The Lucknow Sentinel, 1979-07-25, Page 8e
Page 8--Lucknow Sentinel, Wednesday, July 25, 1979
Gro. up homes
Where the young learn a new life
BY DOROTHY SIMPSON
CffiLDRENS AID SOCIETY
The time is coming when
we are realizing the needs of
our young to develop individ-
ually. But dome have, diffi-
culties meeting these needs
at home. There are person-
ality conflicts, resentments
and several other obstacles
that alter the childs growth.
In order to help the child
meet these needs they are
removed from the home at
their inrter problems. At
home they were not able to
meet these needs which led
them to a state of conflict
with anyone they were in
contact with. The homes are
set up to handle various
types of problem children.
They work with detention,
after training school child-
ren, and ones that the Child -
rens Aid sends for special
help. Group homes can vary
in the kinds of children they
house but the main purpose
, the requests of their parents, is still the same. The differ -
the courts, the Childrens Aid ence is in the set up of the
or themselves. After they are home atmosphere itself.
removed a place to house Some homes can be set up
them must be found, One of.._ like,_a well -restricted family in
the places children are sent . order—fo—house minors and
is a group home,„,, -75,-, V the child is too
A group home houses active for this home there is a
children with emotional semi -secure home with lock -
problems that change their ed doors and alarms. For the
ability to cope with life. The child that has committed
children have a low concept serious crimes or is too hard
of the accepted behaviours to handle in the other homes
expected from them. The there is the maxi secure
children suffer from a deflat- home or institution. The time
ed ego and damaged self a child spends at a place
image that needs immediate depends upon how well they
attention. The home provides adjust and develop. The staff'
a new family atmosphere of the home and the society
that the children werenot work together on deciding
awareexisted. They are ex- the necessary time spent
posed to new feelings, man- with the child. Although the
nerisms and ways ofatom- care is on a short term basis
municating. In the life they it can be lengthened to
have left behind it is hard for benefit the child.
them to leave the depend- The children must learn to
•ence upon themselves and build up confidence in them -
begin to trust someone else. selves and those around
The main purpose of this them. They must learn to get
'home is to help children better schooling habits,
learn to discover and handle make and keep friends,
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change attitudes and behav-
iour and not to run away from
their problems. Through ac-
tivities set up by the group
home the children develop
interests and confidence in
any task they wish to tinder -
take. After a while the child-
ren begin to plan their own
activities to keep themselves
busy. They are never left
feeling bored because it
tends to cause depression.
Many of the children are
unaware of their problems
and get defensive when
faced with them. They put a
lot of effort into other
peoples affairs neglecting
their own. Resentment to-
wards adults is strong espec-
• ially toward an authority
figure, The staff of the group
homes has to work hard to
gain the trust from the child.
After they have the childs
frust even if it's only in part,
they must -help the child trust
themselves. For most of
these children their self
image is weak and when they
first come to the homes they
°don't care about what hap-
pens to them. These homes
provide a great opportunity
for these children to appreci-
ate a person they never knew
existed, themselves.
In many cases the child
feels they are wrong and
should be punished. They
even do things wrong in
order togeta punishment
confirming their suspicion.
In their minds they are the
cause of problems at home;
this is from their parents
constant reminding. When
they first enter the home
their ambition and health
habits are poor. They must
be taught basics like cleanli-
ness, and even how to wear
their clothes. Simple things
that most children learn from'
infancy is new to these
children. The child has to
learn about their importance
and care about it. They must
become responsible for their
actions and control their tem-
pers. It's a matter of being
able to judge a situation and
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prepared to handle it.
Not like most families,
these are temporary. One of
the ones in our area is Pine -
hill. The name was a joint
effort of the residing children
all with special problems that
need attention. John and
Katie Van Eeken are Mom
and Dad to these children but
at the same time they're
trained to notice and solve
problems. John and Katie
have more than patience they
have understanding. They
reach out to find why the
child is frustrated. The prob-
lem is not the anger but a
way of asking for heIR. The
children have come to expect
a certain kind of reaction for
their behaviours. This must
be noticed by the group
home staff in order to handle
the situation properly.
The home is set up on 'a
\ farm in a Mennonite com-
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munity. The neighbours are
good with the children and
never consider them to be a
problem. With the increasing
need for homes like these it
is hard ,to find communities
willing to help. The time and
effort spent with these child-
ren is endless and it's
practically impossible to find
people like the Van Eekens.
It's terrible to think 'that a
place for the redevelopment
of the young is needed. What
makes it hard is that we are
helping these children learn
after the damage is done.
With most of the children
being in their teens these
homes are dealing with sev-
ere adolescent problems. We
must remember though
they're not just children
they're the future. So if we
can help them understand
the potentials of a good life,
they can help build one..
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