HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1978-05-10, Page 13TEA AND CAKE — Corrinna Stevenson serves tea and cake to Mrs. Joan Bernard
and daughter Cindy at the Rebekah's Variety Fair held in Brussels on Saturday.
(Post Photo)
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inStittlti011'S 11411)Q, sttrrounded by
strangers, Because of this, death
has 'weenie "awe$Qtrte-",
freighted down with anxieties. "It
comes as a .stranger, not- a$
_something along the way," he
said.
The speaker referred to the five
ages many patients experience
before death, Speaking mainly to
the people who !mist cleat with the
patient during these times, lie
said the stage of denial is often.
the hardest to cope with. He said
the patient must not be deprived
of a need to talk about it and those
around him must be willing to
listen. "Do not play down the
seriousness 'of the disease," he
said, "and don't give false
hope."
The anger stage can also be
very difficult on others. The
patient's anger is often directed
toward people, "They are angry
at what you represent, you who
are full of life," he said. Their
anger is often caused by a feeling
of being cheated. They will never
see their grandchildren, they
won't see their sons graduate,
etc., and this regret is manifested
in anger. They arc also angry at a
body that they have pampered all
these years, only to have it "do
them in". Though often difficult,
the'speaker u rged these people to
be treated with respect. "Don't
take the anger personally." he
warned.
The third stage of bargaining
takes place when the patient tries
for one last chance at life and
thinks he may be rewarded for
good behavior. "We must listen
to this bargaining and not write it:
off," he said, "as .sotnetimes
these people do get a. reprieve".
The fourth stage, coming just
prior to the acceptance stage, is
the stage of depression when the
patient is preparing himself "to
lose everyting that has ever been
important to him". He does not
need attempts to cheer him at this
point. What are needed are fewer
words, simple shared silence, He
must be allowed to cry and to say
goodbye.
If the four previous stages are
allowed, Mr, Ross feels the
patient can move into the final
stage of acceptance with "quiet
.expectation, almost
anticipation". This is a stage
almost devoid of feeling,- when
silence and touch are important.
"don't encourage the patient to
'hang in' or 'be strong'.
The • morning session ended
with a film produced for Calvary
Hospital, Bronx, New York. and
1011owed one man's journey
through the diagnosis of a
terminal illness, through, the
stages, until that final stage 'of
acceptance. Small group dis-
Lussions about the film brought
many ideas and impressions;
many felt that the major message
of the film lay in the regret felt by
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speaking to about ISO people
fretu this area of Western Ontario
who attended a seminaron death
and bereavement in St. Andrew's
Presbyterian Church on Wednes-
day of last week, The event was
sponsored jointly by the Wing-
ham and District Ministerial
Association and, the •Winghaln,
and, District Hospital.
Mr, Ross expressed regret that
death is removes:: front familiar
iAtrrottndings. When. a patient
nears death, be is removed to .an
institution. placed between un-
familiar sheets stamped with the
Ti-1n BRUSSFI,S POST, MAY 10, 1978
13
Workshop on death held
from, the Wiugham Adance Times
Institutions are placed in our
midst because death often makes
people feel they are not adequate
to cope alone. This was the
thought shared by Rev, Robert
Ross. assistant chaplain at K-W
Hospital, Kitchener. He was
Give them an inch and they'll take a mile.
Boy, when it comes to those metric people,
they're" doing just that.
Okay, so I gave them an inch. That didn't
seem too bad--trading in all my inches. feet an
yards for all of their centimeters, decimeters
and millimeters.
Not that it wasn't easy: I'm having trouble
yet remembering what's what. Trying to get
metric words straight is like trying to find a
house in a new suburb. The houses not only
look alike, but the streets have all the same
sounding names--Pine Ridge, Oak Crest,
Maple Knoll and Fir Hill. All those same
sounds and words run through my brain like a
sieve. There's nothing distinctive to make
them snag on my memory and stay.
But the words yard, feet and inches never
gave me any trouble:They're different enough
to make me remember. And, let's face it,
they've been around my lifetime.
But okay, metric people, I figured, have it
your way. Take away my beloved inch and my
measuring system built on threes and twelves.
You say units of ten are easier to calculate.
Yqu say we need metric to standardize the
world's weights and measures. You say we
can take part better in the world's market
place. Trade and compete with the same
measuring system. '
Why not go along with the crowd? Make
things easier for everybody. •
Weil, You can count me out when yousayit's
easier on everybody, I find it one big,
headache. Thin. tens bring on more pain than
tny threes ever did. Besides, three is a good
Working number, And with the barest of
practice, l can divide into three as well as ten.
Three has always been a big number. So
many things in life comes in threes. Knife,
fork and spoon: Small, medium and large:
Coffee, milk and cream. In fact, three is a kind
of magical mystical and holy number. Take
the Trinity; Father, Son and Holy Spirit or
Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
Did you ever wonder why so many old
stories come in threes? The Three Beat%
Three Billy Coats Gruff and the Three Pigs.
Have you ever noticed in speeches or prose
how illustrations, examples and words often
come in threes? IlOW kit end stress is usually
in units of three?
Three Is a good count. A natural Unit, And if
the good Lord really wanted metric, one lady
said, Jesus would have had ten disciples, not
twelve. He would have risen from the dead on
the fifth day, not the third.
I've found three quite satisfactory, thank
you.
But okay, metric people, I thought I'd be
big about it and go along with you. I'd
cooperate. Give an inch.
They made it easy in the beginning. For
almost a whole year they let us adjust to
temperature in celsius. The water turned out
just as warm in Celsius as Fahrenheit. But that
turned out to be just like sticking in our big
too. Now they're taking the mile. Now the
whole tidal wave of metric is rolling over us.
It's on us with a vengence. No more coaxing
and teasing and letting us get used to the
water gradually.
All roadsigns read metric. The car
speedometers read kilometers. Every bottle in
the hosuc is milliliter. Every ice cream
ixIckage a liter.
Metric breaks in on us everywhere. It's into
my wife's cookbooks, my daughter's dress
making, the farmer's fertilizing programs arid
livestock tonnage. It's changing calculations,
price quotations and our vocabulary.
Metric has taken over. What started out as
giving an inch is now a mile.
But there's more, The latest blow came
when I read real estate ads. Now metric is
after the acre. My sacred acre is slipping
away. It's disappearing into the hectare.
Now, how does that sound? "Just went out
and bought myself 43.3 hectare of farm."
Don't those metric people realize? Every
since the beginning of this country, those
sturdy pioneer went OUt into the vast
wilderness and stalked their claims in acres?
They cleared their land in acres: They plowed
in,aeres. Sowed in acres, Reaped in acres.
And now what do we have?
Hectare: .
don't care if the metric people tell me.
"Recto" means "I00 times'', It's their &fettle
Way of multiplying. All I cat see irt that word
is heck and tare, Arid neither of them. means
anything good. Who wants tares—and that's
the bible way ofsaying weeds--when you cart
have wheat? And who wants heti when you
Catt lrave heaven?
All t can say is to heck with hectare„