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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1989-02-08, Page 21THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 8, 1989. PAGE 21. A 1953 wedding Bride inherited ready-made family Lawrence and Mildred Jacklin pose for a picture on their special day on December 12, 1953. month’s notice to my employer, and to tie up the loose ends of my city life. The senior Jacklins invited me back the next weekend, which was Thanksgiving. Lawrence and the children came to town on the Saturday, and when it was time for them to leave, Marlene insisted on staying with me. We talked to each other long after she should have been in bed, and her memory of the accident which had taken her mother was vivid, despite the fact that she had been just a wee thing at the time. She also told me enough about the series of housekeepers her father had had (I was the 13th!) that right then and there I was totally convinced that this was where I was needed, and I felt comfortable with the decision. The following weekend I came back to stay at the farm, and on Saturday, October 25, 1952 I came back to stay. It was quite an undertaking, and I’m sure that Lawrence must have often felt, as I did at times, that it would never work out. But at the school’s Christmas concert, the childrens’ teacher told me that she had noticed an enormous change in the children since I had come into their lives, and I knew I had found my calling. Baby Wayne did not start school until the following year, and I was glad to have one of “my” children at home with me to love. My divorce was granted on November 21, 1952, and Lawrence and I were married in my home­ town of Waterloo on December 12, less than three weeks later. The children had all called me “Moth­ er” from the very beginning, and never before had any word meant so much to me. But being a step-mother is by no means always an easy task. As the children grew up we all had our differences, especially during the terrible ‘teens - some of which must have been just as difficult for Lawrence and for the children themselves as they were for me. My mother always said she sympathized with all of us, and I realized that one needs the pa­ tience of Job, the wisdom of Solomen and nerves of steel to be a stepmother, and I must have had at least a trace of those qualities, because we all survived, and after 35 years of “togetherness” are all still on good terms with each other. There have been good years and bad: roses have thorns but thorns also have roses, and I have often thought just how empty my life would have been without my kids, and now without my son-in-law and daughters-in-law, who have pro­ vided us with seven precious grandchildren ... at long last, babies of my own to love and watch grow! Lawrence and I quit farming in 1957, bought a new car, took the children out of school and went on a month-long holiday - our first ever! - to the west coast. When we returned, we rented another farm house in Morris Twp., where we lived for 10 years while both Lawrence and I worked, then bought our present home in Brus­ sels in 1967. Lawrence has now been retired for 10 years and I for six, and we have always been grateful for the faith, trust, courage and spunk which has made our marriage work so well. We have pulled in double harness for 35 years; we think we can happily jog along for all that are left to us! Bubbly advice Once the problem of popping the question has been solved, the difficulty in popping the cham­ pagne cork has to be dealt with. Paul Masson Vineyards proffers no advice for the former, but suggests this for the bubbly: •Remove the foil capsule to expose the wire cage. •Untwist the metal ring until the cage expands and can easily be removed. •Hold the bottle in one hand at a 45-degree angle (away from your­ self and your guests) while holding the cork in place with your other hand. •Twist the bottle slowly until the cork pops open. Champagne, the vintners sug­ gest, should be served in a flute glass to concentrate the bouquet and show off the bubbles. Kitchener-Waterloo Record, December 12, 1953 Mrs. Mildred M. Thomas, daughter of Mrs. Thornton, 172 Moore Ave. South, Waterloo, and the late Mr. Edmund Thornton, became the bride of Mr. Lawrence Wesley Jacklin, son of Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Jacklin of RR 5, Brussels, at Trinity Memorial Chapel Dec. 12. Rev. O.P. Hossie officiated. The bride wore a street-length dress of blush ripple taffeta featur­ ing a Queen Anne neckline and full skirt. She wore black accessories and a corsage of red roses and white feathered mums. Mrs. Henry Lindner, Bridgeport, was her sister’s only attendant. She wore a twilight blue crepe dress with satin trim and black accessor­ ies. Her corsage was deep pink roses and white mums. Mr. Fred Noemar, Bridgeport, was the best man. Following a wedding dinner at the Hacienda, Waterloo, a recep­ tion was held at the home of the bride’s mother. The hostess re­ ceived guests wearing a cocoa­ brown faille dress with matching accessories and a corsage of John- anna Hill roses. The bridegroom’s mother wore a lace-trimmed pea­ cock blue crepe dress with navy accessories and pink rose corsage. The couple will live near Brus­ sels. BY MILDRED JACKLIN BRUSSELS I filed for divorce in 1952 after 11 years of a disastrous first marriage, and set out to make something for my life. I had known for some time that my most cherished dream of having children of my own was not possible, so I decided to put a classified ad in the London Free Press to try to find a job as a housekeeper in a mother­ less home, where I could at least have children to love. I got so many replies that I could hardly believe there could be that many unfortunate children in the area, but feeling sorry for them certainly took my mind off my own troubles! Among the replies was one from Andy Jacklin, whose son, Law­ rence, had been left alone to raise four children, as the result of an automobile accident which had killed his wife and their infant son three years earlier. I found out later that Lawrence himself had refused to answer any more “position wanted” ads because of a long list of unsatisfactory housekeepers he had had, and was struggling alone to raise his children and farm as well, with the help of his parents and other relatives. Some instinct told me that this was the letter I should answer, and a meeting was arranged for Satur­ day, October 4, 1952 at the Jacklin home in Brussels, where I met Lawrence for the first time, along with his children, Gordon, 9, Don, 8, Wayne, 4, and Marlene, 6. After a short visit, we all went out to Lawrence’s farm on the 16th of Grey (now owned by Bob and Muriel Hart). The house was set far back from the road, and struck me as a place where a city-bred girl like myself could get very lonely and depress­ ed; but 1 quickly realized if I was going to take on the challenge of raising four children, I would likely be too busy to really notice the loneliness! Between us we decided to give the arrangement a try, and I returned to London to give a WILMA SCOTT FLOWERS A very special floral service for your very special day! sultation at a time to suit the Call 357-3778 ‘ z We offer - Private con bride-to-be, by appointment evenings and weekends. No obligation. Estimate. 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