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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1959-12-10, Page 6t” 11.1t" re:41 ..C,"1.460,404 H INGE . A r dolt P. L. LoxIke, tAILIEtr • t,11.4 eieseeese, El.wi4'1.1up4s,›-t.ttt*. .Wel..:1;".4., nee. • ewe., e ••••••,, aovi, tees-. re; :Aiesst "1.471 4!..414:41i:6C;;;);,..,:eseaeres. 4.t4.4.•:;.:;•.;,.... io60 "144 - t -.maw tv:17 ,-*** WC•1744, •14 d `s`VI,s.%:Vhssi HIRST ramot R,44: "Deer Anne fSust. am almost 17, the bey is a year older, and we've been dating for almost two years, Many times he has asked Me to Marry him, but I wasn't certain I wanted to get married. I know that is a big step in life and I Wanted to make sure'be- tore I gave him a finial answer. I know I have hurt him, but I felt I had to tell the truth in- stead of leading him on. "He has gotten so sick of be- ing turned down that now he has left me! He said. I should know by now whether or not I want him, "That is true. Since this hap- pened, I know how much I love him and need him, I told him so, but he doesn't seem to believe anything I say, He even has his own doubts about me now! "I realize I've been a fool, and I know what I have lost. Is there anything left for me to do? A SORRY GIRL" YOU ARE FORTUNATE Instead of offering sympathy, • I congratulate you on the * situation, painful as it seems at * the moment. You have been e going only with this one boy " since you were 15, and all • along you have realized that • marriage is the greatest ad- * venture of your life, a decision " not to be made hastily. That • is commendable. Only when he grew tired of waiting and * left, do you conclude that you * love him. • It is human to want the tan- * attainable. It is his leaving you * that has suddenly made him * doubly desirable. Because you *have no other beau your life * seems empty now, and living • in such a vacuum alarms you, " Believe me, you have not been * a fool, you have only been * honest with yourself. • It is well that, the boy has * gone, His doubts that, you are • not the girl for him show how shallow his emotions are; if * he were more mature, your * putting him off would only • have made him` more eager to " to win you, and he:would have * realized you area well-balanced * young woman who does not * give her heart away Without * knowing the value of her gift. " You are both too young to * think of marrying or even be- * ing engaged. A girl 17 can * hardly be sure that what she • feels is an enduring emotion • that will last the rest of her * life. You both need other corn- * panions, and to learn some- * ting about this thing called The Smart Set PRINTED PATTERN kir Kg. dootts What a perfect pair! Together, they have the smooth look of a dress — separately, skirt and blouse combine with other part- ners. Note collar that curves away front sleek, slim skirt, Printed Pattern 11607: Mime' Sizes 10, 12', 14, 16, 18. Site 1d takes '2% yards 54-inch" fabric, Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Father,, accurate. send ferry GENTS (500 (stamps cannot ,be accepted, use postal note for eafety)° for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRES S, I4TVLE NOME% Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE ,alt 6959. • love, It eonies in several pack. 4' ages, you know. and compari- * son with other friends will " open your eyes to its poesibill- • tiee. G-0 out with other boys * now (I expect he'll look up * other girls) and after some * months you will, know far bet- * ter how they.compare with him. * Don't despair. By this time next year you may both be * quite certain that you were * made for each other — or you * will have discovered that other * boys can attract you, too. If that happens, won't you be re- * lieved that you did not get en- * gaged today? * PROTECTIVE elOTHER "Dear Anne Hirst: I am a high, school sophomore, and need some advice. Since last March a boy and I have gone together, and then my mother liked him, al- lowing me to invite him to my birthday party and the school dance. Then suddenly she changed her mind — when his brother got into trouble through no fault of his own! "Now she won't allow me to see him, He lives on our street, and I'm not allowed out of the house unless she is with me. She even follows me to school! "I tried not seeing this boy, but it just didn't work, I like him too much. Please help me out, — DISTRESSED TEEN-AGER" * It is of no use to appeal to * anyone else for the answer you * want. Somehow (and only you * know) you have lost your * mother's faith, and she feels * that out of her sight you will * be seeing this young man. * What have you been doing that * she distrusts you so? Whatever * it is, stop it. • It is unfair, perhaps, that * one boy's misbehavior reflects s on the whole family, but it is * true, Your mother knows how 4` unwise it is for you to be see- o irsg,each other, and she is try- • ing to protect you from any * unfavorable gossip. You are * too young to appreciate this, • but you will have to accept her * ruling and obey it, • If you will give her your * word that you will not see him * again without her permission, • and in other ways show you * can be trusted, perhaps later 0 on she will relent. Meanwhile, * it is up to you to prove your * integrity in every way you can. Don't let any boy rush you into a promise to marry. Marriage is not a game, it is a lifetime con- tract, and only by careful com- parison with others can a girl be sure she is ready to take the step. In time of doubt, write Anne Hirst, and save yourself from a mistake. Address her at Box- 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Joker Was Wild The horses that are picked for saddle bronc riding, the classic event of rodeo, are generally farm animalt gone psycho, Truly wild horses seldom make good broncs. Most buck through the first few rides, then go docile. But an exception was cut from a roving band on the South Da- kota prairies a dozen years ago. He was a big three-year-old bay. They named him Joker and, cowboys agreed, the Joker was wild — perhaps the roughest brone alive. Even this y e a r, at fifteen, Joker hated to be ridden. At rodeos around the country, i1 cowboys tried; he dumped 23 of them. At Harrisburg, Pa., two weeks ago, Joker tossed two more cowboys. He also bruised his head, but no one thought the injury, was serious. On his way to a ranch in Col- orado last month to rest before next month's National Finale Rodeo at Dallas,• Joker died, a victim of tetanus contracted af- ter the injury. "There," said Gene Pruitt, a former national saddle champion, "went one II-- 6,1 a horse," Q. When introducing a young woman of eighteen to a Middle- aged Isiah, whose name is spoken first? A. The young woman's. 'science keepa my darling uti. iMployed. Be knows nothine, about IL', Partner says he is atfraid to leave the house for very long because he never knows what changes he'll find when he gets back. That, of course, is a slight exaggeration but still it has some foundation in fact and , indicates one difference between an„man and a ,woman.' Most men like things left in the home more or less the way they are, year in and year but. Women love to move things „around, creating change of scenery within four walls eArid after all, why riot? Who wants, to see, the, serne thing in ti:irsaene p,lace, month after moritIV"Senintei” and 'euininer?- It gives% alift tb the soul to change one's outlook..)Except,..of ,.course, to the,, eonsdrvatiive type, and they are beyond,hope. Not ..,only that but summer arraegements are ceten unsuitable foi winter months. " And 'another thing, changing things around may dispel a guilt complex if a per- son has been doing aelittle wish- ful thinking . . "If only I had a chesterfield — or a rug, or drapes — like my friend Edna, how much nicer my, livingroom would look!" Well, there is a saying — "Don't let your wishbone lie where your backbone ought to be". Don't wish for changes in your home — make them. Dare to be original. But don't talk it over with your husband first — that is fatal! He will be sure to say — "What's the' matter with the room the way it is — it looks all right to me?" To that sort of question a woman rarely has a logical., answer, So, to keep peace in the family she subdues her splurge of creative thinking and everything remains the same — except for her own feeling of 'frustration. Now "don't get me wrong" — I think a husband and wife should talk things over — and sometimes very carefully, par- ticularly when a, purchase is in- volved. But I cannot see the point of a major discussion over moving a piece of furniture, a, picture, or arranging a differ- ent set-up in the kitchen. The home is primarily the woman's concert. It is often up to her to do the best she Can with what she has, making her home as comfortable and convenient as she can for the whole family. So, if father likes his livingroom chair in one particular spot, for heaven's sake don't move it, but arrange the rest of the room to suit yourself. 'Finding the best place for your TV set is a matter for a family conference, as it concerns everyone. And what a problem it can be. Now you may wonder what led up to all these ideas, Actual- ly nothing too drastic. A little different seating arrangement in our livitigreorm an unwanted table taken down to the base- ment; ferns changed around; a lamp from the den given a place in the livingroorn and small tables changed around from guest room to den. The overall result has been more space and I no longer feel it necessary to buy the nust of tables I thought we couldn't possibly do without, Now that should commend it- self to the :man of the family, don't you think? Not that I am entirely satisfied even yet but the present arrangement wilt do until I get another brairiwave. You know, I think half the trouble with most of us is that We lack vision: We get so used to seeing, things, good and bad, the way they are that in time we actually don't see them at all. For inS tall.qQ, one friend was vis- iting another far the fit* time. She was entranced by the 'beau- tiful scenery. "Oh, how I envy you this view." And then she added — "But I suppose you ere so used to it you 'never even- see it." She was absolutely right. Unless we keep ourselves alert we are liable to lose our' aware- ness of so many things. Even the Santa Claus parade. Maybe I am slightly infantile but I dropped everything last Satur- day — and so did Partner — so we could watch the Parade on television and we thoroughly enjoyed it. But what a shame it rained. Later two young mothers each 'said to me — "You knew, I was so provoked . . I, forgot about the Parade and our young- sters would have, loved watch- ing it on TV." 'Our daughter.goes to the other extreme — she wants her boys to see every parade 'that comes along and generally takes all three down town. This time two of them missed out. Jerry has measles and David the mumps. So Art stayed home with the afflicted ones and Dee took Ed- die to see the parade. Ross didn't even see it even on TV be- cause Joy was another one who 'forgot. And now for those who are in- ' terested in reading — particu- larly hi history — ay I recom- mend to you `!Life in the Clear- ings" by Susanna Moodie, A sequel to "Roughing it in the Bush". Although, the book was written around 1850 this is its first publication in Canada. It concerns the Belleville district. It 'seems -almost impossible that life could be so different and yet be only a hundred years apart, Obviously each period has its advantages and disadvan- tages. Sudden Death In A Snowball It was all great fun. The first snow of the season 'had fallen in the remote village of Egnat, high in the Alps, and all ths kids were out, huffing and puff- ing to build a giant snowball to send thundering down the slopes'. Watching them, 16-year-old Jakob Giezendatther, the oldest of his 'family's eight children, smiled. Jakob had rolled snow. balls in his day, too, but now he was a grownup, helping his fa- ther grub out a living from th'eir rock-strewn farm. "Jakob, help us," the children cried. "Too busy," he explained. And then, Jakob noticed that the 'snowball—now 10 feet wide and 4 feet high—was threatening to skid and get out of cotitrol. ThroWing aside the ex With which he had been chopping wood, he ran to the children, Straining, he put his shoulder against the snowball. His feet slipped, One piercing cry was all that Jakob had time to utter before the giant snowball engulfed him and began careening clown the slope. It must have weighed a toti by the time it struck an open space mid broke apart, The children, rushing after it, faund Jakob's body, 'Ilse life had been cruActi cut it. There Ought To Be, A :owl, Ask any cop hi Washington: There ought to be a laW. One day in the 1030's, a motor- ist arrested for speeding in Maryland identified himself as the minister from Iran. "You don't look like no minister to- me," said the officer, clamping handcuffs on his indignant pri- soner. Iranpromptly severed diplomatic relations with the U.S. In 1951, Don Vicente Santa- Liestra, second secretary of the Spanish Embassy, drove through a stop light, killing a pedestrian and injuring a _policeman. A coroner's fury charged him with -driving "With gross negligence" and held him responsible. But under the cloak of his diploma- , tic immunity he was not pun- ished. Last month, the problem rose again. A police squad answering an accident call in northeast Wa- shington saw a woman lying dead on the street and a strap- ping 'blond youth waiting beside his car. The victim, hurled 41 feet by the impact, was Mrs, Jessie Hamlin, 54, a widowed Negro who worked as a Glom ,s- tic to help support two small nephews and a niece. The driver identified' him sel f as David Hearne, 21, son of the Irish Am- bassador to the U.S. Young Hearne claimed diplomatic im munity; and the charges (homi- cide and driving with improper plates) were dropped and he was released. Washington newspapers jump- ed on the story, pointing out that Hearne had been arrested four times in the last 30 months for boisterous conduct and creating public disturbances. On one oc- casion, he beat a policeman sc severely, the officer was on sick leave for several days. Each time, he claimed diplomatic im- munity and was released, The latest escapade posed a thorny problem to the State De- partment. The youth's father, John Hearne, who has repre- sented Ireland in Washington since'1950, is well liked in diplo- matic circles. To' designate his son as persona riots grate would autothatically, e n d Ambassador Hearne's, tour in the U.S. But the U.S. ,State' Depart- ment made no secret of the 'fact that cliplotriatie immunity could be carried too far. —• From NEWSWEEK. SEAT OF THE TROUBLE No disrespect was' intended by four witnesses before a judge in Birkenhead, England, when they failed to rise at the proper time. Their *trousers had became stuck' to the newly varnished benches, As far as money is concerned, most of us havd 'very little to complain abOut. Hew The Cave Men Ii4ed To Live The cave men were the human beings who lived before the most important of the early inventions on which a stable civilization can be based; farming, or the regular cultivation of edible plants; the domestication of hoofed 414111414; pottery and perhaps with it the invention of wheeled, transport; and the rev* olutionary technique of grind. ing, polishing, and boring stone tools so as to make them almost as efficient as the later tools of Metal, The cave men did not farm; they were hunters and fisher- men, and their women collected wild fruit, vegetables, and •grain. They lived lives rather like those of the American Plains Indians before the introduction of the horse. They did not domesticate animals—or at best only one animal, our oldest friend, the clog. They lived largely on ani- mals; they thought about ani- mals constantly; but they were hunters, so they treated even the horse as something to be stampeded over a cliff and then eaten. They knew something about clay and how ,it hardens in the fire; but so far we have found no real clay dishes or con- tainers among their remains. We find it difficult to imagine life without the peaceful corn- fields, the quiet cattle, and the dishes from which we eat and drink; yet, for most of man's existence on the earth these things were unknown and un- dreamed of. Settled farming began somewhere about 7,000 years ago, in the New Stone Age: that seems like a long time ago, but it is only about 200 generations from our own time. Our 'two-hundreth grandfather was one of the first farmers. But before that there was a long, long period—not tea times as, great but something like a hun- dred times as great — clueing which our forefathers lived in caves and hunted the wild ani- mals and made Weis and molded the human mind into something ' recognizably like its present ef- fectiveness. That 'was what geologists call the Pleistocene period, and his- torians the Old Stone and Mid- dle Stones ages. Some of it was unbelievably hard and terrible, with much of what • habitable worm coverea witn grinding ice and tou,..n. glaciers—the .sky no. doubt gray and filled with whistling winds and the repeated drift of snow- flakes and sheets of chill rain. At other times, the world we know was. comparatively, genial, with substropical vegetation and animals, and with many of the waste places habitable and hunt- able, The 'North Sea was 'dry land where our ancestors shot long-vanished anirnals, the Saha- ra pdsert was vast.',parkland with 'water and grass and trees like the big-game-hunting sec- tions of Africal today, .:and t1.1 now barren canyons and' sage- brush plains of the American Southwest. were wooded and well watered: not oar world, but a hunter's paradise, The .experts believe 1114 recog- nizable men have existed on this earth for half a million .years; and from .&00,000 13.C. (give or take a few thousand) to. the. comparatively recent ..date of 5000 13,0„ they were what we know as cave men. Yet their life was more in44, ligent. and. complicated,, we may almost say comfortable,. than one • would expect—From wi'alents and Qenuises, The Pleasures of Appreclation,". by Gilbert Highet.. 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CAN THIS BE FOOTBALL? — Bunny ,Morsholl .scoots around the,,line during an intrasarority football game played in Boston University Wield. Her ledm, P,1,Beta Phi, won over Zeta Tau Alpha 12-6. a," TURNS A CENTURY — AC,ter Edward, Everett Horton :looks at family albtims • with'his mother, Mrs. Isabella Horton. She celebrated 'her 100th birthday recently. Rf AL, LIVE BEATNIKS !.bolting] as un-saUdre a§ bongs*' . -, three 'bed‘nik" peters enjoy ,.„ „ lough together, =mitt lett, i.erol Jones, Philip. Whalen chid gay trenisee presented d poetry lardgram to students at Princeton University, Ne4i Jersey,