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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1987-02-04, Page 29Etiquette of'Thank you's' important Saying “thankyou" is as much a part ofthc wedding as shopping for the wedding dress. Done promptly and with love, it puts a fine “finis'' on the event which has been called one of life's most satisfying experiences. Brides are advised to take as their motto the old-fashioned homily to “start as you mean to go on." In other words, get started on the thank-you’s as soon as the gifts begin arriving. Some brides set up a system so they don't lose track of any gifts or donors. They may elect to use 3x5 cards, a ledger or a wedding planner book, but a simple notebook will also do quite well. Using whatever system you've decided upon, start by writing down the name and address of each guest couple or family, and Wedding plans can be tip-off to burglars Theft during a w edding can be a nightmare, but there are ways of dealing with the special risks which can come with special occasions. Some burglars may read the newspapers that run the wedding announcement in advance, to find out when the families’ homes will be unoccupied and easily access­ ible. A burglar may also be alerted by the publishing of marriage bans at the church, or by a dishonest ower Church Flowers to harmonize your colours jizaqicB by Jean Silk Flowers for your Wedding to treasure forever Custom Made Beaded Headpieces! • Fresh or silk bouquets, an impressive selection of different seasonal flowers • Floral archways for rent, colours to co-ordinate with yours indicate whether they will attend the wedding, and what gift they have sent. When the thank-you note has been written, mark down the date you mail it. For super-organized indivi­ duals. it's a time-saver to address an envelope when you first set up the system. Another way to be well-prepared is to order formal note paper suitable for thank-you’s at the same time you order wedding invitations. It will come as no surprise to learn that it is expected that you will write a personal note of appreciation for every wedding gift you receive. The bridegroom can help, especially for those indivi­ duals known only by him. Etiquette books decree that the note should be personal and mention the specific gift which has been given. employee of the caterer, florist, jeweller, or others providing wed­ ding services. If you don’t have a good dog to leave in the home, the easiest way to protect against wedding day crime is to get a relative or friend to stay at the house with the gifts during the wedding and reception. And while the temptation to show off wedding gifts maybe hard to resist, never leave valuables where they may be visible through a window. EVENING & WEEKEND APPOINTMENTS AVAILABLE Another general rule of eti­ quette is that gifts that arrive before the wedding should be acknowledged within two weeks of their arrival. Those coming later should be acknowledged within a month after the honeymoon. If chores make it impossible to get to thank-you notes, it is permissible to sc nd printed cards to let your friends and family know their gift has been received and that you will follow up with a personal note. A typical form suggested by bridal advisors: Miss Ann Marie Brown acknowledges with plea­ sure the receipt of your wedding gift and will take pleasure in writing a personal note at an early dale. Advisers also note that the classic thank-you note should be written in blue or back ink on a good grade of folded notepaper in ivory or white. Your name or monogram may be printed on the notepaper, but don’t use your married name or initial until after the wedding. A thank-you note to a married couple is traditionally addressed to the wife with her husband referred to in to the body of the note. Nowadays, however, you may address both without breaching the rules of etiquette. Also be sure tomentionyourownhusband or fiance whenever possible. If you have received money, it is polite to indicate how you plan to use it. If you haven’t met the gift givers yet, you could indicate that your fiance has told you something about them. If a group gift has been given, perhaps from office mates, it is permissible to write one thank-you note addressed to all in the group. Then you can thank the group’s members individually when you see them. If you are given a gift that you plantoreturn, however, mum’s the word. It’s perfectly all right to return gifts you can’t use as long as it can be done without asking the giver where the item was purchas­ ed. THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 4, 1987. PAGE 29. 11 Albert St CLINTON Have A Shower, Trousseau Tea or Rehearsal Party to Plan? Let us make it easy on you •Cheese Trays •Vegetable Trays •Meat Trays •Hors d'oeuvres •Sandwiches •\Nt Deliver PRICES TO FIT ANY BUDGET