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The Citizen, 2019-10-31, Page 8PAGE 8. THE CITIZEN, THURSDAY, OCTOBER 31, 2019. By Ernest Dow, Exec. Pastor, Huron Chapel EMC, Auburn Me? A hoarder? Surely not! But the evidence was clearly stacking up against me. Since I remarried in August, my new wife had been helping me prepare my former residence for sale. This involved clearing away the accumulated possessions of 18 years in my current location. Not to mention the belongings of four grown children who had sprouted wings and flown to start their own adult lives in distant locations or the added belongings of my late father and father-in-law who had been forced to downsize in their move to long-term-care homes. The result: a whole heap of clutter needing to be cleared in order to put the house on the market. A lot of clutter. I had never thought of myself as a hoarder: I had visited an old bachelor once who sat surrounded in his living room by piles upon piles of newspapers and magazines and what-have-you. That was clearly excessive, a disorder. But me? I vacuumed and kept up to the dishes and did the laundry – so I was clearly not in the same category. Until the mountain of evidence started to convict me otherwise: • Dozens of old toner and ink cartridges waiting to be taken to a suitable recycling spot • Cases of old pens (fountain and otherwise) whose cartridges had long ago given up the ghost • A bushel of used mailer- envelopes with that plastic bubble lining inside • Dozens of pairs of used shoes left from family members who no longer inhabited this address Even more telling is my reaction when confronted with these stacks of evidence – the standard, “Well, that might come in useful someday!” or when my multiple cartons of chocolate chip cookies are pointed out – “They were on ‘reduced’ so I figured I’d better stock up!” Old habits die hard. While I can attempt to blame it on past history (my parents’ patterns or, subsisting for years on a half-time salary), I must ‘come clean’ and admit my need of help in this area. I need a change of heart, of attitude – else if you were to put me in an absolutely spotless place, before long, my imbedded patterns would have cluttered it all up again. The International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation lists three criteria to define ‘hoarding’: A person collects and keeps a lot of items, even things that appear useless or of little value to most people; these items clutter the living spaces and keep the person from using their rooms as they were intended; and, these items cause distress or problems in day-to-day activities. According to this group, signs of compulsive hoarding include: difficulty getting rid of items; a large amount of clutter in spaces (including storage units) that makes it difficult to use furniture or appliances or move around easily; losing important items like money or bills in the clutter; feeling overwhelmed by the volume of possessions that have “taken over” the house or workspace; being unable to stop taking free items, such as advertising flyers or sugar packets from restaurants (those little shampoo bottles in hotels are my favourites); buying things because they are a “bargain” or to “stock up” (is it even possible to have ‘too many’ chocolate chip cookies?!); not inviting family or friends into the home due to shame or embarrassment; refusing to let people into the home to make repairs. The consequences of hoarding, it points out, can be hazardous. “Severe clutter threatens the health and safety of those living in or near the home, causing health problems, structural damage, fire, and even death. Expensive and emotionally devastating evictions or other court actions can lead to hospitalizations or homelessness.” Also, there can be conflict with family members and friends “who are frustrated and concerned about the state of the home and the hoarding behaviours”. It may be that there’s a misplaced sense of security for the hoarder. Do hundreds of books and dozens upon dozens of old videotapes somehow bolster my sense of safety and significance in this world? In what am I really placing my trust? Jesus once told a story about a certain farmer who had a bumper year in terms of his crops. What to do? He concluded, “I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I’ll say to myself, ‘You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.’” But what was God’s estimation of this man’s approach? He called him a ‘fool’! That very night he would die – then the abundance the farmer had gained would end up going to another. (Luke 16:12ff) Christ equated this worldly approach (storing up things for oneself) with spiritual poverty; He said such a person “is not rich toward God.” In fact, Jesus’ emphasis in telling this story was to warn His followers against such a materialistic approach to life. “Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.” In short, I’ve got to realize my life is not about “stuff”. Sooner or later the storing up of accumulated goods can begin to squeeze the spiritual life out of us. At root, the tendency to hoard may be based in fear. Fear of running out. Fear of what might happen tomorrow, the paycheque disappearing. Fear of not being able to earn my way. Perhaps some of these attitudes were subtly induced from my parents who survived THE CATHOLIC PARISHES OF NORTH HURON AND NORTH PERTH CORDIALLY INVITE YOU TO ATTEND HOLY MASS. OUR SUNDAY LITURGIES ARE AS FOLLOWS: Brussels: St. Ambrose Saturday 6:00 p.m. 17 Flora Street Wingham: Sacred Heart Sunday 9:00 a.m. 220 Carling Terrace Listowel: St. Joseph’s Sunday 11:00 a.m. 1025 Wallace Avenue N. huronchapel.com huronchapelkids.com huronchapelyouth.com 519-526-1131 ~ 119 John’s Ave., Auburn Evangelical Missionary Church 9:30 a.m. Sunday School, 10:30 a.m. Worship Pastor Phil Delsaut “Following Jesus: The Blessed Life” (Mt.5:1-16) Communion Sunday November 3 Tuesdays 7-9 p.m. Celebrate Recovery Wednesdays 6:30 - 8 p.m. – HEIRBORN (JK-Gr.6) & YOUTH GROUP (Gr. 7-12) Sat. 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JoAnn Todd, Rector 519-357-7781 email: revjoann@hurontel.on.ca The‐Regional‐Ministry‐of‐ Hope St. Paul’s Trinity WINGHAM 11:15 am These Anglican Churches Welcome You From the Minister’s Study Confessions of a pack-rat with Ernest Dow Continued on page 10