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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 2019-07-25, Page 5Other Views Teaching how the buck stops here The bully gets to shape reality Shawn Loughlin Shawn’s Sense Early Monday morning, if you were driving past my house, you might have seen either myself or my wife, Ashleigh, taking the covers off our Evenflo children’s car seats to double check if the straps had been fraying at the edges. It turns out that Evenflo seats, in Canada, have had 94 complaints against them for fraying straps. The incidents, many of which has been in the last year, have prompted Transport Canada to encourage parents to check their seats. The initial report came out last week, and I checked the seats then, but after CBC picked up the story and provided more information, Ashleigh suggested that we give them another look. Given that those straps are the only thing standing between death or dismemberment during a collision, I readily agreed. It was frustrating, to say the least, to have to remove the cushioning a second time, and, fortunately for our family, the seats seems to be in good condition. After I had checked the seats, I decided to look into the issue, reading stories about it and watching the segment on CBC news before heading in to work on Monday morning. It was all pretty standard fare for a story about potential safety hazards – here’s what to check, here’re the statistics and here’s the response from the manufacturer. It was at that latter part, however, that turned my frustration to anger. For those of you who know how Evenflo responded, this narrative pause for dramatic effect may be wasted on you, however, for everyone else, stay with me. Parents have discovered (prior to anyone getting hurt, fortunately) that straps are fraying, sometimes on one side or both, and reporting it to Evenflo or to Transport Canada. There is, in the images provided, a degree of uniformity to the straps that were frayed on both sides. There is no other damage to the seat to indicate any other kind of underlying problem. When you add it all up, it looks like some kind of engineering or manufacturing problem, but, early on in these reports, instead of admitting the company needed to take a deeper look at the problems, Evenflo passed the buck, blaming it on rodents. At first, the claim may seem to make sense. Where are there more crumbs in a car than on a toddler’s car seat? Between Cheerios, crackers and the occasional French fry, a rodent would have a veritable feast. But when I started looking at the other particulars of the situation, a few questions popped up in my head. As a parent, I’m adjusting the straps on Mary Jane’s car seat constantly. Aside from constantly growing (and growing, and growing, everyone says she’s so tall for her age), you also have to loosen them in the winter for heavier clothing and coats and inversely tighten them in the summer. That usually requires untwisting the straps and an inadvertent review of the car seat. I think, at that point, any parent would notice chewing marks on the cushions of the seat, where the rodents would most likely be. After all, that’s where most of the crumbs would be. None of these parents have reported damage to the seat, just to the straps, and Evenflo has provided free replacements (the seats can be pricey) to those reporting the damage. That leads me to believe that Evenflo was passing the buck. Experts in the field, according to the CBC’s report, feel the same way, saying that consistent damage being reported by this many people is not likely to have been caused by rodents. In fairness to Evenflo, the company has since announced it will work with Transport Canada to evaluate the situation, however that was after telling numerous customers that rodents caused the problem (and giving away free car seats that typically cost between $200 and $400 each). The whole situation hit home for Ashleigh and me because, recently, the two of us have been making a concentrated effort to stop passing the buck to set a good example for Mary Jane. It’s so easy to blame other people for our problems (politicians, manufacturers, corporations, take your pick) instead of just owning up to the fact that none of us are perfect. We need to be better than that. We need to learn to place blame only against those who are culpable and only when it’s necessary. Nobody’s perfect. This weekend I knocked down a half a dozen things in our kitchen while trying to hang up a tea towel. Instead of internalizing what I did wrong and admit to not paying enough attention, I got angry because of how many things were hung on a towel rack that weren’t towels. Obviously I still have gains to make. I guess the difference is me knocking down a measuring cup doesn’t measure up against Evenflo putting children’s lives at risk by claiming rodents are magically ignoring food- filled cushions of car seats and going straight for straps hidden underneath said cushions. Let’s all try a little harder and let the blame rest where it should. Denny Scott Denny’s Den THE CITIZEN, THURSDAY, JULY 25, 2019. PAGE 5. An old man rant While Denny is often referred to as the resident “old guy” on this page (ignoring the fact that Keith is an actual, bona fide older guy) please allow me to take my moment in the old guy spotlight. This is truly a “get off my lawn” column if there ever was one, but as someone who writes stories about people and their lives week after week, I can’t ignore the erosion taking place in the richness of some of these stories. Just this week I spoke to Kelsey Falconer, a Blyth-area native who has, in just a few short years, made a significant impact as a Toronto actor. She told me that as a child, she was inspired by a passion to sing and dance and exhibited her talent through local workshops. Now that’s a good background story. It shows a true, organic love for a craft and then the follow-through to make it her career. It’s these kinds of stories that the world loves. Look at newly-famous congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez of New York. A rising star in American politics, she was a bartender before she ran for congress. However, with the internet and social media, an old faithful of an interview question is becoming less and less interesting. Denny wrote a story about a new venture in Wingham a few weeks back. It got the point across, but it was short. Why was it short? It was short because the creation story was someone posting on Facebook. Thrilling. In another recent story about a successful tradesman, he said he learned much of his skills by watching YouTube videos. Now, that’s not to denigrate people learning a new skill online. That’s been one of the bright spots of an invention that has brought about, and I’m being nice here, a fair amount of negativity along with it. Whether it’s online university courses or watching how-to videos or online manuals, you can learn a lot from the internet – it just doesn’t make for a good story. I was floored by an example of this in the Netflix documentary about the failed Fyre Festival, Fyre: The Greatest Party That Never Happened. One of the earliest interviews is with German pilot Keith van der Linde. Now, van der Linde expressed his concerns about the soon-to-be-disastrous festival very early on, but it was a comment he made about earning his pilot’s licence that stuck with me. Van der Linde said he had just recently got his licence and bought a plane. This success came after he taught himself to fly on Microsoft Flight Simulator. While it must have worked (he did pass the test, earning his licence after all) it’s not very exciting. He taught himself how to fly a plane by way of a video game. Let’s hope the teenagers of today aren’t teaching themselves how to drive by playing Grand Theft Auto or how to solve problems by playing Mortal Kombat. Nothing beats a good origin story. They’re an absolute staple of superhero lore (you know, literally every movie being made these days) and I imagine that today’s superhero origin stories might be a little boring. Perhaps in the next Superman movie we’ll join Clark Kent as he plays Microsoft Flight Simulator: Human Flight Edition for countless hours as he learns to fly or come along for the exhilarating journey of Peter Parker watching a few YouTube videos on how to swing from building to building en route to becoming Spiderman. (Videos like those probably exist somewhere on YouTube, by the way.) So, there it is: an old guy column from yours truly. Complaining, shaking a fist at the youth of today and taking a fond look back at the way things used to be – it really had it all. Watching U.S. President Donald Trump’s latest bullying tactics against four members of Congress who are also women of colour, I couldn’t help think of Tara Westover’s memoir Educated. Westover’s book telling of her experience growing up in a loopy Mormon/survivalist family in Idaho has been on the New York Times bestseller list for 73 weeks, probably because truth is stranger than fiction. Her father had his own brand of fundamentalist Mormon belief. He thought regular Mormons were going to hell. His belief conveniently meant his interpretation of what God wanted ruled the family. At one point he read a passage from the Old Testament and interpreted it was God’s message that they shouldn’t eat dairy foods, so milk, cheese, butter and yogurt disappeared from the refrigerator. He believed that the government was out to get them and so he built a stash of weapons and hid some away so they wouldn’t be found if the family was taken by surprise by a government raid. He was convinced that the changing of millennium on New Year’s Eve, 1999 would bring the breakdown of society, and so he made his wife preserve enough food to keep the family eating well for months. When you grow up in a family you come to think that’s just the way the world is, especially if you are homeschooled – though the “schooled” part was an exaggeration in Westover’s case. The confusion about what is normal behaviour left her vulnerable when an older brother began physically beating her up when he flew into rages at what he interpreted as her immoral behaviour, such as wearing makeup. The thing is that as a reader, looking into this world as a “normal” person, you know these men are not behaving normally. But the bully controls his world and the people in it and even the people being abused can’t help but accept the bully’s version of “facts”. So even though, miraculously, Westover had qualified and been accepted to Brigham Young University through her own initiative and intelligence, after one of her brother’s beatings she was ready to give it all up and stay home. It’s this shaping of their world by the bully that caused me to make a comparison of Donald Trump to Westover’s story. From the outside, we can see that the U.S. President is clearly wrong when he claims these women hate America and should “go home”, despite the fact three of the four were born in the U.S. and the fourth loved the country enough to become a citizen and run for office. But when Trump stands before an audience of people who see the world by his terms, they’re ready to viciously chant “send her back!”. Just as it was important for Westover’s father to maintain his version of reality for his family by refusing to allow his kids to attend public schools, bullies and dictators often try to prevent any influence from reshaping their reality by shutting down media outlets that oppose them and preventing people from having internet or radio and television access to the outside world, as Russian President Vladimir Putin does to his countrymen. Other dictators like Turkey’s President Recep Tayyip Erdogan also try to control the thinking of their people by allowing only their own version of reality. In her book Reading Lolita in Tehran, Azar Nafisi tells of bringing a group of women together in her apartment for a weekly discussion of great novels from Western literature. These women would arrive in long dark robes and scarves to hide their hair, which Iran’s Islamic imams see as a temptation to men. Once inside the women would peel off these outer garments to reveal their real selves, with forbidden jewellery, luxuriant hair and bright t-shirts and blue jeans. Within that room they could be themselves and think for themselves. Outside they had to live by rules imposed on them, whether they agreed or not, by the imams. The U.S. is still a free country, so Donald Trump doesn’t have the opportunity to impose his will and shut down criticism of his outrageous statements. Still he shapes the conversation in his own way. The onus is thrown upon the four women in Congress to prove they love their country, not for Trump to prove they don’t. As long as he has enough followers to see he gets re-elected in the 2020 Presidential Election, it’s his version of reality that matters, despite what non-supporters and those of us looking in from outside the U.S. think. Westover finally escaped her father and brother’s world, studying at Cambridge University in England and Harvard. Still, for a long time their world haunted her. Someday Donald Trump will be gone, but what legacy will he leave behind if he wins re- election, giving him a whole generation reaching adulthood under his influence? Keith Roulston From the cluttered desk