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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Lucknow Sentinel, 1984-02-15, Page 32. Ittri.u.sxmot . Pagel° •/' v ,1 • It's all arranged, and barring last minute cold feet, the wedding's on for later in the day. You don't have to worry about When to go down the aisle -- Your minister's already briefedyoir On that — and heading back out will be a cinch: , Things will even fall into place for the picture -taking, courtesy of your photographers expertise. When it comes to the reception though, there are some basic rules to follow to avoid the confusion"' of guests milling about not knowing what to do or when t° do it. The first thing everyone will want to do is run up and Vas the bride, shake hands with, the groom and try to figure out if that really is little Sarah all grown , up now and in a bridesmaid's dress. The best way to do this smoothly is to have a receiving line.. The mother of the bride should head the line since She'll probably know most of the guests: If she doesn't, she rely on the person nett in line, the groom's mother. If either has no mother* close female relatives usually* take these places. The bride is next in line, and beside her (obviously) should' be the groom. The maid of honor comes next and, after her, the bridesmaids. Where are the fathers and ushers? Usual- ly they mingle with the guests, relieved that the tension -filled part is over and the party is about to begin. If you're not sure what to say as you pro- ceed along the receiving line, simply in- troduce yourself to those you don't know and continue on. Bridal party members should follow suit. The bride and groom usually thank each guest for attending. " After all the guests have been received, the group heads to the bridal table. You can be flexible here,, but traditionally the 'wed- ding party is the only group to sit here. Spouses, parents and the clergyman, ifin attendance, usually -sit at a s'eparatetable. If a buffet is served, the bride and groom usually lead,off the trip to the food, followed by the rest .of the wedding party, the parents and then the -guests. If a sit-down dinner is part of your recep- tion, the wedding party is served first. Cutting the cake is one of those times that all the canners bugs are waiting for and time should be set aside to allow everyone to get his camera ready. Usually it is done just before dessert is served. One of the party, or the master of ceremonies, should announce to the guests that the cake -cutting is upcom- ing so they can reload their film or jockey for position. • Tradition has even affected this part. The groom stands on the left side of the bride, puts his right hand over hers (which is holding the knife,) and the two cut the cake together. They look after the first , slice, a waiter or friend does the rest. The toasts and speeches come next, and then the party begins. The bride and groom should start the dance. If you're sticking with tradition, the next dance is for the bride and her father and the groom and his bride's mother. Then the bride and,groom can take another twirl alone, followed by the bride's mother with the groom's father and the bride's father with the groom's mother. Then the bride can dance with the groom's father, the groom with his mother. If all that's too confusing, or your guests look like they're getting itchy feet watching you waltz around, the bridal dance is enough to get the celebration going. ssI,• DESIGN Well help you choose a suit or rental in a style andshade that promises to complement you, your bride and the entire wedding party. For travelling, choose from the wide selection of carefree casual wear. All of the incidentals and all of the necessities for a •perfect wedding wardrobe are yours from the extensive stock of Paul Pickett Ltd. TUXEDOS • CLASSY SYD SILVER FORMALS IV ORDER EARLY AT... ILL 794 Queen Si., KINCARDINE 396-2241 •Often guests are reluctant to leave until the newlyweds have headed out on their honeymoon, so keep this in mind.' Allow enough time to leave your reception; the guests will all want to say goodbye, and give you other words of advice. They'll want pic- • tures of you. in 3tour going -away clothes as well. You'll also need thne to throw the bouquet and garter, other prime picture -taking 1 • -; Moments; The bride tosses heri bouquet first to the single 'women and, as virtually every . single girl kiinws, the -one who catches it is supposed to be the next.down the aisle. The groOm throws the garter to the single men, and the same tradition holds true — he's supposed to be the next maninarried. •With all this accomplished, the honey- moon and your new life as a married cou- can ' begin. It pays to take a lesson from themis takes of others. Based on -this theory, the most common complaints of past bridesmaids have been compiled by Brides magazine, which also suggests how this year's ,brides can help smooth them out. • What they wore: Perhaps the most fre- quent complaint is that the bridesmaids didn't like the dresses the bride chose for them. They were the wrong color, the wrong style, were too expensive, or couldn't be worn again. While it's hard for the bride to please everyone, you can make the effort by trying this approach. At first, take only your maid of honor shopping with you and narrow down the almost limitless choice to three styles or so. Be sure to choose styles that twill flatter the attendants' varying figures. Full skirts and blouson tops, for example, look good on most figures. • You might try to include a smart two- piece or shorter style your attendants would • , • - • •• ' 1 Brides Drop in and discuss your bridal plans: Ask about our special Bridal rates 8 your FREE GIFT. •3964633 TROTIMINT- CLINIC &' SKCARE 532 flualaNSt. Klataidine ' • ., be able to wear again. Once you've made ',your preliminary selection, you're ready to schedule a time when the resrof the maids can C m he bridal Shop to vote on the final chokes. • How much they spent. Costs can add up when you consider that it's usual for atten- dants to pay for their own outfits, including shoes, accessories and perhaps an extra dress for the rehearsal party; wedding and shower gifts; and transportation, lodging and meals if they are coming from out of town. To help them out, see if friends and relatives could put your maids up, let them select their own shoes and provide some meals. 4 • What their duties were. The problem was that no one really explained what the at- tendants were expected to do. As a result, many a bridesmaid was even more nervous than the bride when she walked down the ai- sle. Be sure to brief your bridesmaids thoroughly,.and at the rehearsal, give them plenty of'tmie to Walk through their parts. Regarding their duties before the wedding, simply ask them for help when you need it — in choosing your dress, addressing invita- tions, welcoming out-of-town guests — but remember that they're busy people too. • How the weddhig affected the friend- ship. Many attendants complained that the bride became so involved in her plans that she seemed to lose interest in her bridesmaids. Be sensitive to their needs. Show them you haven't changed as a person or as a friend just because you're getting married. 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