HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 1988-02-10, Page 21THE CITIZEN, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 10, 1988. PAGE 21.
Explain duties to make ushers' jobs easier
Being an usher in a friend’s
wedding is an experience that’s an
honor and usually a lot of fun, too.
But, according to Bride’s maga
zine, some ushers do have one
complaint: The bride and groom
never tell them exactly what they’d
like them to do. So they flounder,
feeling that they're somehow
falling down on the job.
If you're getting married soon,
you can smooth the way for your
ushers by making clear plans now:
•Make arrangements for wedd
ing formalwear as soon as possible
- toavoid wrongsizesand forgotten
accessories. Ushers who live in
the area can easily drop by your
selected formalwear shop for then-
fittings. Out-of-town ushers can be
measured at a formalwear shop in
their respective cities and then
send you the measurements.
Ask one reliable resident usher
Many couples taking
vows over again
Have you ever said to your
husband or wife, “I love you so
much I’d marry you all over
again?” There’s a way to make
good on your promise: Have a
reaffirmation ceremony.
Paul Newman and Joanne
Woodward have had one. So have
Mr. and Mrs. William Shatner.
According to Barbara Tober, Edi-
tor-in-Chief of Bride’s magazine,
‘‘Across the United States, the
custom of reaffirming one’s wedd
ing vows is fast becoming popular
for couples who are happily
married and want to say so to each
other and the world.”
When, in particular, might a
couple want to rededicate their
commitment to each other? Some
choose a significant anniversary -
maybe the fifth or the 25th. Others
mark a major event, such as the
birth of a child or a child’s
marriage.
Still others are prompted to
renew their vows after they’ve
successfully weathered a period of
marital stress and decided to stay
together.
To plan a reaffirmation cere
mony:
to be in charge of reminding the
other attendants to get measured
and to pick up the out-of-town
ushers’ tuxedoes before the wedd
ing.
•Arrange for accommodations
for out-of-towners. Perhaps a
resident usher could offer his home
to groomsmen who are coming
from far away? Your ushers might
also help reserve rooms for
out-of-town wedding guests, eith
er in homes or hotels.
•Explain when and where the
rehearsal dinner, as well as
pre-wedding parties, and the
ceremony will take place. Set the
attendants’ parties and other
late-night celebrations for the
weekend before the ceremony - to
prevent morning-after hangovers
and bloodshot eyes at the altar.
And save the night before your
wedding for an early-evening
•First speak to your clergyman.
He will help you work out your own
service, complete with readings,
music, evenaprocessional. Anoth-
eroptionisforyoutoarrange an
interlude for the ceremony within
an anniversary or other party you ’ll
have.
•Decide what vows you’ll recite.
Youcouldrepeatyour marriage
vows, having the clergy insert
something like ‘‘renewing their
promise in the presence of God.”
Or you could write your vows
yourselves.
For example, you might want to
make pledges relating to patience,
health, a sense of humour or ability
to communicate.
•Plan a reception if you wish. It
can be anything you want, from a
dinner for just family to a large
cocktail party. Carry out the theme
by including some classic wedding
touches such as champagne and a
festive cake. Decorate the party
area with photos from your wedd
ing.
•Choose your outfits. As the
“bride,” you might bring your
actual wedding dress out of storage
for the event. Or you could shop for
a new, more sophisticated look.
rehearsal dinner - to ensure that
out-of-town attendants, who may
arrive only one day before the
ceremony, will be there.
•Your best man will be respon
sible for holding the bride’s
wedding ring. Recommend that he
keep the ring in its box - not loose in
his pocket (where it may get
temporarily lost) - or on his finger
(which might swell).
•Tell your attendants exactly
what you want them to do at the
wedding: when and where they
should dress; when and where they
"Old" is new for bridesmaids
Traditional styles are what’s
‘ ‘ new’ ’ in bridesmaid dressing this
year. The looks are distinctively
feminine, and colours are soft and
pretty.
Ruffles, puffs, lace and bows all
lend excitement to simple bodices,
while back details, such as deep V
cuts, add interest.
According to Susan Thompson,
dress buyer for Susie’s, a national
chain of women’s apparel stores,
there are “increasing trends” in
tea lengths, which are cut just
belowthecalf. “Ofcourse, long
Are you having trouble
finding that perfect
wedding dress,
headpiece or hat?
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It's simple... just
bring in a picture,"
and Carol & Muriel
will reproduce it
as closely as
possible.
•Many spring fabrics
and patterns arriving
daily
•Bring in your
attendants and mother
of the bride and groom
and we will outfit them
to make your wedding
an unforgettable event!
Clinton
Muriel Elliott
357-1777
17 Victoria St. Fabrics in Clinton
should greet guests; any special
seating arrangements; how they
can helproundupstragglersfor
the wedding photographer.
•Ushers act as extensions of the
host of the wedding. They should
keep an eye on the guests -
especially those who are elderly.
They mightdriveordirectgueststo
the reception, get them drinks and
food, help guests who have
overimbibed, or serve as trouble
shooters to quietly resolve a
problem.
to-the-floor lengths are still impor
tant,” she reminds us.
Pink continues to reign in the No.
1 position on the colour chart, while
pale yellow, aqua, peach, blue and
lavender also remain popular. In
addition, some jewel tones, such as
red, royal and teal, are being
shown.
Lace gloves, pearl jewellery and
fancy hair ornaments all add
feminine touches, while mid to
high-heeled pumps complete the
look.
According to Bill Wyatt, wo
•Ushers can help smooth your
departure from the reception.
They can carry gifts to your car, as
well as transport the presents to
your home; hold the car keys,
passports, traveler's checks, plane
tickets; pack luggage into the
getaway car; drive you to the
airport or train station; and return
formalwear.
Remember not to be too de
manding. It’s your wedding, but
your ushers have busy lives of their
own. Ifyou ask for a special favour,
thank them for a job well done.
men's dress shoe buyer for Kinney
Shoes, shoe styles “are starting to
open up a little,” with lots of
cutouts and open toes. Lace, satin
and peau de soie are excellent
choices for bridesmaids since the
materials can easily be dyed to
match the dress.
In fact, some shoe stores, such as
Kinney, provide this service at no
additional cost to the customer.
With all the dress and shoe
styles being shown this year, one
message rings clear: The look for
bridesmaids is feminine and pret
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