HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1987-02-04, Page 29Etiquette of'Thank
you's' important
Saying “thankyou" is as much a
part ofthc wedding as shopping for
the wedding dress. Done promptly
and with love, it puts a fine “finis''
on the event which has been called
one of life's most satisfying
experiences.
Brides are advised to take as
their motto the old-fashioned
homily to “start as you mean to go
on." In other words, get started on
the thank-you’s as soon as the gifts
begin arriving. Some brides set up
a system so they don't lose track of
any gifts or donors. They may elect
to use 3x5 cards, a ledger or a
wedding planner book, but a
simple notebook will also do quite
well.
Using whatever system you've
decided upon, start by writing
down the name and address of each
guest couple or family, and
Wedding plans can
be tip-off to burglars
Theft during a w edding can be a
nightmare, but there are ways of
dealing with the special risks which
can come with special occasions.
Some burglars may read the
newspapers that run the wedding
announcement in advance, to find
out when the families’ homes will
be unoccupied and easily access
ible.
A burglar may also be alerted by
the publishing of marriage bans at
the church, or by a dishonest
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indicate whether they will attend
the wedding, and what gift they
have sent. When the thank-you
note has been written, mark down
the date you mail it.
For super-organized indivi
duals. it's a time-saver to address
an envelope when you first set up
the system. Another way to be
well-prepared is to order formal
note paper suitable for thank-you’s
at the same time you order
wedding invitations.
It will come as no surprise to
learn that it is expected that you
will write a personal note of
appreciation for every wedding gift
you receive. The bridegroom can
help, especially for those indivi
duals known only by him. Etiquette
books decree that the note should
be personal and mention the
specific gift which has been given.
employee of the caterer, florist,
jeweller, or others providing wed
ding services.
If you don’t have a good dog to
leave in the home, the easiest way
to protect against wedding day
crime is to get a relative or friend to
stay at the house with the gifts
during the wedding and reception.
And while the temptation to show
off wedding gifts maybe hard to
resist, never leave valuables where
they may be visible through a
window.
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Another general rule of eti
quette is that gifts that arrive
before the wedding should be
acknowledged within two weeks of
their arrival. Those coming later
should be acknowledged within a
month after the honeymoon. If
chores make it impossible to get to
thank-you notes, it is permissible
to sc nd printed cards to let your
friends and family know their gift
has been received and that you will
follow up with a personal note.
A typical form suggested by
bridal advisors: Miss Ann Marie
Brown acknowledges with plea
sure the receipt of your wedding
gift and will take pleasure in
writing a personal note at an early
dale.
Advisers also note that the
classic thank-you note should be
written in blue or back ink on a good
grade of folded notepaper in ivory
or white. Your name or monogram
may be printed on the notepaper,
but don’t use your married name or
initial until after the wedding.
A thank-you note to a married
couple is traditionally addressed to
the wife with her husband referred
to in to the body of the note.
Nowadays, however, you may
address both without breaching
the rules of etiquette. Also be sure
tomentionyourownhusband or
fiance whenever possible.
If you have received money, it is
polite to indicate how you plan to
use it. If you haven’t met the gift
givers yet, you could indicate that
your fiance has told you something
about them. If a group gift has been
given, perhaps from office mates,
it is permissible to write one
thank-you note addressed to all in
the group. Then you can thank the
group’s members individually
when you see them.
If you are given a gift that you
plantoreturn, however, mum’s
the word. It’s perfectly all right to
return gifts you can’t use as long as
it can be done without asking the
giver where the item was purchas
ed.
THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 4, 1987. PAGE 29.
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