Times-Advocate, 1981-07-29, Page 7.10
ENGAGED -- Mr. and Mrs. William Baechlar of Ex-
eter are pleased to announce the engagement of
their daughter, Elaine Marie to Mr. Ron E. Couch son
of Mr. and Mrs. Wesley Couch of Dorchester. The
wedding will take place on Saturday August 15,
1981. 2:30 p.m. at Exeter United Church.
FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE — Rose Marie Tottenham and
John Victor Webster are pleased to announce the engage-
ment and wedding plans. The wedding will take place at 3
p.m. on September 12, at Exeter United Church. Open recep-
tion in the evening. Rose is the eldest daughter of Mr. and
Mrs. Herbert Philcox of Merritt, B.C. and John is a long-time
resident of Exeter.
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a fuller. richer life; no
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or scars: the beauty you had
at sixteen (or wish you had
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will pander your wildest
dream. and your money can
follow your judgement down
the drain."
The best approach to com-
plexion treatments is to be
as reatigtie as yoy can about
what will be accomplished.
Know the total price, check
the beautician's reputation,
and get as much information
as possible before you put
your money down.
While there are many
legitimate services catering
to a woman's desire to re-
main attractive. Lynne Gor-
don argues there are many
more which promise un-
realistic results. The best
way to avoid serious disap-
pointment. she reiterates, is
by teaching yourself to be a
careful and well-informed
consumer.
Based on "The Con-
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to Beating Inflation, Ex-
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Commercial Rip-offs" by
Lynne Gordon. Published by
McClelland and Steward,
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Pamphlets provide bag of tricks
Now there's help in' parenting
It's 4 a.ni. and your two-
month -old has been crying,
non-stop. since 3 a.m. She s
not wet. you've checked.
You've just fed her so you
know she's not hungry. With
the frustration and sense of
helplessness comes the cer-
tainty that you're a failure
as a mother. Why can't you
understand your daughter's
needs'' Isn't that something
a good mother knows in-
stinctively?
Today you and your two-
year-old went shopping at
the local shopping mall. The
problem came when it was
time to go home and your
son refused to get into the
car. In fact. he threw a fling -
himself -on -the -ground -and -
kick -and -scream tantrum.
right out in the parking lot.
Redfaced and conscious of
the (you were sure) disap-
proving stares of the other
mothers you ended up losing
your temper and wrestling
him. still kicking, into the
car. The Whole incident left
you feeling upset and
remorseful. What about all
your resolutions to be a
patient and laving parent?
Being a parent, particular-
ly a first-time parent, can be
a bewildering experience.
You want to do the right
thing by your child but
sometimes you're just not
certain what that is.
Now there's help for
parents. from the Ministry
of Community and Social
Services. The help is
available through a series of
13 pamphlets on positive
parenting that deal with just
such typical situations and
worries that parents face
every day.
Produced by the Ministry
in conjunction with the
Dellcrest Children's Centre
in Toronto, the series was
completed this year with the
publication of the latest four
titles: "For Men Only - The
role of the father"; "Flow
Do They Grow - What does
child development mean?";
and "What About Me? -
Parents need time off too."
Other subjects dealt with
in the series range from
toilet training and night
wakings. to discipline and
encouraging independence.
Since the first nine titles
were published in 1977,
response to the series has
been much more than we an-
ticipated. says birector of
Dellcrest's Training and
Prevention Program,
Psychologist Dr. _Donna
Shoom-Kirsch who has been
a key figure in the develop-
ment of the positive paren-
ting series.
More than 5 million of the
pamphlets have been printed
and almost as many dis-
tributed to parents and other
interested individuals across
the province.
Why such an overwhelms
ing response? Dr. Shoony.
Kirsch attributes it to tlta,
growing realization that`
parenting is not necessarily
a skill that just 'comes
"naturally". Learning to be
a parent is no different than
learning any other new skill,
maintains Dr. Shoom-
Kirsch. herself a mother of
four except the conse-
quences can be more
serious. All parents, even
good ones. need advice, in-
formation and some basic
reassurane.
The purpose of the series,
she sums up, is to "take
some of the trial and error
out of parenting".
The various subjects dealt -
with in the pamphlets grew
--largely out of discussions
Dellcrest staff had with par-
ticipants attending parent
education programs
operated by Dellcrest in
cooperation with the Con-
tinuing Education Depart-
ment of the North York
Board of Education. For ex-
ample. one of the largest
worries new parents face,
staff found, was the problem
of night wakings, and that
became the subject of one of
the first pamphlets in the
series called "Will I Ever
Sleep Again?"
The pamphlet reassures
parents that young babies
often do have periods of
fretting and trying that
can't be explained by the
usual reasons.
Says Dr. Shoom-Kirsch,
it's often very difficult for a
new mother to knout .what a
child's crying means. She
feels like a failure because
she thinks she can't unders-
tand her own child. One of
the pamphlets is to help
mothers feel less guilty by
reassuring them that
"you're not alone".
Another area of real con-
cern for parents is the whole
thorny issue of dis-
cipline...and this is dealt
with in several pamphlets,
primarily in a pamphlet call-
ed "Discipline What? When?
Hcw Much?" and latest
pamphlets "HoW Do They
Grow?"
Low income group
high health problem
A report on the findings of
a special federal govern-
ment survey concerning the
health gf,`,Ganadians in-
dicates thjt lower-income
groups have a significantly
higher proportion of health
problems.
The report. called Canada
Health Survey, has been
released by Health and
Welfare Minister Monique
Begin and Jean -Jacques
Blais. Minister responsible
for Statistics Canada.
Carried out between July
1978 and March 1979, the sur-
vey is based on information
collected from 31,000 per-
sons across the country. It
shows that lower-income
groups suffer higher propor-
tions of mental disorders,
heart disease. emphysema
and bronchitis.
The health survey was
designed to generate the
data necessary to determine
the health status of
Canadians. to identify pop-
ulations exposed to risks of
future illness and to evaluate
the impact of illness as it
relates to the individual and
the health care systems. It
deals with such topics as
alcohol and tobacco use,
physical activity versus
fitness. seatbelt use, im-
mune status, health
problems versus disability.
emotional health, blood
pressure. blood
boichemistry, health ser-
vices and medication.
Some of the highlights of
the report show that:
-Canadians are sick an
average of 15.7 days per
year: females and the elder-
ly contribute dispropor-
tionately to this average.
-Heart disease. mental
disorders, bronchitis and
emphysema are more com-
mon among lower income
groups.
-People with higher in-
comes are more likely to
consult a health professional
on a routine basis.
-Twelve percent of
Canadians suffer from long
term disability.
-Sixty percent of
automobile drivers and
passengers wear seatbelts
all or most of the time in
provinces with seatbelt
legislation — only 16 percent
wear seatbelts where there
is no legislation.
-Half the population uses
some medication (medicine,
pills or ointments including
birth control pills and
vitamins) in any given two-
day period. ,
-Health risk exposure
caused by smoking and
drinking is higher for males;
heavy smokers tend to be
heavy drinkers.
-Physically active persons
experience on an average
better emotional health and
lower blood pressure than
sedentary people.
Miss Begin stressed that
the t'eport is a major step to
fill in the many gaps which
exist in the total health pic-
ture of Canadians and will be
useful in planning, develop-
ing and implementing
preventive measures in the
health field.
It takes a class reunion to
convince a man that most
people his own age are a lot
older than he is.
MR.,AND MRS. GERALD WILFRED WEIDO
Janet Gciil Kerslake and Gerald Wilfred Weido were united in
marriage on June 20 at the Elimville United Church by Rev.
Stanley McDonald and Pastor Ross Hargreaves. The bride is
the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Elwyn Kerslake, RR 1
Woodham, and Mr. and Mrs. Glenn Weido, RR 1 Zurich are
parents of the groom. Karen Snow was matron of honour for
her sister,'and bridesmaids were Shirley Zanbergen, Hensall,
Catherine Weida, Zurich, and Brenda Barham, Brampton.
Michelle Snow was flowergirl and Christopher" Weida was
ringbearer. The best man was Patrick Bedard, and guests
were ushered by Paul Kerslake, Ray Weido, and Steven
Kerslake. After a wedding trip to Niagara Falls and Northern
Ontario, the couple will be residing at 273 Huron Street, Ex-
eter. Photo by Jack Doerr
ENGAGED - Mr. and Mrs. Percy Bedard, Zurich, are pleas-
ed to announce the forthcoming marriage of their daughter,
Julianne Veronica to Mr. Martin Paul Becker, son of Mr. and
Mrs. Valentine Becker, Dashwood. The wedding will take
place Soturdoy, August 8 at 3 o'clock, St. Boniface Church,
Zurich. Open reception to follow. Everyone welcome.
Photo by John S. Dobbs
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CELEBRATE ANNIVERSARY -- Mr. and Mrs. Gordon
Heywood celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary July 20,
1981. The couple was honoured by a family dinner at the
home of son lriverne Heywood followed by a family gather-
ing at their home in Exeter. They have six sons Dolton,
Dorchester- Eldon, Laverne and Raymond all of Exeter; Jock,
London and B ^v, Windsor and 29 grandchildren and 51 great
grandchildren Photo by Reg McDonald
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Here again. Dr. Shoom-
Kirsch emphasizes, the un-
derlying message to parents
is. first of all. discipline is a
necessary part of the child -
parent relationship. And
secondly. that all children
misbehave occasionally. So
don't worry needlessly about
unacceptable behaviour. It
is the frequency of these oc-
currences parents should
consider.
"You frequently run into
the problem as a parent
when you think your child is
doing something no other
child is doing. For example.
it's normal for a 2 -year-old
child to have a tantrum. It's
important for parents to
know all children go through
it."
If a child has a tantrum in
a public place. therefore. the
pamphlet on child develop-
ment advises parents not to
get upset or change their
plans to avoid embarass-
ment but instead to be con-
sistent and react the same
way they would react if they
were at home.
"Essentially child rais-
ing is having a hag of tricks
to draw upon" says Dr.
Shoom-Kirsch. "In the
pamphlets we're not giving
the message that there is
one and only one solution for
each situation but that there
are a variety of things to try.
Choose the one that fits the
best." And don't be dis-
couraged if you have to try
more than one before you
get the right fit. she adds.
Interested parents and
other individuals can order a
set of 13 pamphlets by
writing to: Communications
Branch. Ministry of Com-
munity and Social Services,
Hepburn Block. 7th Floor,
Queen's Park. Toronto, On-
tairo. M7A 1E9. Telephone
(416 ) 965-7825.
Additional sets can be
ordered through the Ontario
Government Bookstore, at
880 Bay St.. Toronto, at a
cost of 10 cents a set.
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Lloyd and Dorothy
Reynolds were at Welland
last week where they attend-
ed the funerals of Dorothy's
sister Violet and her father
Henry Stuart.
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