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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1959-12-03, Page 2Bone Many, many parents of daughters today are disterheeby the kind of boy friends their daughters clinoeet. -Pergetful of the standards of refined behav- ior by which she was raised, the girl is sometimes hired by a new boles, swaggering Mariner and 100$e talk, and adopts his ways as her own. Disturbed parents have asked for guidance, as does the desperate mother .1, quote today, "From our daughter's first date with this boy whose family moved near us last -summer," she writes, "we warned her against him, arid now we are really heartsick by the way his influence has changed her. She mistakes his coarseness for so- phistication, Personally, he is obnoxious — untidy, profane and ruthless. She has taken to amok- ing, and has even been seen drinking with him! She goes where he takes her and some- times refuses to tell us where. She has diecarded two nice boys she used to date, and calls them ,sissies; she seldom ,sees her girl friends any more and has prac- tically joined his crowd. She "-always went to church with us, "-ellit since she met him she refuses e-te., And the pity of it all is she is -`tinly 16 * The girl does not, of course, * realize the danger of her • course. Dazzled by the boy's e unaccustomed personality, she * is blind to the evil influence it * can exert on her future. Only • her parents sense that, Surely • she owes them something! o Throhgh the years, they have * watched over her, sacrificed to • educate and train her in the * ways she should go. Until now o they have been proud of her. • Will she wreck all their hopes? • Cause grief, perhaps tragedy, • to these two who have loved • her so? o A girl or a boy have only o two parents, and they will not * always have them, Years take o their toll, and sorrows hasten * it. No boy in the world is • Worth such a price. If the girl • persists in her headstrong Rd- * ly, she will one day find her- • self living with shocking • memories that can destroy her • peace of mind and soul for the • rest of her days. * The friends a girl makes in • her teen years can enrich her * whole life — or blacken it. 4 For your consolation, I have o observed that such boys soon o tire of their newest recruit. ► Your daughter's servile sub- o mission . is the very attitude that usually sends him off to * other game. When that han- k pens she will be desolated, o later see him as the coarse male he is and berate her- Applauded By All PRINTED PATTERN 4700 SIZES 9-17 t, All the fashion world hails the wide, wide sailor collar that "capes" your shoulders above a streak of a sheath, Divine shape for junior figures — freest band- log accents narrow Waist. Printed Pattern 4700: St. Miss Sites ii, H, ray 15,..17: Size 18 takes 3 7/S yards 85-inch fabric. Printed directions On eaels tern patt. Easier, accurate. send FORTY CENTS -WO (stamps cannot be accepted, ued postal note for safety) for this Pettetit. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAIVIS, gox .1, 123 Eighteenth Ste New Toronto, belt. 4' Self for being such, a silly vie-. At Um. After all, your daughter '4 has a sound moral inheritege, • • and, if you can be patient a .1‘ while longer have no deplete • alegelt her awakening, The ex, • perience is unwelcome <and * deerastating to parents) but * that is the way some young girls have to learn. • You and her father seem to 3 have done all you could to con- * trol her, except forbid the boy 4`' to come to your homes this you * reject, I expect, because she • would be apt to meet him else- * where, (Have you thought of taking her on a trip over the * holidays?) Let us both hope * {and I believe) that this is 4' only a temporary phase of e adolescent rebellion which she * will outgrow, and thereafter * she will have more respect for * your opinions. • Leave this column where * your daughter will see it to- e day. * * * TWO OP A KIND "Dear Anne Hirst: I am just back from a visit, where I met a boy whom I love dearly. He thinks I am two-timing him, and I am sure he is double- crossing me with the girl I stay- ed with. I try to make him jeal- ous so he will show his love, then we break up and make up again. (He thinks I flirt too much.) "Other boys write me and Phone me, but I always tell them I am in love with this one. HoW can I keep him away from that girl? I think I,. hate her! . . . CAROLINE" * You must be very immature e to think you can land a boy * by making him jealous; that * can only succeed if the lad e really cares for you, and this * one doesn't trust you enough to take you seriously. * The way to win and hold * any man's affection is to prove * you are trustworthy, and to * trust him as much. From that * faith springs true friendship * and the mutual desire 'to * please by bringing out the * best in yourself and the one * you care for. You are playing * at love, I'm afraid, and it is e only arousing jealousy and ha- * tred. How can you find love, * or deserve it, when you in- * dulge in such childish non-, * sense? * Play fair from now on, and * expect the young man. to do * the same. And stop discussing * him with other boys; if this • romance (?) ends, you will * need their friendship and * their respect. The authority of parents these days can go so far, and then the choice df behaviour lies in the girl's hands. If you are troubled by a daughter's defiance, write Anne Hirst about it, addressing her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Check Your Car Before That Trip Motorists, have a Careful Christmas! The Christmas season is a time , of good cheer, but, unfortunate- ly, it ends on a note of tragedy each year for thousands of peo- ple who disregard cold weather -driving precautions. Before your holiday travels take you over the hills to Grand- mother's house or to visit friends where you have to leave your car standing outdoors for hours at a time, here are some pre- cautions, you should take. 1, Have fresh, effective anti- freeze put into your radiator. Don't try to get by with last year's. 2. Check the condition of your heater and defroster. To work properly, they depend on a win- ter thermostat. Have your sere vicerrlan install one. 3. When a car is left outdoors during cold weather, frequently the windshield beComes glazed with ice, If you remove the ice by defrosting rather than scrap- ing, lower car windows while running the motor. If you don't asphyxiation may result. 4. If you must drive at night, remove snow and ice from your head and tail lights before you start. Otherwise they will be too dim to add much to your visi- bility or to warn other motorists of your presence, 5. If there is ice or snow on the road, never make sudden. Moves, either stopping, starting or changing directibtis. Even Oh want, surely days, watch Out, too, for those ice patches that lifiger iri shaded areas of roads, O. Winter' read enietgeticiee require special equipment'. Vout der trunk should contain the foie lowing: shovel and earid i tire chains, spare fan belt s end tire, tow rope, lug wrench for Wheel tuts and a first aid kit. Above` all, once you get be- hind the wheel of your ear; use common settee' 'PIPED ASHORE — As bagpipes blare, the pony mascot of the Scottish Beittalion is led ashore in Southampton, England. The troops arrived home from a tour of duty in Cyprus. 4i1141C.0. NICL 1NGEBFAR] gw(mdoLtme, Ctairke Dramatic, Different ,974 • AN E 141 ST 1 *to, rasa,/ ro.sitiot, gipphq.104. Corry Their- Owo. flap During the next two years, ae she followed her elders in their wanderings, Soondar 1\loont gain- ed a thorough practical knowl, edge of the herd's territory. A „man gifted with a good eye for country is said to carry a map in his head. The same is true of any elephant, wild or tame, and indeed, as far. s one .can judge,. of all animals, It is perhaps fanciful to try to picture what Soondar leeoeni,'$ brain map might have looked like had some skilled drafts- man -been able to interpret it on paper. It would have represented a rough rectangular tract of about five hundred square miles. say a little .over thirty miles from north to south by about fifteen from east to. west. This elongated shape was dictated by the southward-flowing rivers; it is easier, as well as more profile able, for a grazing anienal to fol- low a river bed than -to cross it. Like .a map of some parVy ex- plored country,. hers would have included some blanks: quite ex- tensive areas containing little elephant fodder that were never entered by the herd, A human visitor to this part. of Assam at that time — .Soonclar- Mooni was born in the early eighties of the last century -- would have described the coun- try as tree forest aria savanna in roughly equal. proportions. He would. no doubt have mentioned the few widely scattered villages of the Mech and Babha tribes near stteams in the. $outh, the still sparser settlements of 'Bhu- taneee in the foothills to the north and., perhaps, the feW colonies of ,Nepalis, who grazed great herds.of buffaloes.. along the Sankos RiVer on the west. Although his description might not tally .every particular with Soondar Mooni's map — which, as I picture it, would be. gay with washes of color -to in- dicate the prevalence e of her fa- vorite fodders — neVertheles'e; this broad division -into trees and BELLE OF THEE BALL — Pat Mc- Laughlin makes with the for- tune-telling routine, her crystal ball the glistening pate of Vern Arnette. No man to lose his head over .a pretty girl, Ar•• nette is buried in the sand. savanna would have tallied with the two domains which she recog- nized, those of the forest and of the grassland animals, Although these two domains are-more or less intimately Mix- ed on the ground, their respec- tive inhabitants seldom meet in normal circumstances except in some restricted patches of what might be called common terri-L tory where the vegetation -- dense nal or open acacia forest — provides fodder for both com- munities. Nal is the gteen, hollow-steme med rush, ofteh More than fif- teen feet in height, which flour- isles near permarieht water and in which, earlier in this story, we pictured the old tigress as Tye ing tip listening to the cow bells, Acacia is a thorny little tree, like Australian wattle, growing on the sandy banks of seasoned' rivers; its thin crown and feath- ery foliage give a sparse shade beneath which grows a sweet, shortish grass beloved of grazing animals. Elephants like this grass too, pulling it up by the roots land beating the earth off against an uplifted forefoot, though their chief interest hi this sort of forest — as we saw just before the herd entered the gorge lies in the abundance of succulent creepers. They also east the twigs of the acacia itself and, despite the cruelly hard thorhs, chew them UP in their soft-looking Pitik mouths- without. apparent dieceitifort. en- Front "Soondar IVIcieni: The Life of an Indian Ele- phant," by E. O. 8lithbeare, Today is my brother's birth- day. That doesn't sound such an exciting statement.- Nor would it be except that I don't even know if I have a brother, He was in ,Europe when the Second. War broke out — as a •civilian— and that is the last we heard of him. He was very much of a rolling stone and we ,think it more than likely he went under- ground during the French Re- sistance. We don't know and now I suppose we never shall. He was clever, maybe te) clever for his own good -- artistic, musical and a good writer—but never really settled to 'anything or stayed in one place for very long. His name was Evelyn Page Fitz-Gerald. We were great com- panions any time he was at home so naturally I have often wished I knew what happened to him. But my sister and I Were living in Canada, my mo- ther was dead and my older brother was very much out of patience with Evelyn whom he regarded as the black sheep of the family. So there you have it — one small family mystery recalled to life by a date on the calendar . . and not at all what I intended to write about. No, it's really the weather that makes the news around here once again. All our trees, big and small, are bleak and bare, leaves stripped from their branches in one day by a ruth- less, driving wind. The next day Joy and I went shopping — and to visit nearby nurseries—get- ting a line on evergreens. It was so warm we were swelter- ing yet the' weather probs call- ed for a forty-degree drop in temperature before morning. It didn't seem possible but We knew the weatherman could be right. Anyway, to be on the safe side we phoned for fuel oil, lift- ed things from the garden, and covered potatoes, apples and ci- tron left in the garage for cool etorage. Without a fruit cellar We can't keep anything in the basement for very long. Was there ever a time, I wonder, that winter didn't catch about fifty per cent of us napping? If not in big things at least in little Ones. When the leaves fall it cer- tainly makes a difference to our scenery, in more ways than one, believe me. Through the bare trees we get a clear view of a wonderful colour scheme over on the next road, Hold your hat while I tell you. Several houses have changed hands — and ap- pearances! One frame' house with a black roof IS painted bright red under the eaves and an equally bright blue the rest, of the way. The nott house is grey with strawberry-pink doors and trim. And the next a cone servative green and white, Part- ner says we shall at least have something cheerful to lodk at all whiter. I'M hoping we shall also have something cheerful to lis- ten to as well. Which brings the to the subject Of television arid radie. When the fall season started 1.c. 099' there was a lot of talk about the wonderful new programmes in store for us. There have been some good "specials" but the regulars are worse than ever; Even the westerns are not as good 'as Wyatt Earp and Bat Masterson used to be. Jazz vari- ety programmes are atrocious— however the "singing stars" get contracts I can't imagine. Tab- loid has about one good evening a week having apparently drain- ed the well almost dry insofar as interesting personalities are concerned. Front Page Challenge is still good arid Lead a -Bor- rowed Life even better. Charles Templeton carries the show right along. Family life shows are good but there are too many of them and too much of a same- ness. 'Half-hour dramas are poor; C.B.C. hour long shows, good but too depressing. Why can't we have stories with a happy ending once in a while? We need to be reminded that life still has its moments of fun and laughter. Jack Benny puts on a wonderful show but I find it hard to sit through an hour with Ed Sullivan. Of course sport lovers should have little to com- plain about — just try and get anything else when the World Series or the 'football games are on, either on TV or radio. As for the fixed quiz shows. that's something else again. Cer- tainly fraud cannot be permit- ted but I am tempted to; wish the investigation had' been kept quiet. Why must the public be informed of behind-the-scenes dishonesty? Isn't that something f o r the management to deal with? After all we were getting a lot of enjoyment from quiz shows but now we have such a let-down feeling. I was going to say Fighting Words had also got very tame but I have reversed my opinion since last night. That disctission on "Trading Stamps". was the liveliest for many months. I hope it clarifies the situation for a good many people. Surely with so many organizations op- posed to stamps they will .even- tually be done away With. "Neer- A Strange Year In England u n d a y suddenly emerged from Saturday's fog. The light was dazzling for, a moment fled one seemed to have Verne out •ef the tunnel i n to quite a new country, All along this has been the strangest yeae in England,, built up around a summer made of the sheer inemories of hood when every summer's day of course was warm and bright and packed with laughter. And the effect of all this is still viste ble on the year, There are red blackberries on the bush outside the dining room window, the yet unripened berries of a unique second crop, and constant roses in the flower beds. And, on this day when we went for a walk the heath was as we had never seen it before. For this is the end of the year when if the sun shines it shines on bare branches and deserted earth, But not this time. The bracken, standing stil 1, rust-red with a touch of pur- ple, glistened as if it has been lacquered. There were leaves still on the silver birch, and leaves on the scattered bushes of the wide plain cleared by the foresters and they shone like royalty's medals in the sunlight. The heather was full and its last bells gleamed and, with the winter sun so low in the sky, it was scored with the long sha- dows of evening even at noon. We came to the Black Pond. And it was no longer there. A dog, two little girls in red gob- lin suits and an elder brother about 15 played on the hard beach by the notice, standing on its long single stork's leg, "No Paddling Beyond' This Board." , The little girls swung on the rustic wooden rails that mark the edge of, the swimming area and support the .diving board, with their arms stretched over- head and their legs tucked up, The brother leaned on the rail and watched, writes John Allan May in t h e Christian Science Monitor. There was a pool a few feet square in front of them in which - the dog was splashing. It was half an inch deep and was fed by a winding trickle of a stream two or three inches across that came from somewhere in the middle out beiond the . second row of rails: and the notice, "No Swimming Beyond This Rail." The uprights supporting the rails were hung. •with weblilce Spane ish moss. The tall thin reeds around w e.s e baked almost white. And in the middle of the "pond" a large flock of little birds, possibly sparrows, fed busily on tussocks of grass. "Poor moorhen," said Joy, There were none, there and .it. was their absence and the un- known troublei they must have encountered that aroused her compassion, Now this part of the heath, which always looks a little :like Africa, looked the part corn-; pletely; a tawny country of bush, plain, desert, and secrecy. We walked on, quite alone ex- cept for a string of horseriders in the distance, rover what is usually bog and through the new plantations of- Scotch pine. like ten thousand little Christ- mas trees and each dripping with dew diamonds and garland- ed with silver webs. We had never walked in this q)articular part in 20 years. - Next day it rained. The gray clouds "closed in and down and it was like being in a goldfish' bowl with a blanket Over it, A shallow r iver ran down our driveway onto a dark, wet siz- zling road. "Back to - normal," we said, And sighed. We sighed because, perhaps, We will never see again er Underestirriate the power pf a woman!" We'll win ,MA yet. or one, make a polo,t of deal- leg with store's that DO NOT hatte trading stamps Or other ginimicks. just exactly what we saw yes,. terday .As we saw it then, and it was very beautiful. l3ut the sigh was tempered with an .411.- naual feeling of happiness at .the. rain. .For we knew we want to hear again the childish caeo, phony of summer at the Ma* Pond, the shrill swimming and the dares of diving, and the OOP leaping After s t i c k s, and to. watch the moorhens sailing • among the reeds And: to see all round the gentle, green, familiar England, And that takes rain. Modern Etiquette By Roberta Lee Q. noes it really make any difference whether one sits down from the right for the left side of the chair et the dinner tahle? A. No; whichever side offers the easier and quicker access is the one for you. Q. Is it correct to have a monogram engraved on the en- veiope of social stationery? A. No; the monogram should be engraved only on the note paper itself, Q. What should one. say to persons who have just had a death in their family? A. Upon the occasion of death, some expression of sym- pathy is always appreciated by the family, but the less elabor- ate the expression the better. A simple "I am sorry, Is there anything I can do?" is sincere and sufficient. Q. Is it still considered proper for a man to ask per- missivn to smoke when he is with a group of women who he knows do not smoke? A. This is still the courteous and thoughtful thing to do. Dramatic, colourful Christmas pictures for wall, door, Easy to make — looks- like stained glass. Create a glowing, stained glass effect with coloured cellophane. Quick to cut, tape together. Pat- tern 974: transfer two 10 lc 14- inch Christmas -scenes. 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