The Citizen, 1987-02-04, Page 31THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 4, 1987. PAGE 31.
Rules for second
weddings are now
more relaxed
Nearly 30 per cent of all
marriages today are remarriages,
but the number of remarriages
isn’t all that is growing - so is the
spirit of celebration surrounding
the happy event.
Perhaps as a result of the large
number of remarriages, weddings
in which one or both partners have
been married before are becoming
more elaborate. While it used to be
that- the ceremony was limited to
immediate family, and the post
nuptial festivities were kept low-
key, now there are few, if any,
restrictions in the name of eti
quette.
The remarrying bride may wear
white; the ceremony and reception
may be as large as the family
wishes; a second engagement may
well be announced in the newspap
er. Once, these actions were all
frowned upon, according to bridal
authorities.
Current etiquette calls for con
centrating on making guests com
fortable, and bringing feelings of
pleasure to the members of the
bridal party and their families.
St Valentine's Day
perfect date
for Bridal Show
More than a dozen Stratford
merchants will be hosting a bridal
fair next week, which will show
case wedding fashions, as well as
offering professional wedding day
advice and other helpful informa
tion to newlyweds.
The fair takes place on February
12. at the Knights of Columbus
Community Centre on Lome Av
enue. Stratford. In keeping with
the Valentine’s Day theme,
“Brides. Grooms and Love,” all
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If, for example, the bride missed
a big wedding the first time
around, she can now walk down the
aisle in a formal dress, escorted by
her father, or by a close family
friend. If either the bride or
bridegroom has children, they can
be included in the ceremony as
flower girls, ring bearers, or
pages. At a small ceremony, the
children may stand with the
couple, orthey mightread a special
poem or prayer.
Religious restrictions against
second marriages have been eased
in many faiths, but the couple
should make an appointment to
visit their clergyman once they
have decided on the size and type of
ceremony they wouldlike. Ifthe
minister is reluctant to perform the
ceremony, they want, they could
ask other remarried friends for
suggestions, or call other local
churches.
Although the traditional form on
invitations may be observed, it is
also acceptable for the bride and
bridegroom to send out their own
announcement.
net proceeds from the non-profit
event will be donated to the Ontario
Heart and Stroke Foundation.
Tickets are on sale at $4 each, or
$7 per couple, and may be reserved
at Bradshaw’s gift stores in
Stratford. Additional information
about the show may be obtained by
calling 1-800-265-4569.
Bradshaw’s Bridal Consultant
Elaine Hardie says the show is
expected to sell out early, and
recommends buying tickets in
advance.
One area in which remarriages
have made a big difference is in
wedding dresses. Not only is the
bride older, but she and her
husband are usually paying the
wedding costs themselves, and
they want it to reflect their tastes.
Bythetimeawomanis30, she will
certainly know what looks good on
her: if she never wears ruffles, she
won’t go out and buy them for her
wedding.
As a result, manufacturers and
retailers are making and showing a
more varied selection of bridal
outfits, and the bride may choose
anything from the traditionally
simple cream-colored suit to
romantically long and lacy gown in
white, or in her favourite color. The
only accessory best omitted is the
veil - a long symbol of youth. A
more sophisticated choice might
be a hat, cloche, or wreath of
flowers.
Another area in which many
changes have been made is in the
choice of wedding fits. Most
remarriages are between two
people who are already established
in a household, and consequently
usually have the basics, such as
potsandpans, flatware, crystal
and china. As a result, stores which
keep bridal registries have ex
panded the variety of items for
which a couple might register, to
include such items as luggage,
stereo equipment and even per
sonal computers.
The second-time-around recep
tion may be as extravagant a party
as the couple wishes, complete
with all the wedding traditions - a
receiving line, the first dance, the
ceremonial cutting of the cake, and
the champagne toast. A warm way
to welcome guests is for the couple
to head the reciving line them
Solution
selves, rather than leaving it to the
parents. They, in turn, will be free
to circulate among the guests.
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honeymoon is still every bit as
important as a first; getting
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