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Marriage and pearls: a love affair
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Possessing a radiance and beauty that reflects the bride s inner glow,
cultured pearl accessories are the perfect jewellery for her special
day.
Marrying into the
new step-family
Complexities that arise with
adaption and adoption can make
remarriage an emotional event for
all family members. Bride’s maga
zine offers these suggestions for
smoothing over the transition from
single parent to strong stepfamily.
BEFORE THE WEDDING
Planning a life together is impor
tant for every couple but, for a
stepfamily, it is essential. Topics
that can create conflict in marriage
- how time, money and energy will
be spent - become exaggerated
even further by the many family
members who opinions need to be
considered.
Other conflicts can result from
differences in temperament, back
ground and traditions. The best
forum for working out such con
flicts is the family meeting, where
each member expresses his or her
feelings and needs, while everyone
contributes possible solutions.
Parents should also discuss be
fore the marriage what role the
stepparent will play in the child’s
upbringing. ‘‘Some of the
successful stepparents have
their role as similar to that
camp counsellor, an adult
shows interest and affection yet
provides leadership,” says Carol
Brady, Ph.D., a clinical psycholo
gist in Houston, Texas.
DURING THE WEDDING
From the invitation, which can
be issued with the children’s
names announcing the formation of
a “new family”, to the reception,
where the children’s favorite music
can be played, there is one rule:
When children are a part of your
life together, include them in your
wedding as much as possible.
They can be your attendants or
altar boys, ring bearers or flower
girls. Your vows to each other
might be followed by a family vow
or a prayer of family unity with
each member adding a phrase.
Your child could take the place of
a member of the ritual no longer
most
seen
of a
who
alive: if the bride’s father has
passed away, her child might
escort her to the altar. Or, as
Bride’s magazine’s associate editor
Millie Martini and her fiance
decided, show the importance of
the child by having him or her at
your side at the altar.
“CoCo, John’s daughter, served
in the role of ‘best man’ at our
wedding,” Martini explained.
‘‘John felt that there was no one
else he’d rather have beside him as
he made this important commit
ment, and she was excited to be
asked.”
Even if your child seems to have
adjusted to the idea of your
marriage, the wedding day may
surprise all of you by making him
or her feel insecure. Assign a close
relative to reassure and give hugs
when needed throughout the day.
If your children feel uncomfort
able with the idea of participating
in the ceremony, include them in
other ways. Assign them seats of
honor, or mention their names in a
special prayer.
Give each child a gift to com
memorate the day. Something that
they can enjoy immediately, like a
camera, engraved jewelry or tape
recorder, will further remind them
of how special the day was when
you became a family.
Celebrate the return from your
honeymoon (which you should take
without your children) with a date
for the whole family - tickets to the
theatre, or a sporting event.
*****
Here with a loaf of bread beneath
the bough,
A flask of wine, a book of verse -
and Thou
Beside me singing in the wilder
ness -
And wilderness is paradise enow.
-Edward Fitzgerald
The wedding day symbolizes the
beginning of a life-long commit
ment and everlasting love shared
between two people. It’s a time of
joy and celebration, a day in life
when perfection is a-’must.
It is important then, that nothing
on that hallowed day be faked.
Jewelry chosen for the bridal pair
should be central to the occasion
and no less than their heart-felt
love.
Traditionally, the pearl has been
long associated with love, marriage
and good fortune. It’s no surprise
that precious pearls given to the
bride on her wedding day have
become the most treasured of
heirlooms for generations after.
From Mark Antony and Cleopa
tra to Richard Burton and Elizabeth
Taylor, these cherished gems have
woven an almost magical spell of
romance since the dawn of time.
Cultured pearls possess a lustre
and beauty that reflect and intensi
fy the radiance of the bride’s inner
glow. They are available in a wide
variety of flattering lengths.
A single strand choker, for
example, is well-suited for a high,
round neckline, while a matinee or
opera length necklace has better
proportions for a high standing
collar or a plunging neckline. A
luxurious bib of several stunning
strands of cultured pearls is an
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opulently alluring way to highlight
a deep, scooped neckline.
To achieve an extra note of
refined elegance, add to that
treasured necklace a pair of cultur
ed pearl earrings.
For the groom, a pair of cultured
pearl cufflinks is elegant and
handsomely appropriate. Whatever
type of cultured pearl jewelry is
chosen, experts advise purchasing
the highest quality cultured pearls
affordable.
Choose color to go with skin and
hair tones: Rose hued for fair
blondes and cream colored for
darker hair and complexions.
I have an excellent selection
of Fresh or Silk Bouquets
& a large selection of
Flowers to choose from.
Perfectly symmetrical, round
pearls are most expensive, but an
off-round or baroque shape has an
intriguing naturalness.
Very few pearls are completely
free of surface blemishes, giving
each pearl its own unique charac
ter. But the most important factor
for enticing beauty is a cultured
pearl’s lustre, the deep-seated
inner glow that gives the jewel
warmth and life.
Whatever length of style you
choose, the beauty and value of
cultured pearls like the love pro
mised on that special day, will
endure for years to come.
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attention necessary to
express those memor
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wedding and reception
Call us today, or stop
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special occasion to
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