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Take care
in selecting
a disc jockey
Your wedding day is the most
importantdayofyourlife-aday
you hope will be filled with
pleasant memories. Booking a
professional disc jockey is a very
important requirement for the
success of your reception dance.
Unfortunately, this important
decision is most likely one of the
most difficult a bride may face.
Develop a good
relationship with
your mother-in-law
When you hear the phrase
“mother-in-law” the word “joke”
often springs to mind. Throughout
history, the mother by marriage
has been a figure of fun in folklore,
literature, even botany: The alter
nate name forthesnakcplantis
"mother-in-law’s tongue!”
But, joking aside, is it really
impossible to get along with your
mother-in-law? A recent book.
Between Mothers-in-Law &
Daughters-in-Law, by Helen S.
Arnstein, has this advice for young
people getting married today:
•Realize that times have chang
ed. The days are long past when a
mother-in-law dropped by at her
daughter-in-law’s home, lifted the
lid of the simmering pot to inspect
her son’s dinner, or commented on
the dishes stacked in the sink.
Your mother-in-law, if she’s like
many women today, holds a job and
leads an active life - with little time
or energy left over to inspect your
home. Her own home may be far
from perfect!
•Let go of preconceived notions.
First impressions can set the tone
of a relationship. Think of your
mother-in-law as your spouse’s
mother, instead of associating her
with the stereotype. She is the
mother of the person you love, and
part of the things you love were
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wines, cakes and caterers’ delica
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own good judgement when choos
ing music services for your wedd
ing. Here’s some suggestions to
help you make a more enlightened
decision:
fostered by her. Giver her every
chance to be known as an
individual.
•Borrow from her wisdom now
and then. Put yourself in your
mother-in-law’s place and think
how an older person would feel if
there was nothing she could
contribute to the younger genera
tion. So, if she suggests something
in good faith, give it a try. After all,
under her tutelage, your spouse
turned out pretty well!
•Should she nag and complain,
realize that this behavior may stem
from unhappy experiences in her
life and may not necessarily be a
reflection on you. The ‘ ‘ interfering
mother-in-law” often doesn’t have
any outlets for her abilities. You
and your spouse might be able to
work on that.
•Check your own behavior.
Could you unknowingly be doing or
saying something to upset her?
Areyouascriticalofherwaysas
she is of yours? “Speaking out,”
regardless of which generation
does it, is more likely to be
successful if done at the right time
and with tact.
•Give it time. With the right
attitude, problems often resolve
themselves simply through living
... and learning.
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•You should receive a written
confirmation that your disc jockey
is indeed commited to you for your
wedding day before any deposit is
paid. He should alsobe prepared to
contact you and confirm the
booking about a month in advance.
• Make sure that your disc jockey
will be using professional sound
equipment. Home stereo equip
ment is unable to stand up to the
strains of commercial applications
and may break down in the middle
of your reception. And because
even the very best equipment can
still malfunction, satisfy yourself
that your disc jockey or DJ
company can provide back-up
equipment available on short
notice should problems arise.
•Your DJ should also provide
assurances that another qualified
disc jockey will be available if your
disc jockey is ill or is involved in an
accident. Never believe that it
couldn’t happen to you.
•You should be satisfied that
your disc jockey has adequate
training and experience and knows
the etiquette involved for your
wedding.
For example, a disc jockey who
works on a regular basis in high
schools or nightclubs may not know
anything about wedding proce
dures. He should be prepared to sit
down with you and your fiance
prior to the wedding not only to
discuss music selections with you,
but to offer helpful suggestions as
well.
•Weddings will present a disc
jockey with what is probably the
widest range of both age groups
and musical tastes of any type of
booking he may do. Be sure that
your DJ has and will play requests
and other music to please all of your
guests.
•Be sure and ask for references
from past customers and follow
them up. Don’t ask to come and see
the disc jockey work. Firstly, you
probably wouldn’t like someone
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and besides, the crowd the DJ may
be playing to may be totally
different than those attending your
wedding.
•As you shop around, be sure to
ask exactly what the disc jockey is
offering for your money. Remem
ber, it may be worthwhile paying a
few dollars more to see your guests
dancing up a storm at 12:30 as
opposed to leaving the party at 9
p. m. because of poor music, or
worse, no music at all.
If you need more assistance or
information, you may want to call
the office of the Canadian Disc
Jockey Association at (416) 755-
3898. This association was formed
to improve the disc jockey industry
and requires its members to
maintain high standards of quality
and service.
It has often been said that a disc
jockey can “make or break’’ a
party. For your wedding, choose
your DJ well and you’ll have good
memories of your wedding day for
vears to come.
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