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HomeMy WebLinkAboutHuron Expositor, 2001-06-13, Page 5News People can't tell enough stories to help with grieving, says counsellor By Scott HNgendorff Expositor Editor People can't tell enough stories when it comes to healing after someone has died, says Gabe Delbianco, a Huron County -based counsellor. "Telling a story can help keep you from being sad" said Delbianco to about 20 caregivers at Seaforth Manor where he spoke June 7. "We don't tell enough stories anymore. Stories are about memories," he said. Those stories help people Lind a new way to rejoice in a person's life. "Memories remain forever real," he said. "It's 'goodbye' to the way things were and 'hello' to the way we remember it." He brought a small branch with maple leaves on it, taken from a tree at his Auburn home, to illustrate his point. The moment he removed the branch from the tree, he said the leaves began to die. "Tomorrow morning, they will just be a semblance of what they were," he said, adding someone seeing the shriveled up leaves would ask why he wouldn't just 'throw them away. But even by discarding them, he said the memories of the leaves cannot be taken away. He can remember how the leaves on the tree smelled in the spring time, how brightly coloured they were in the fall and how they shaded his nieces as they played under it in the summer. He used the death of his own father as an example and, even as a counselor, said he hated the dying process. At the age of 74, his father used to brag that he still had more strength than Delbianco, at 43. But as he was dying in a hospital, his father's arms were weak and he needed help to do anything. His father asked Delbianco to help him shave and, while being nervous and uncomfortable, Delbianco discovered something important through the process. When he finished, his father smiled and Delbianco said, "There was the dignity." While the act didn't give his father the ability to walk on his own again, it gave him the understanding that his father still mattered. "I just touched the core of a man who said, 'Please, give me dignity,"' Delbianco said. At his father's wake, Delbianco asked the priest to let him speak. He said the room was overflowing with family and friends and Delbianco wanted them to remember who his father was. "He was cantankerous, stubborn and always right," said Delbianco, surprising some of the people with what he said. But his father's door was always open and when someone arrived, it was like Gabe Oelbtanco he had been waiting eagerly for them all day, getting out food and turning a visit into a celebration. "A short moment became a half-hour of sharing- stories," said Delbianco. Everyone, including his nieces had stories to tell. "That's the joy in the ache of autumn," said Delbianco. He refers to the pain people feel when someone dies as "the ache of autumn;" the feeling people sometimes get when the weather starts to turn cold and they begin to yearn for the warm weather in anticipation of the harsher winter weather to come. He said it can be easy to miss the stories about what County approves paving controversial ambulance site for Seaforth-Clinton By Sarah CaldweN Goderich Signal -Star Staff The controversial• Seaforth-Clinton temporary ambulance site will be paved. The debate surrounding the paving of the site has continued for the past couple of months and Huron County Council made its decision on June 7. - In March, at county council Coun. Paul Klopp, Bluewater, had questioned a decision to pave the site that seemed to have been preapproved without a motion approved by county council. The following month, at the Agriculture, Public Works and Seniors Committee, a report about why the site needs to be paved was received. After reviewing the report that paving had to be done for health reasons and to make sure the ambulance didn't get stuck, committee members voted to not pave the Seaforth-Clinton site which County Council also hacked them on at their meeting on May 10. At the meeting on May 10. the owner of the property, Jervis, attended county council and spoke at the end during the open question period. Jervis questioned the county about why his property would now not be paved after it was already in his agreement with the county. Jervis appeared at the Agriculture, Public Works and Seniors Committee on May 16, with his lawyer Richard. Ottewell. Ottewell told the committee that the County in a letter dated December I, 2000 had indicated they would be paving the site for safety and maintenance reasons. Ottewell relied on the first paragraph of the letter which states: "Thank you for agreeing to lease the space in your facility at 41961 Huron Road for an interim ambulance station. In order to provide additional safety for for the paramedics and reduce maintenance costs for the County, the County will be paving the driveway and entrances to the two bay doors we are leasing from you. The County would like to do this work as soon as possible before winter comes, but if it cannot be done before winter, we will be doing it first thing in the spring and no later than May 31, 2001. Ottewell indicated he and his client considered this letter part of the lease and would commence proceedings immediately to evict the County, however, he indicated his client would extend the deadline for paving to the end of. June. The committee indicated the letter could not be read as part of the lease. The committee concludes that the cost of fighting eviction and finding another interim site would be more than the $10,0000 already in the budget to pave the driveway. It was noted that the budgeted costs (including the paving) associated with the stations for 2001 were $111,4000 which compares favourably with the $112,000 in the Ministry's 2000 budget associated with ambulance facility costs. The consensus was that since approval had been given to proceed with the permanent facility , there was no point in getting into a legal battle over the interim facility. A recorded vote was taken on the motion that said the the Seaforth- Clinton site be paved subject to Jervis agreeing to extend the lease for as long as required by the County and that the lane and entrance to the leased facilities be kept clear at all times by Jervis. The recorded vote was passed with a margin of 13- 5. Coun. Rob Morley, South Huron, said "as a county councillors I really feel like I've been had. Obviously a lot of us are looking like fools. It's a shame this has even gone on like it has." Coun. Dave Urlin, also from South Huron, said "this council was snowballed from Day 1." Coun. Lin Steffler, Huron East, who sat on the previous Huron County council also concurred with Urlin about being snowballed. She wanted to know on whose authority did County Engineer Sandra Lawson write the letter to Jervis saying that the site would be pave. lerk-administrator Lynn Murray said the letter was written under the authority of past warden Carol Mitchell, Murray and Lawson for safety reasons. Former Warden Carol Mitchell, Central Huron, said the paving has repeatedly been a health and safety issue. She said fellow councillors who keep bringing up the paving issue are only doing it to "score political point." Steffler wanted to know if there was anything in the Ministry of Health regulations saying that temporary ambulance locations need to be paved. Coun. John Doherty. Goderich said he really doesn't understand what the commotion is about. With the money it has cost Jervis to come and listen to county council debate this he could have "paved the damn thing himself." Warden Norm Fairies, Howick, said "I think we've had enough discussion." A recorded vote was called by Doherty and the motion to pave the site was passed 13-5. the loved one who died offered when feelings of grief take over. "Only when we forget can grief bring sadness." he said. TH* MOON lUIPOSIT011,Juno 13, 1001-8 _HEALTH ON THE HILL_ A Review of activities at SEAFORTH COMMUNITY HOSPITAL VOLUNTEER APPRECIATION Volunteers who give of their time and talents at Seaforth Community Hospital are invited to attend an Appreciation Barbecue on Mon. JUNE 25* at 5:00 p.m. on the Patio by the Cafeteria. Please plan to join us. SEAFORTH MEDICAL CLINIC NEWS starting June 14, 2001, the Seaforth Medical Clinic will be holding two Walk -In Clinics every week. We will be open on Thursday evenings from 6:00-8:00 p.m., as well as Tuesday evenings from 6:00-8:00 p.m. This Thursday clinic will operate the same as the Tuesday evening clinic and service will be on a first come, first serve basis. Patients are reminded to call the Clinic well in advance for all other appointments including those to renew prescriptions. As per our previous policy, prescriptions will not be called into the pharmacy except in special circumstances. "MORNING OUT" is now delivered from "Our Place" Family Drop In Centre" a project of the Rural Response for Health Children located at 25 Goderich Street West, Seaforth. This Parent Support Group for parents and their newborns in the Seaforth Community Hospital catchment area will continue to offer a variety of topics specific to infants ie. nutrition, breastfeeding, immunization, etc. Group Facilitator, Linda VanWyk, RN welcomes you each Friday morning 10:00-11:30 a.m. Childcare at no fee is available. For further information please contact Linda VanWyk (482-5004) or Sally Vandoomik at "Our Place" 527-0914. Looking forward to welcoming you and your little one(s). LAB HOURS at the Hospital effective April 23/01: Mon., Tues., Thurs., Fri. 7 a.m.-4 p.m. Wed. 7 a.m.-3 p.m. Sat. 7 a.m.-11 a.m. After hours, coverage will continue as usual. NOTICE OF PROPOSED BY-LAWS TO STOP UP AND CLOSE AND TO SELL ROAD ALLOWANCES NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that, pursuant to the Municipal Act, R.S.O. 1990 Chapter M 45 and other powers enabling, the Council of the Corporation of the Municipality of Huron East proposes to enact a By -Laws as described below for stopping up, closing and selling road allowances. The proposed By -Laws and description of the lands affected may be viewed in the Municipality Office of the Corporation of the Municipality of Huron East at the address hereinafter noted. The Council of the Corporation of the Municipality of Huron East will hear, in person or by counsel or agent, any person who claims his land will be prejudicially affected by the said by-law and who applies to be heard at a meeting to be held at the said Municipal Office on the 19th day of June, 2001 at the hour of 7:00 p.m. DATED ai the Municipality of Huron East this 23rd day of May, 2001. J.R. McLachlan, Clerk -Administrator Corporation of the Municipality of Huron East, 72 Main Street South Seaforth, Ontario NOK IWO By -Law 60-2001 proposes to stop up, close, sell and transfer a road . allowance known as Church Street, Hamlet of Egmondville, Tuckersmith Ward, Municipality of Huron East. Please refer to diagram below. By -Law 61-2001 proposes to stop up, close, sell and transfer a road allowance on Plan 22R1046 Part 3, Hamlet of Egmondville, Tuckersmith Ward, Municipality of Huron East. Please refer to diagram below. Road Allowance as proposed by By -Law 60-2001 Road Allowance as proposed by By -Law 61-2001 CON. 2 1 1 y) HAYFIELD ST u I L R.P. 237 FRONT ST R.P. 232 u By -Law 62-2001 proposes to stop up, close, sell and transfer a road allowance on Plan 201 between Lot 5 and Lot 6 in the Hamlet of Dublin, McKillop Ward, Municipality of Huron East. Please refer to the diagram below. 14 n 1f Road Allowance as proposed by By -Law 62-2001 Id 1 Ori1 14.1M Aa/444 1r• s