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Wednesday, November 15, 1995
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setters to the Editor.
In response
Why is it okay for a
big person to hit
a little person?
Dear Editor,
This is in response to the
letter to the editor in last
week's Expositor on
spanking. I disagree with
Janet Billson very strongly
and need to respond.
Why is it okay for a big
person to hit a little person?
They learn it's okay for big
people to hit little people and
that you solve your problems
with violence, not words.
When does that little person
learn that when you are
unhappy with what someone
has done that you use words,
not your fists?
If it's okay to hit a child,
can anyone hit that child, or
just the parents? At what age
does the child become the
hitter and not the recipient?
At what age do you start to
hit your kids and when do
you stop? How many spanks
is okay and how hard? Why
is it okay to hit little people
when it's unacceptable to hit
another human being? Are
children not human beings?
Children need loving
guidance. A time out works
or taking privileges away
works too. A lot of things
work. Just discussing it
works. Both of you take a
time out and discuss it at a
. set time later. Listen to your
children, they have a lot to
say.
I used to spank my children
and I found I did it out of
anger and if 1 had waited
even five minutes the urge
would have passed. 1 have
taken many parenting courses
and what I have learnedis
mutual respect, reflective
listening, reasonable
consequences and
consistency. Say what you
mean, mean what you say and
do what you say you are
going to do. It all makes
sense to me and our four
children are the fruits of our
labour. They are healthy,
happy children who are
learning to deal with others
the way we are dealing with
them - with mutual respect
and using their words not
their hands. Yes, we have our
days and we yell at each
other too. But we get back on
track quickly.
Children are gifts from God
- to be loved, honoured and
cherished. It is not until
physical punishment is
stopped that child abuse and
people abuse in general will
stop. We need to raise our
children to respect us and one
another and I do not believe
that hitting them makes them
respect us. They need to do
as we ask because they
respect us, not because they
are scared they will be hit if
they do not listen.
There are reasonable
consequences for
unacceptable behaviours.
Hitting should never be one
of them. The Lord would be
ashamed of us - did he ever
hit anyone for not listening?
Gayle Coleman
Women's Shelter and Counselling
Staff answered more
than 1,600 crisis calls
Dear Editor,
The Women's Shelter and
Counselling Services of
Huron provides women and
their children with refuge
from violence. In the past
year, the shelter has housed
135 women and 211 children.
Shelter staff have answered
1,615 telephone calls from
women in crisis, and provided
over 6,000 hours of
counselling to women arid
children of Huron County
who were victims of violence.
By immediately providing
women and their children
with the basic necessities of
life - food, shelter, and
clothing - the shelter prevents
the continuation of the cycle
of violence. During her brief
stay at the shelter, a woman
can begin to eliminate the
violence from her life and the
lives of her children, by
taking the opportunity while
in a safe place to think and
plan for the future. She can
then begin building a safe life
for herself and her children.
The Board of Directors of
the Women's Shelter and
Counselling Services of
Huron recognizes the
necessity for the government
of Ontario to act in a fiscally
responsible manner in order
to put this province's
financial house in order.
However, it is our sincere
hope that the government will
also recognize the need to
matte thoughtful and well-
informed decisions regarding
the safety and well-being of
the women and children of
Ontario.
Sincerely,
Ms. Susan Pye
President, Board of Directors
Women's Shelter and
Counselling Services of
Huron
Louie Nagy, I miss you already!
As you get older you realize
a lot of your friends are really
just artful acquaintances.
But Louie... Louie I knew
would be a friend for life within
the first five minutes of meeting
him.
Louie Nagy was six years old
when I met him in the 70s,
short, dark, handsome and
Hungarian. A gentle and charm-
ing man.
We shook hands on a tennis
court as we would hundreds and
hundreds of times thereafter.
Louie had gone to his local
club to take up the game of ten-
nis, but the two instructors,
after giving Louie a couple of
lessons, told him to give it up
and try bowling.
Louie was no quitter. So he
came to my club, got some
basic instruction from the pro,
Dutchy Doerr and in a short
order Louie became very good.
Having taking up the game
late in life and mostly self-
taught, Louie had no style. All
he could do was win. Louie
could paint the lines, as they
say, like nobody else — razor -
like passing shots placed exact-
ly where the opponent wasn't.
Dutchy and I used to delight
in watching hot -shot juniors
challenge Louie, big smirks on
their faces after watching his
warm up. We used to het on
how far they'd throw their rac-
quets at the end of the match.
Louie and I became doubles
partners. In one of those what -
goes -around -comes -around
kind of things, we got to the
finals of an interclub tourna-
ment against — you guessed it
— the two instructors who had
advised Louie to take us bowl-
ing.
Yes, justice was served. We
won.
I wouldn't say Lottie was
excited but it's the first time I'd
been kissed by a man on a ten-
nis Court.
Louie Nagy was the happiest
man I'd ever met. Some days on
the court he'd stop the play,
come over to me and say:
"Beel, it's so beautiful today, so
good to be here with you." (Not
only was Louie the only guy I
let kiss me, he was also the only
person I let call me 'Beet'!)
I never knew two people
more in love than Louie and his
wife Gyorgyi — every day, all
day, for the 19 years I saw them
together — like teenagers with
crushes that wouldn't quit.
A framed photo in their din-
ing room taken in the 40s,
looked like a Hollywood movie
promotion: Louie a dapper
Clark Gable look-alike;
Gyorgyi, blonde and more
beautiful than a Gabor sister.
Often they would go to
Buffalo for an afternoon to sit
in the park, listen to music on a
transistor radio and drink pink
Champagne.
Once, on a very hot day
down by the Niagara River,
there were four of us doing just
that. Certain Louie would stop
me, I began taking off my
clothes to go for a swim.
Certain Cyorgyi would stop
him, Louie began taking off his
clothes to join me.
Certain she would fall down
from laughing, Gyorgyi had to
return to the picnic table to
steady herself.
I loved to make Louie laugh -
he'd giggle like a kid and then
his face would lock in a deliri-
ous smile and his body would
shake with laughter.
One day Louie proudly drove
up in his new Chrysler New
Yorker, his "talking" car. The
automatic voice system would
tell Louie to do up his seat belt
and Louie would say "Thank
you."
The car would tell Louie to
remove his keys before locking
the doors and Louie would
laugh, do as he was told and
say: "Thank you." He loved it.
It lasted about a week. The next
time I saw Louie he was curs-
ing at the car, telling it to "shut
up" and "mind your own busi-
ness."
I can't tell you the last thing
he said to that car, the day he
got rid of it.
I believe Louie found so
much joy in the simplicities of
life because he was denied them
for 13 horrific years.
The scars of torture on his body
never let him forget how fortu-
nate he was, each and every day
he was free.
A captain in the Hungarian
cavalry, Louis was one of 5,000
men shipped to a Russian
prison at the end of WWII. He
was one of only 17 to survive.
Gyorgyi was pregnant when
he was captured and 13 years
later he walked into a cafe on
the Rhine in Rudesheim, West
Germany where she worked
and waited all those years.
That's when Louie discovered a
dark-skinned, 12 year-old hell -
raiser, named Attila. This was
the son he never knew.
The last few years a couple
of vital organs had been failing
Louie, but he'd been making a
great comeback. It was time for
us to get together so I wrote
down "call Louie" in my day -
timer.
Busy, I crossed it out and
moved it to the next day and
did the same the next day. The
next day Attila called me and
within days it was all over.
Like Job ("I only alone
escaped to tell"), a lot of secrets
died with Louie, but not the
secret of happiness.
At the funeral home it
dawned on me that only a per-
son robbed of freedom and dig-
nity could cherish it as much,
once it was miraculously
restored.
Louie loved Canada but he
laughed at how much we take
for granted, how complacent we
are in protecting our rights and
freedoms.
Louie Nagy — 1916-95. I
don't want to live as long as
Louie, just as well.
DIFFERENT LOOK - This building on the corner of Main and Market Streets, Seaforth which now houses a chiropractor's
office and law office was formerly Melvin Clarke's Red Star garage. (Photo submitted by Tom Devereaux)
Egmondville Church re-opensens in 1920
Walker has recently been dis-
charged from the Highland
Light Infantry. As soon as he
can secure a residence, he will
move his family to Seaforth.
NOVEMBER 19, 1970
Tuckersmith will carry out an
expansion program in connec-
tion with its Egmondvillc water
system council decided Tues-
day evening involving deepen-
ing an existing well by 60 feet.
The well is now 187 feet deep.
Basic cost was set at up to
$1877 depending on a pump
selected but does not include
necessary pipe, well seal and
the cost of building up a camp
roadway to accommodate well
drilling equipment.
The system supplies water to
100 homes in Egmondvillc.
Plans contemplate installation
of a new pump, either a three -
horse power or five -horse
power unit, depending on the
need when drilling is com-
pleted.
FROM THE PAGES OF j r
THE HURON EXPOSITOR
NOVEMBER 22, 1895
ROXBORO BRIDGE - The
McKillop Council met at
Roxboro bridge on Monday,
the 18th, and took the bridge
off the contractor's hands. The
following are the items of cost:
Cost of bridge without abut-
ments, $675; William Clayman,
building abutments $25;
William Clayman, taking down
old bridge, $25; cedar plank for
abutments, $102.80; Johnston
Brothers, spikes, coal oil, lan-
terns, etc., $8.44; Alexander M.
Ross, long iron spikes, $2.40;
Robt. Grieve, filling abutments
with stone, $13.50; Robt. Scott,
roadway and attending lanterns,
$5.35; teaming old iron to
Seaforth and weighing, $2.60;
Robert Grieve, making
approaches at north end,
$11.50; nails for the same, 75
cents; cedar posts for same,
$1.75; William Clayman,
repairing approach to south
end, $5; the reeve, overseeing
the whole, $15; total cost,
$894.
Received for iron in old
bridge, $70; received for timber
in old bridge, $22.50; leaving
the actual cost of the new
bridge to the township, $801.
59; just half what the old
bridge cost sixteen years ago,
and the n,ew one is said to be
worth double of what the old
one ever was. - John C.
Morrison, clerk.
In the Years Agone
***
LOCAL BRIEFS -
James A. Anderson,
Seaforth's champion huntsman,
was out in some of the north-
ern townships for two days last
week, and bagged five par-
tridges, ten rabbits, one fox, an
owl and a hawk. This is a
pretty good record.
NOVEMBER 19, 1920
The Band - The annual meet-
ing of the Seaforth Citizens'
Band was held in their rooms
last week, when the following
officers were appointed for the
coming year: President, Walter
W. Robinson; Vice -President,
T.G. Scou; Sec.-Treas., G.T.
Scott; Managing Committee,
E.D. Reid, Wm. Hoag and
M.McLeod; Leader, Wm. Free-
man.
The band is one of the best
musical organizations in the
country, and the pas: season
has been a very successful one,
while next season promises to
be the best of its history as
twenty new members have
already joined and practises
will be held each Tuesday
evening during the winter.
* * *
The re -opening services of
Egmondville Church on Sunday
and Monday, Nov. 14th and
15th, were a unique event in
the history . of this historic
congregation, which dates back
to 1843.
During the summer the west-
ern wall of the church was
removed and a three-storey
addition to the church erected.
The lower storey consists of a
western vestibule and a cellar
for coal and wood; the second
storey serves the purpose of an
assembly morn and cloak room
for the choir and a roomy
vestry, while the third storey is
an alcove and a location for a
large pipe or:.:a which will be
installed some time in the
future.
The lower storey i:; of cement
and the two upper stories of
solid white brick made by
Kruse Bros., Egmondville. The
doors, windows and wood
work were manufactured by
Cluff Bros., Seaforth. Mr. John
Caa, Egmondville, was archi-
tect and had general oversight
of the work. Mr. James
McKay, Egmondville, was
carpenter, painter, etc., and
along with Mr. Caa v.'as gen-
eral manager of construction
work. Messrs. Cudmore and
Taylor, Hensall, did the brick
laying, and Mr. Howard,
Egmondvillc, the plastering and
decorating.
The church interior has been
almost entirely changed, result-
ing in a model auditorium,
which has been finished and
decorated in excellent taste.
The cost of improvements to
the church and manse for this
year will be about 53,800.
NOVEMBER 23, 1945
Two hundred hog producers
from Seaforth and district met
in Carnegie Libi ai-y Hall,
Scafurth, on Friday, Nov. 16th,
at 8 p.m., to hear explained to
them and to discuss the pro-
posed hog marketing scheme.
* * *
Mr. Gordon Walker, of
Stratford, has leased the vacant
store in the Sutherland Theatre
Block and is having it fitted up
as an electrical supply store,
which he expects to open the
first week in December.
After five and a half years'
service in the army, Mr.
The Russian invasion of
Czechoslovakia two years ago
has indirectly led to a former
citizen of that country estab-
lishing a dental practice in
Seaforth.
Dr. Cyril 1. Lacko, with his
wife and her mother, Mrs. P.
Hajdin, has established his
home and office in Seaforth.
His 18 -year-old son, Cyril Jr.,
is studying science in his first
year at McGill University in
Montreal.
The family arc natives of
Czechoslovakia where Dr.
Lacko was born in 1928. Fol-
lowing his compulsory service
in the Czech Air Force, where
he was trained as a. jet pilot on
Mig fighters and served as his
unit's medical officcr, he com-
pleted his course in medicine,
graduating in 1952.
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