HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1997-02-05, Page 28PAGE 28. THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 5,1997
For Teens, By Teens
FEATURE
Last week a student at Central
Huron Secondary School was killed
in an accident. The impact of this
tragedy is felt by everyone, but for
teens it can be particularly diffi
cult.
Angela Konarski, 16, of RR1,
Blyth, was like every other young
person. She loved life and the expe
riences it offered. Her death was a
loss that will be felt by many. Two
of her friends shared their feelings
and their memories of Ange.
GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR
EVERYTHING ... RIGHT??....
By Rachel Bylsma
Over the past few days I have
been reminded of this time and
time again, by many different
people. Whether they said it to
comfort me or not, I can't really
say. I think it was more to justify
what happened.
On Nov. 30, 1980, a beautiful
child was bom into this world. She
had two siblings, a brother and a
sister, as well as two very proud
parents. She grew up to be one of
those people who took a hold of her
life and made the absolute most of
it. Full of energy and full of life,
constantly radiating positive vibes,
and having a smile for everyone.
Her name was Ange Konarski and
she was a very good friend of mine.
At times, she was the very best
friend I had. On Jan. 27, 1997, God
took her from us.
Ange was very important to a lot
of people; she had so much going
for her! She had a future to look
forward to! She had so many plans.
She was going to have six kids, and
be the "Coolest Mom" there ever
was! She wa really good with kids!
She wanted to get married and be
some sort of social worker.
We were going to go down to
Port Elgin for a week in the
summer and rent a cottage, and we
were going on a road trip down to
Iowa as soon as we got our license
to visit a very special friend she
made two years ago on a SERVE
project we were on.
We were going to do so many
things - cause we had so much
time, didn't we? We're young and
healthy, and totally not ready to
die. Not yet God - we have so
much to do!
The cruel reality hit me harder
than anything in my entire life hit
me before. Never m my life have I
felt so helpless, confused, resentful,
regretful, sad, angry and scared. All
at the same time. Helpless because
there was absolutely nothing I
could do to bring her back. On
Sunday, Jan. 26, two hours after I
heard about the accident, I got on
my knees and prayed the most
earnest plea I've prayed to God. I
prayed these exact words - 'God, I'll
do anything for you, just please,
PLEASE bring Ange through this."
God didn't answer this prayer.
Not in the way I asked him to.
WHY NOT?
How, in any way, was that fair?
Isn't God supposed to be FAIR?
I can understand why God would
want Ange to be with Him. She is
an amazing person. But couldn't He
have waited a little while longer? I
just can't figure out the purpose of
God taking her from us. And I
suppose I may never know.
I was confused because I couldn't
understand why God would allow
someone so young and so
promising to die. Or why God
would want to put everyone close
to Ange through so much grief, and
unbearable sadness. Why docs He
allow some people so many
chances, yet he only allowed Ange
ONE? What makes her different
from those people? It didn't make
sense! She didn't deserve this; I
don't understand, God!
It's not always for ME to
understand.
I was resentful too, which I am
deeply sorry for now. Never in my
life have I doubted God's judgment
as I did these past few days. Never
in my life had I doubted God's love
for everyone.
I'm so sorry, God. Thank you for
sharing Ange with me for the few
years I did know her and thank you
for letting us become so close.
Thank you for giving me a friend
like her, a friend I will never forget,
but will hold dear to me forever.
I was regretful because even
though I've known Ange for over
12 years, I can only say I was close
with her for the last two and a half.
In Grade 9 we realized how much
we had to catch up on. I wish so
much now that I had those extra 10
years with Ange to cherish as good
memories.
I am also regretful because there
were so many things I wanted to
tell her that I never got around to
telling her. Too many things left
unsaid. Too many opportunities
wasted. Mostly because I was so
naive in thinking I had so much
time.
PLEASE don't leave things that
you want to share with someone ’til
tomorrow, or next week, or next
year. Whether it's sharing your
relationship with God with them, or
just telling them how much they
mean to you, it could be one of the
most important things you did in
their life, or yours.
I am sad for obvious reasons. Sad
for her, because she lived for such a
short time and had so many things
going for her. Sad for her family
because they shared such a
tremendous loss that even I, as a
close friend, can't begin to imagine.
I'm sad for all the lives she
touched, including many people
from SERVE projects. Sad for all
her many, many friends, and I
suppose I was feeling a lot of self-
pity because I lost someone very
dear to me, someone irreplaceable.
1 was also very angry. This was
the hardest to deal with. I felt a lot
of anger, but had no one to direct it
at. It was an accident. So I kind of
started to blame God. I couldn't
believe He'd have the nerve to
share her with us for such a short
time and then take her from us. My
anger eventually melted into a
mixture of all the other emotions I
was feeling, but it was the hardest
emotion to deal with. And I'm sure
I'll have to deal with it again. This
is not near over. Seeing an empty
scat on the bus, or an empty space
in the classroom is going to be hard
to deal with.
I now realize how quickly life
can be taken away and how little
time I might have left with other
close friends. I'm scared because
the possibility of having to face
God and be judged by him could be
a lot closer than I expected for me,
or any of the people close to me.
Ange was a very special person
to a lot of people, and many people
are bearing the loss of a wonderful
friend, or a sister, or a cousin, or a,,
daughter. I will continue to pray for
them, because I know that prayers
are what gets people through things
like this.
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Remembering Ange
By Christina Black
We had so many good times
together, I don't know where to
start,
So many memories shared,
forever in my heart.
You were always so full of
energy, always ready to go,
Always wanting to rush, never-
taking things slow.
If I wanted to have a good time, I
knew you were the one,
Whenever I was with you, I just
had so much fun.
You were always up for a real
good fight, no matter when or
where,
And if people didn't like the way
you were, you didn't seem to care.
I'll never forget the times we
spent, just talking the night away,
You said you'd be there to party
with until we both turned grey.
I'm so glad that I got to know
you, the way I have in the past few
years,
But it only makes me want to
shed, that many more wet tears.
Our last weekend together, I
never will forget,
We sat and talked of past good
times, since the day that we first
met.
It was like we knew what was in
store for the next few days,
Like an angel was telling us to
value our time, God works in
mysterious ways.
On Friday night we were at a
party, having so much fun,
Like a magical force, we were
pulled together, we embraced like
*
we were one.
I feel like I'm the luckiest person
on all of this great earth,
You'll never know how much
your hug, that night, was really
worth.
But even more than your hug,
your words, they touched my heart,
You said, "Christina, I love you
so much," and I never wanted to
part.
I'll never forget the way your hug
felt, you had so much to give.
When we went bowling on your
last night, the last words you said
to me,
Are four precious words, I'll
never forget, but will never come
true you see.
You said to me, "I'll call you
tomorrow" but that was never done,
So when I get to heaven you'd
better call me, you'd better be the
first one.
Some day I'm going to talk to
you, and hug you with all my
might,
I'm gonna laugh with you and
drink with you, and everything will
be all right.
But for now, we've got to move
on and live our lives to the best,
But that will be the hardest thing
when such a good friend lies at rest.
I loved you so much, and I'll miss
you always,
But forever in my heart are the
memories of your days.
Ange will be remembered always
and forever hold a special place in
my heart.
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