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PAGE 6 THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 18, 1995.
By Janice Becker
In the second of a three part series on coping with AIDS, a
single father of three tells his story of coping with his own
illness as well as comforting his ailing children.
It is with a sharp and sometimes cutting sense of humour
that Rob deals with living with HIV, but if one listens
closely and watches his eyes, the suffering and struggles
faced by his family comes through.
It was just five years ago, when Rob's wife
tested positive for AIDS, that the entire family's
life changed.
His wife died in 1993 and Rob was left to care
for three children, two of whom had also
contracted the disease.
The two boys, Robbie and Tommy, have AIDS.
For Robbie, the youngest at only seven, the full-
blown symptoms of the disease have hit him very
hard.
"He rides a roller coaster every day which shows
no signs of stopping," says Rob. "He goes from ill
to very ill and even worse. Right now he is in the
'even worse' stage."
"Though he has been sick for five years, we
must keep dragging ourselves out. As long as he is
not in great pain and he can laugh and smile once
a day, we are doing what we can."
Rob's other son, Tommy, also has AIDS, but is
not yet showing any major effects from the illness.
The eldest child in the family, Rob's step-
daughter, who is not infected with HIV, has
become a spokesperson for AIDS education and
awareness.
Because of her dedication to speaking to
students and adults alike, she earned an Ontario
Junior Citizenship Award last year.
"She is.doing this in memory of her mother," says Rob.
As for Rob himself, he smiles and says he's lucky because
he was able to retire at the age of 29. "It's just how you look
at it. I get to spend a lot of time with my children."
It is that optimistic and 'I'm not taking any bull from
anyone or anything' attitude which seems to have helped
Rob get through the last five years, as well as have the
strength to support his family.
He has not allowed an HIV positive diagnosis to end his
life. "I am presently living with a woman (Lori) who tells me
we are engaged," he laughs.
"I miss my wife very much, but life does go on. Lori has a
beautiful relationship with my children and though I thought
it would be hard for my daughter, I think they have a better
relationship than my daughter and I do."
I am just the average person-next-door, says Rob. I must
carry on with a smile and a positve attitude.
Aside from the physical difficulties caused by HIV/AIDS,
Rob says there are always the financial aspects to be
concerned with.
Along with disability pensions which are available, there
are support programs through the government, but they must
be asked for, he says. "There is no one telling us what is
available. You have to go through family services."
Because of his struggle to find support, Rob was
instrumental in assisting the London HIV/AIDS group to
write a book on where to go for help.
If there is one goal Rob has set for himself in his work
with AIDS education, it is to teach abstinence to the youth.
"It is not just the wisest way to go to avoid AIDS , but also
other STDs and pregnancy."
"At the age of 15 to 18, young people have not pulled
themselves together enough to understand what they are
getting into. They believe they are invincible. They think, 'it
won't happen to me', but we are here to tell them, 'yes it will'.
(Abstinence) will prevent anything from happening and they
will feel better about themselves in the future."
As a tribute to his son, Rob helped initiate the Robbie Care
Fund in London which raised money for pediatric AIDS
research and helps families affected by the disease.
Writer looks back fondly on time in Blyth
Continued from page 4
for their kindness and support over
the years. The experiences that we
all had while living in Blyth will be
things we will never forget and will
keep us from ever finishing our
goodbye.
Trust all is well with everybody.
With great respect,
Peter Smith.
THE EDITOR,
In his most famous speech Rev.
Martin Luther King Jr. said that he
had a dream that one day people
would be "judged not by the colour
of their skin, but the content of
their character".
To my mind, that phrase sums up
what employment equity should be
all about. Any person applying for
any job, anywhere, should be
judged solely on his or her abilities
and experience. Their colour, race,
gender or other such characteristics
should not enter the equation. The
sole criteria should be merit.
While the previous governthent
tried to pass the system off as
"voluntary" and talked about
"quotas and timetables", the bottom
line is that under Employment
Equity, companies would have to
hire minimum numbers of visible
minorities, Native Canadians,
disabled people and women. When
you are legally required to hire by
race, colour, sex or other physical
characteristics, that is a quota.
It is also a recipe for
discrimination, tokenism,
resentment, racial division and
fundamental unfairness.
There were 10 tables of euchre
hosted by Helen Cullen, Alvin
McLellan and Grace Smith.
Winners were: 50/50, Helen
Cullen; high lady, Grace Smith;
high man, Scott McLean; low lady,
Jean McNaught; low man, Mel
Jacklin; most lone hands, June
Jacklin, Shirley Verstoep, Isobelle
Gray; birthday in October, Rick
Quite simply, it is wrong to
discriminate on racist, sexist or
other similar grounds while hiring
people. A system which actually
requires such discrimination will
end up forcing the hiring of less
qualified people in order to meet
the quotas.
In short, reverse discrimination is
just as unfair as any other kind.
So, what is the answer to the
problems of discrimination and
lack of opportunity that members
of these identified groups still face
in the workplace?
Ontario already has laws
prohibiting discrimination in hiring
practices. If these laws are not
working, they should be rewritten
and toughened.
But the toughest anti-
discrimination in hiring practices
and, indeed, the toughest quota
systems will still not produce for
example, more women engineers.
This will only happen when more
women study engineering.
When must modify and use our
education and training system to
ensure that all Ontarians, especially
members of groups that are under-
represented in certain fields, have
the opportunity to reach their full
potential.
You cannot force more women to
study engineering, hut you can
encourage them, ensure barriers to
study are removed, and ensure
when they graduate they will have
exactly the same chance at a given
job as any other engineering
graduate.
In other words, we must allow
Elliott, Lois McLean.
The next euchre is Oct. 23,
8:30 p.m.
Lost heir tournament is Oct. 20 at
8 p.m.
An Open House was held at the
Pentecostal Church, Listowel on
Oet. 14 for Walter and Millie
Rutilrford on the occasion of their
25th anniversary.
and require employers to judge
each person as a person and to
make hiring decisions based on
people's merit . .. on the content of
their character, not the colour of
their skin. Only then will we have a
system that is fair to everyone.
Helen Johns, MPP Huron.
THE EDITOR,
I would like to thank all the
volunteers and supporters who
helped in any way with the
Auxiliary to Clinton Public
Hospital's 41st Annual Penny Sale.
The gross proceeds were $4,600.
Volunteers are always needed and
appreciated.
Sincerely,
Reta Kelland
Penny Sale Co-ordinator.