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Groom’s mom can play big part in wedding, too
A mother of the groom can play
a big part in her son’s wedding.
It is customary for the groom’s
family to call on the bride’s family
first. Why not pick up the phone
and say how happy you are about
the engagement. If possible, in
vite them for an informal gather
ing of parents and the bride and
groom.
If the bride’s parents live away,
send a friendly note saying how
pleased you are about the engage
ment.
Arrange a pre-wedding visit or
arrive at the wedding site a few
days early to meet them.
Customarily the groom or his
parents pay for such items as
wedding and engagement rings,
marriage license, clergy’s fee,
corsages and boutonnieres. If you
feel you want to contribute more,
The groom of the nineties
Here comes the bride ... and
the groom. While the day still
belongs to the beautiful bride,
fashion and tradition are becom
ing more important to the groom
of the 90’s.
The social upheaval of the last
two decades have changed life
styles of both men and women.
Changing tastes have influenced
engagement and wedding gift
giving among couples. In 1989,
over 73 per cent of all brides
received diamond engagement
rings; women are increasingly
choosing to give that moment
back to their groom by giving him
a man’s diamond wedding band at
marriage.
The contemporary groom is
making a public statement about
his personal commitment.
Today’s fashions are also helping
talk it over with the bride and
groom and their family.
Be prompt with your guest list.
The bride or her mother will let
you know how many guests you
can invite. Do stick to her guide
lines as invitations have to be sent
six to eight weeks in advance.
Give the bride your list quickly
and add first and last names as
well as zip codes.
Get to know your future daugh
ter-in-law. A dinner party is
a pleasant way to introduce her to
other close relatives. Spend time
alone with her, take her shopping
or out to lunch.
Choose a suitable wedding
dress. Usually the bride’s mother
selects her dress first and informs
you of her choice. If you don’t
hear from her, contact her and ask
what she is planning to wear.
Your dress should be similar in
him make a truly personal state
ment at the wedding. Some
grooms may choose to wear
boutonnieres which contain
flowers that represent sentiments,
such as a sprig of ivy for fidelity.
Others are choosing unique acces
sories when outfitting themselves
for their weddings.
Ties and cummberbunds in an
array of colours and patterns give
the groom options for setting
himself apart from the rest of the
wedding party. Tuxedo diamond
stud sets turn a starched white
shirt from “plain and simple” to
“elegant and classic”, as do
diamond cufflinks sparkling at the
wrist.
Today’s groom is reminiscent of
a time centuries ago when fine
clothing and accessories including
jewellery were the pride and joy of
men.
length and in a color that will
blend with the mother of the
bride.
Make arrangements for out-of-
town guests. Many weddings are
held in the bride’s hometown, and
a number of the out-of-town
guests might be your friends and
relatives. You could check into
accommodations for guests. Get
travel information from the bride
and send maps and directions to
your friends.
Give a rehearsal dinner. In most
communities the parents of the
groom are expected to hold the
rehearsal dinner. The choice is up
to you. It doesn’t even have to be
a dinner, cocktails or coffee and
dessert can be just as much fun.
Be sure to check with the bride
and her mother on guests lists,
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time and locations. Don’t let your
party outshine the wedding.
Know your role in the cere
mony. Arrive at least 15 minutes
before the ceremony is to begin.
When the bride’s mother has
arrived, the head usher will escort
you on his arm to the first pew on
the right. Your husband will be
following along. If you’re di
vorced, your ex-husband will sit a
row or two behind you. Following
the ceremony, an usher will hurry
back up the aisle to escort you out.
Actively participate in the re
ception. Many people consider
you a hostess as much as the
bride’s mother. You could help
out by making sure all are up
dancing and having a good time.
Your first official duty is the
receiving line. Stand between the
bride and her mother and warmly
welcome the guests. If fathers
decided to stand in the receiving
line, you will stand between them.
Mingle but pay attendance to the
bride and groom and take your
cues from them.
Give the couple a gift they’ll
cherish. This is your opportunity
to give your son a gift he’ll use in
setting up his new home. It could
be as big as a car or as small and
sentimental as an old family
photograph. You may want to
pass on a family heirloom such as
a silver tea set at this time. You
may also wish to purchase some
thing brand new for the couple. It
is always nice to keep in touch
with the bride’s parents, arrange
a get-together to compare memor
ies of the big day.
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