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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1993-07-28, Page 5International Scene Rayniond Caton THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, JULY 28, 1993. PAGE 5. A battle of the sexes skirmish Ready for another sea change in shopping patterns? This phenomenon is gathering steam in the shopping malls and chic boutiques of sunny California. The Los Angeles Times calls it "Cross Shopping". What's happening is unprecedented numbers of men shopping for women and women are shopping for men — but particularly the former. Los Angeles retailers are reporting whole new herds of males poking around the lingerie and notions departments, where only the female of the species used to congregate. What's it mean? No one is quite sure. Some experts think men cop an illicit thrill just infiltrating "behind enemy lines". Other behaviourists tug their beards and warn of a dark side to cross shopping — they say it represents an attempt by men to exert control over their spouses. I say phooey. I don't think there's anything sinister or illicit about cross shopping at all. I believe it represents but one more revolution of the Gender Blender that's been turning us into biological vichyssoise for years. And about time too. I come from an age when there were separate entrances at the public schools marked BOYS and GIRLS. I come from an age when all public taverns had a special door marked A day in the life Summer is really not a time when you lecture people on any subject; rather it is a time when you would prefer to get away from it all for a while and concentrate on more pleasant things. For this reason I am going to try to make my next few articles somewhat lighter in content and share a few of my experiences with you of my recent stay in Europe. What we will do is go through a day's activities and note the things that are different from what you would normally fund in Canada. Some of them are little; others are quite different from what we find here but, since variety is the spice of life, it all adds up to a very pleasant day. First we have breakfast at the hotel in Mayen, Germany, where I spend my first few days. You have heard a considerable amount about a "continental breakfast." They are supposed to be small but that may have been the case only in the past. Admittedly there is no bacon etc. but, by the time you have gone through the fresh rolls, an egg, some cheese and ham, not to mention a pot of coffee, you are pleasantly full. Now we are ready to wander about the city. The hotel is only 50 meters from the city square which means, almost before we know it, we are mixing with the locals who are out doing their morning shopping. Although there are versions of shopping centres, a lot of people prefer to go down town to a number of specialty stores. Since we are going to have a picnic lunch, we stop first at LADIES AND ESCORTS. I can remember a kid in my grade eight class being sent home in tears. Her crime? She dared to wear slacks to class. Just to show you how much times have changed, consider the case of Brett Martin, an 18-year-old senior high school student in Knoxville, Iowa. He, too, got in hot water for "inappropriate dress" — but with a distinctly 90s twist. Brett was nailed for showing up at his Knoxville High School prom dressed in a wig, mascara and a red, sequined, spaghetti-strapped dress he borrowed from his sister. Brett Martin did it as a lark, but the Knoxville High School principal — a humourless sod who must have been caught sneaking in the GIRL'S entrance as a student — didn't laugh. Instead he had Martin charged with criminal trespass. The principal should get with the times. Hasn't he heard about Teresinha de Jesus Gomes? Teresinha is a bluff, gladhanding 50-year-old woman who's been famous in military circles of Portugal for the past two decades. But not as Teresinha de Jesus Gomes. Her army buddies knew her as Tito Anibal de Paixao Gomes. Uh, that's General Tito Anibal de Paixao Gomes, to be precise. For 19 years, "the General" regaled his/her fellow officers with tales of daring military-intelligence-gathering adventures in South America and behind the Iron Curtain. the bakery to buy rolls at 25 cents each; another store will provide us with fruit, cheese and the German version of V-8 and we are ready. If the weather is nice, we will soon see people sitting at an outdoor cafe having a morning coffee and perhaps some pastry. If it is hot, you can have some ice cream; a small scoop will cost you 70 cents. We are going to drive down to the Rhine for lunch so we stop for gas. Try not to fall over when you find out that the price is $1.08 a litre (and likely to go higher). Admittedly distances are shorter here but $1.08 is $1.08. In a short while we were out on the Autobahn to Koblenz and it does not take long before you notice that what they say about German highways is true. There is no speed limit and some drivers roar by at 200 k.p.h. The average speed is 120-140 which makes the 401-402 highways look rather tame. When we sit along the Rhine having our lunch, we note the large number of flat barges that sail by. h is remarkable how much freight is still carried by the river system. You can now go all the way from Germany to the Black Sea at Rumania. Not only is there a wide variety of barges; there are also many national flags flying at the stem. On the day we sit there and watch the traffic, there are probably as many Dutch flags as any other, which I think is par for the course. One thing about most German towns is that they are rich in history. Mayen is especially interesting in that it is built on former volcanic ground. You can actually see where the crater was; it is currently the site of a lake. You can also go down into a cavern which has been dug out of the lava. The city itself has a history that goes back 3,000 years which will give us plenty of places to explore when we decide to do a tour of the place. They were great stories, but that's all they were. Teresinha/Tito had been impersonating an officer since she donned a general's uniform and her dead brother's name away back in 1974. She'd probably still be in the Portuguese army if she hadn't run up colossal debts for her intended State Wedding. Authorities took away her general's uniform and let her off with a three-year suspended sentence. Oh yeah, and the wedding is off, too. But the good times are just starting for Damian Taylor down in Brisbane, Australia. Damian is a 24-year-old Australian lifeguard, who's on the threshold of a whole new career. There was a picture of Damian in my newspaper last night. Damian's wearing a sash across his torso in the photograph. The sash reads Miss Wintersun 1993. A man has won the Miss Wintersun Beauty Contest in Australia. "Now that I've done this who knows what I can do?" said a teary Damian. "I don't want to cause any waves with Miss Australia, but I'm going for it." Sure, go for it, Damian. It's just one more skirmish in the never-ending Battle of the Sexes. Nobody's ever figured that one out, but the comedian George Burns came as close as anybody I know. "There will always be a battle between the sexes" said George, "because men and women want different things." "Men want women and women want men." Canadian stores may stay open all Saturday and part of Sunday but that custom has not yet reached Mayen. If we are going to do any shopping, we had better get it done before Saturday noon since that is when most stores close. Sunday is, of course, totally closed down which makes for a long weekend for owners and employees alike. There are, to be sure, restaurants open just as they are here, not to mention gas stations, but it is remarkable how quickly the down- town area changes from a hive of activity to an extremely quiet place once Saturday noon comes. Without reflecting on the level of religion, Germans as a nation do not go to church in as great numbers as in Canada. Neither is there the variety of Protestant churches to be found there as there is in Canada even though the percentage of Protestants in Germany is about the same as it is here. This reduction in church going is, by the way, something that is found all over Europe. Nor can you escape taxes. When you go shopping, if you see the VAT tax added (the German equivalent of our GST) it is 15 per cent no less. Again this is par for the course since European countries almost all have double-digit VAT taxes, with Sweden the highest at 25 per cent. Given that Germany has a bad government deficit as well as extensive social welfare services, is it any surprise that they complain about taxes just as we do. Oh yes, one of the few North American concepts you will see is McDonald's. Even Mayen has one with ample place to park, something that most outlets do not have. There is, however, one difference; you can get beer at the German version. But if you ask for a Big Mac, they will understand you since that is precisely what they call it in German. Some things, it seems, never change. The short of it By Bonnie Gropp Short on height and patience Honesty and patience are virtues they say. That being said, because I have the former, I must admit to a sad lack of the latter. It's not just height I'm short of. It's been proven that patience is a good attribute to acquire. The patient ball player will be rewarded by either getting that perfect pitch or a base on balls. People looking for that ideal partner may actually find them if they wait long enough — or a least one only mildly flawed. There is no species on Earth more patient than the feline family, as our cat has demonstrated many times. I have watched her patiently stalk a fly, crouching back, then moving ever so slowly towards it, to grasp it at just the last second. The other evening, fascinated by a moth flitting in our upstairs hall, she sat beneath it, her head upturned to watch, her body frozen. She stayed that way for what seemed an eternity, the only movement coming from a slight turning of the head to keep an eye on her prey. As the moth suddenly moved down the hall, the predator slunk beneath it. Then in a split second mistake, the moth came closer to the ground, the cat sprang and it was over. This confrontation made me wonder if I couldn't possibly learn a few things from our cat. Being impatient is a stressful way to live. Impatient people are frustrated usually by situations out of their control. Playing mini- golf this past weekend I had to fight my frustration over the family of four in front of us that kept us waiting, while hurrying my children during our turn so we wouldn't hold back the ones behind us. I want things done yesterday. I'm always ready early and I can't stand waiting for anyone else. No matter how organized I am I'm usually in a hurry and I get ticked at anything that slows me down. Sunday drivers irk me to no end, perhaps because I recognize they are on a relaxing odyssey while I'm racing with my obsession. I have to keep reminding myself, as I'm cruising at a 'speedy' 60 kilometres an hour, I'm not ruining their day. You can just imagine what the rash of road construction this summer is doing to me. It seems every direction you turn there are machines slowing you down and flag people telling you when you can go. Recently, my structured schedule was snagged by one of these snafues. In exasperation I laid my head on the headrest Then glancing to the side I noticed the fielc next to me. I saw a large bird soaring ahoy( in a sky as blue as a field of cornflowers. Rolling down the window to soak up the fresh air and beauty, I took several deer breaths while doing my best to ignore the work going on around me. With no smal amount of effort, I convinced myself n forget my schedule was being altered and might as well just take this excuse to enjoy few minutes of imposed respite. It was a good lesson. Instead of getting more stressed-out we might just as wel make the most of these opportunities. Whet we're in control, we hurry from one spot ti another, forgetting to refresh ourselves witl all the good things around us. When tit( situation is taken out of our hands, should reap the rewards. Maybe, if I can exercise patience when have no choice, it won't be long before apply i! to all aspects of daily living. Arthur Black