him respect may be the answer to power strug- gles and temper tantrums. Parents frequently misunderstand what is motivating their -child's be- haviour. When the option chosen is ineffective, parents become frus- trated and discouraged, and their ac- tions and their children's reactions become cyclical. Elaborating on the afternoon ses- sion, Burrows stated that all fami lies have conflicts. Hostile feelings are normal. Inability to control them, or acting them out, is not normal. Burrows hopes the day will ex- pose parents to new ideas, food for thought. She trusts they will leave with new insight, enthused and motivated to make improvements in their situations. Just discovering that others have similar problems, that you are not alone, is reassuring. Even more re- assuring is discovering that profes- sionals like Burrows (who has three children of her own) are there to en- courage and help. The cost of the course is $15 per person for the full day, and $10 for either the morning or afternoon workshop. The comparable charge for couples is $25 and S15. Preregistration by April 21 is re- quired. Cheque and registration should be sent to: Positive Parenting Exeter United Church Box 561 Exeter, Ont. NOM 1S0 Those who intend to stay all day should bring a bag lunch. Beverag- es will be provided. CAPITAL GAINS If you have a capital gain or Toss to report on your income tax return this year, bring your return to H&R Block. Our specially trained tax return preparers can save you time and money. So this year let the specialists at H&R Block help you get the biggest refund you have coming or pay the low- est legitimate tax. Ask about our guarantee. H&R BLACK THE INCOME TAX%SPECIALISTS 383 Main St., Rear, Exeter 235-1153 NEW HOURS Monday to Wednesday 10:00 - 6:00 Thursday & Friday 10:00- 8:00 Saturday 10:00 - 3:00 Off our regular prices on our excellent selection of Spring and Summer Merchandise for your family RA Rp' R e. FASHION FAMILY CLOTHING err EXETER MAIN ST., 235•2162 4