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STEP LIVELY, WALLFLOWER — Sarah Brockett's version of the
hat dance may not be authentic. After all, she's from Illinois
and a farm girl to boot.
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ewen.ciolit\e P. Cl&rive.
"Dear Anne Hirst; I am a
miserable ceeature, although I
have a husband and two fine
babies. All around me i see mar-
ried maples so happy together
-- but my husband is more like
a brother to me, and I do not
believe I can stand it any longer
, . It is my even fault. I mar-
ried in my early teens only be-
cause all my friends were en-
gaged or had husbands, and I
just made up my mind I wouldn't
be left out. I looked around and
I selected a man like I'd get a
good coat; I hoped he would
wear well.
"He has. He is good to me and
the children, and I have stayed
on hoping I could learn to love
him. I haven't, and my heart is
still without love. I have no
other reason to leave him, but I
am beginning to think I am do-
ing us both an injustice by liv-
ing this way. I have missed
something really essential to a
happy life, and I am getting
more and more dissatisfied,
"Am I doomed to live on and
on without ever knowing the
thrills of love? I will be grateful
for your opinion.., , Your col-
umn helced me a lot in other
MISERABLE"
FUTILE HOPE
* You are the victim of your
* own folly, and I am sorry for
' you. I cannot hold out any hope
* for a different future unless
* you change your desires, You
* took on your role deliberate-
* ly and you are duty bound to
* play it through, to be the best
* wife you can to the man who
* loves you so much, and to raise
* the children who look to you
* both for love and guidance:-
* Can you picture what would
* happen if you left your hus-
* band, took ethe children and
* went your own way? A more
• hazardous ambition I cannot
* imagine. ,What if you did not
* find love? Now you are at least
* spared the frustration that
* would. follow; you have no
* idea of the disillusion that
* would mean, nor how passion-
* ately you would wish you had
• stayed home where you belong.
* Compared with other mar-
* riages, your own is not un-
• endurable. Your husband is a
* happy man, well satisfied with
• his wile 'and 'his family. Un-
* less and until he misses what
• you have not been able to give,
* why not live one day at a
* time? His well-being and the
* comfort you find in your chit-
* dren can mitigate in •a large
• measure this discontent that
* is draining your energies. Love
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* is, I agree, one of the essentials
* of a completely happy mar-
riage; but if it is denied one
* can look about for comPensa-
* tions and, find them.
I Your longing is natural, but
'0 it is futile. Far ahead of your
* personal happiness stand the
* responsibilities you voluntarily
* assumed. Reconcile yourself to
• them, and set your heart on a
* different pinnacle -- the con-
* tenth-lent of this good husband
* you have and the growing sat-
* isfaction you will know in
* your children, That aim will
* bring a spiritual peace you
* have never known.
* Going to church regularly
* should bring new courage, and
• its affairs and those of your
* community will keep your
* mind in more rewarding chan-
* nels.
ADOLESCENT HUSBAND
"Dear Anne Hirst: F o r the
'first two years of our marriage
I was happy with my husband—
until I found he is just a simple
liar. I believe it is because he
is so ignorant, and tries to cover
up with inadequate falsehoods.
He says nasty things about all
my family except my father,
whom he seems to respect.
Though I was brought up in a
Christian home and am still a
Sunday School teacher, my char-
ity is about exhausted. He gets
angry at me for nothing at all,
and for days will not speak. I
still love him, but if he doesn't
stop being so hard to live with
I'm afraid there will soon be
no love left.
"I agree that the man should
be the head of his house, but
not to the extent that his wife
becomes a slave. He is so un-
reasonable and unpredictable
that I live with nerves that are
at the breaking point. I have
been a good wife and I am a
good mother, but I am just
about through . . . Can I do
anything that I have not?
AT THE END"
Why don't you ask your fa-
ther to have a man-to-man
talk with your husband? You
say he knew your family
three years, before he married
you, and he must have sensed
their background and their
kindness to one another. I ex-
pect his criticism stems from
the knowledge of his inferi-
ority, but he should at least
be outwardly loyal.
You will have to stop being
hurt. You cannot stop his
crude comments, for they
bring him a certain relief. Try
to remember that he doesn't
know better. He seems not to
have grown up, for to allow
a disagreement to silence him
for days is childish. To keep
him amiable you may have to
flatter him, and you are smart
enough to find a few reasons
to do that; he must be de-
ferred to in some degree. He
resents the consideration and
respect which your church
and your friends show you.
Be grateful that they do, and
overlook his jealousy.
Since he honours your fa-
ther, -it may be that the older
man will be able to alter your
husband's outlook to some ex-
tent. Try it,
* 9 *
If you cannot have what you
most desire, get the most out of
what you have and feel new
gratitude for your blessings.
Anne Hirst can help you appre-
cilteLthem more fully. Write hex
at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
"Dad, what's an opportunist?"
"He's a man who makes hay
with 'the dress ?Ott'Ve:let= grow
under your feet,"
'WHO,' YOU? - Ready for the
worst' is this Marine Wearing
ined erne eecold`- Weather .battle
dress. Ballistic helmet shell,
made .of the saite,Materat 'Wed
.armareit Vests, is designed
to repidde the :helmet 110W it
eta:, Other items 'are' .face
mask, cold-weather Inter 'tinti
tilaW tAtaket,,
Monty Eats Crow
When Field Marshal Viseoupt
Montgomery pulls a b011Ori,
a. big one, and when he eats.
crow,. it's a. big bird Thus, the
crusty old ('Ti) soldier found
himself confronted with an apol,
ogy to 12, 305,535 Britons — all
those who voted for the "Labor
Party in the recent general elec-
tion. INIontgomery with pre-.
election Tory fervor, had said.
that all Labor voters were
"barmy and should be locked up
in a lunatic .asylum." In a post-
election apology, Monty recant-
ed: "Sometimes when you make
speeches, you say things you
don't mean. It's rather a laugh.
at the time." But Laborites still. •
didn't get the joke: 50 Labor
members of the Bolton, England,
town council boycotted a civic
luncheon... for the field marshal.
And Earl Mountbatten, Britain's
Chief of the Defense Staff, com-
mented: "If Montgomery had
been on active duty, he would
have had his head examined."
Princess Steps Out
One of the most accomplished
dancers in our Royal Family is
Princess Margaret, She loves
dancing so much that she has
been called the Dancing Prin-
cess.
Her skill as a dancer stems
from her dancing studies with
the Queen when they were small
girls. Once every week their
parents had one of the sitting-
rooms at their home in Picca-
dilly, London, transformed into a
ballroom where the two golden-
haired princesses learned waltzes
and reels. These were alternated
with music to which the little
girls happily sang nursery
rhymes.
To-clay Princess Margaret is a
versatile ballroom dancer. She
has a remarkable flair for learn-
ing complicated new steps
quickly. Although she is fond of
modern rhythms, the „old-style
Scottish and English country
numbers also charm and delight
her,
NEW HAIRDO — Princess Marg-
aret sports a new hairdo —
reminiscent of the "roaring
twenties" — as she visits the
Bermondsey Youth Club in Lon-
don. A French newspaper re-
cently reported that the Prin-
cess would announce her en-
gagement to Canadian lawyer
John Turner with the permis-
sion of the Queen, despite re-
ligious differences, British court
circles denied the report.
Diamonds Don't
Like It Wet
Eyes are sparkling in the dia-
mond industry this year. There
are signs -all over the 'world that
1959 may prove a record year for
sales of gem and industrial dia-
monds.
One great diamond - selling
organization has sold neatly .
$75,000,000 worth of diamonds on
behalf of. South African and
other producers in , three months.
The increase in sales of ,indus-
trial diaftioncis is described as
"drametic."
Diamonds are used industrially
foe precision work, boring, grind_
frig and Cutting, for the diamond
is so much,-harder than anything
else.
A large motor company in the.
United States uses 1,000 dia-
monds to turn machine• parts.
In almost every-,brand}"A on!"
gineering diamond bids are note
used to Menu-facture beatinge,
piston rings, axle shafts and en-
gineS.
Diamonds, like people, are
sornetiiries moody. They teact to
the state of the weather and they
can teMporarily lose their lus-
tre. When this happens they are
sent to a gent doctor! One of
these Hattori Garden, Londoh,
experts treated stones to the ,
value Of $10 Million in a single
year.
Square-thApea, round -shaped
or pear-shaped, diamonds to-day
are the he's' investment ill the
world, declare dealers. Most
women, especially brides-to-be,
ftrefee a flashy diamond With
flaws to a flawless sinallet stone,
said tt prominent dealer recent.
Studying a crowd of people is
always interesting but I think
last Friday I found the most in-
triguing group it has been my
lot to "observe. I went to "Medi-
scope" — the display and demon-
stration that was put on by the
Ontario Medical Association in
Toronto. I found it intensely in-
teresting and most• informative.
And the crowds . . . the officials
themselves were floored by the
numbers who turned up to see
what they had to, offer. And it
was all free — you couldn't
spend money if you wanted to.
It was even hard to find a'place
to buy a sandwich. Actually
there were two small stands•but
they weren't very obvious.
I watched the people passing
• . . mothers with babies; high
school students; nuns; middle-
'age folk, singly or in pairs; an
occasional onlooker in a wheel-
chair and also the very old. What
brought them there' in such
numbers, I wondered? Was it
curiosity, a thirst for knowledge
,or a genuine 'desire to know
what goes on inside our 'human
body? I have a feeling it was
the latter. Not all displays at-
tracted equal attention but I
noticed there was always a
greater crowd• wherever there
was any practical demonstration.
For instance , by means of a spe-
cial stethoscope you could hear
your own hear beat, or by a
contraption over the' ears you
could test • your own hearing
ability, There was also a Geiger
counter showing its reaction
when placed over radio-active
and non-radio-active material.
For this purpose chunks of rocks
were used, one containing a fair
amount of uranium' ore. There
Were books shoWing household
equipment , for paraplegics or
otherWiSe disabled persona. One
booth - denfonstratect various
typesjitariaestheties. I never did
get3close to ejthera 6/ those two.
Of course the great' attraction
was "The Birth of a Baby"' , Each
time T went past the enclosure
theie was a terrific eed
it Was not until the third or
fourth time I'd decided to take
My chance with the rest arid
wait, But I did not find the wait-
ing too tedious because T Was•
se eriteneely interested in Wateh-
ing others in the tilittle; Next
tci-nie Were two ministers, sever-
al nuns, an elderly couple and
four or dve high school students
horsing around in the appioved
fsliion — approved,, that is, by
their own fraternity. I resented
their attitude. = Here we Were;;
waiting to get in to a denten-
StratiOn Of the great Miracle of
Life and ell thee young gaffere
eiceuld rictewas,elteeve iteseeMing:IY
levity, I had. no idea what we
were likely to see — that is, the
form it would 'take -- but what-
ever it was I felt it should be
given the respect it deserved.
Well, I need- not have worried.
The display was mostly in pic-
tures and plastic models, show-
ing the growth of a baby from
its ,inception to birth.' 'And do
you know, from the minute we
entered the small building the
young folk were all attention.
No talking, no unseemly com-
ments of any kind. They were
genninely interested and moved
slowly and reluctantly . along.
Nor was there anything in the
exhibit that was unfit' for the
the youngest child to see. After,
all the actual birth of young
'animals is no secret to' children
on a farm so why should ,'they be
denied the knowledge of how'
the young, gradually grow until
'they are ready to' leave the pro-
tectiVe shelter of their mother's
body:
' As the youngsters left the
building there may have 'been a
few quips realtive to what they:
seen but we have to remem-
ber that young, people will do'
or say almost anything to hide
their real. feelings. •
Later in my wanderings I
heard a lot of talking and
thought I must 'be nearing an-.
other demonstration so I kept
going in the direction of the'
Voice. It was anything but a dem-
onstration! I found a small
booth. — 'or stall — Whatever'
you like' to' call' devoted to
geriatlea — that is, to the care,
and light 'work that can be
undertaken by the',-aged — either '
in homes for the aged or in pri-
vate homes. The ialker, how.
Over, wasn't the doctor in charge-
hut a garrulous' old lady! The
peer soul was airing all her
greiVaricea about doctors,
homes for the aged, the old age.
pension' arid how few extras' it
covered She had been a, Ptecti-
cal nurse in her time and
thought she should be allowed to.
help look after the 'o ther' resid,
tilts in the Mine, She resented,
the fact that elle •Weeetiot allow
ed to bring., her two trunks' kitli '
her. sorry," the' admittance
nurse had said, "rici trunks al,
lowed. Whit battee theth,
anyway?"
"What's in them?" the old
lady told ' her indignantly;
"clothes, that's what, I don't see
you nurses running around in
the nude so' WhyShouldn't I have
my Clothes? And thete'a a num'
bet Sickroom you
could make use of that I'd let
you' have for free."
Well, the poor dear rah On
like that at great length., tithe
Canadian Aid For
British Forests
Because far , sighted foresters
sent to the United KingcleM
shortly after World War I lor.0
quantities of seeds and seedlings
of Pacific coast 'forest species,
a,serious Weed shortage in
tain is being overcome.
forIwn erd fox
Scotland,
oo p
plazas
whose
aregoing
raw materials will be derived
largely from coniferous forests
resulting from the vigorous
young growth which originated
in Prittsh Columbia, many thou-
sands of miles distant.
Forests were an important na-
tional asset in Britain until the
Napoleonic wars, but the inven-
tion and widespread use of iron
ships led to their-neglect: For-
est productivity throUghout the
United Kingdom declined, and
the country became increasingly
dependent on the Beltic coun-
tries, Canada, and other outside
sources of supply.
World War I emphasized Bri-
tain's desperate need for wood,
and the situation was intensi-
fied by the casualties suffered
by shipping. Many cargo ships
carrying vitally needed lumber
were sunk, and their precious
fregiht floated away, or sank to
the sea bottom in the hold of
steel ships.
Foresters in Britain and over-
seas sought to prevent a repeti-
tion of • this, danger by carrying
out an extensive tree-planting
program in many parts of the
British Columbia's coastal area
that would be suitable as the
foundation for Britain's post war
timber supply. Douglas fir, west-
ern cedar, hemlock, and spruce
were planted, and almost invari-
ably the seedlings grew into
healthy trees, writes Charles
Shaw in The Christian Science
Monitor.
Today, nearly one-third of the
United Kingdom's lumber out-
put is from trees planted in the
form of seed or seedlings 'from
the Pacific-coast. The trees have
,grown particularly well 'in the
warmer and wetter parts of Bri-
tain, according to Bernard Ren-
dle, one of 40 botanists from
overseas who made a tour of
Briti h Columbia woods re-
Gently.•
The British government is the
largest owner of forest-lands in
the United 'Kingdom, says Mr.
Rendle, because the industry re-
presents a long-term investment
— from 30 to 50 years, and the
average individual or corpora-
tion cannot wait that long.
In most cases forests have
been planted on ground that has
proven unsatisfactory for agri-
culture — much of it in the
north of England and Scotland.
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. When one has finished eat-
ing cereal, should 'the spoon be
left in the cereal bowl?
A. No; place it on the saucer
under the bowl.
Q. Who goes first down the
aisle of a motion picture theater,
.the man or the woman?
A. The woman precedes. And
unless 'she is with her husband,
fiance or someone she knows
back a second time and she was
just moving away. As I watched
her go' I thought — "There, If
ever there was one,' goes an
loved and unwanted soul."• She'
probably means well but it is
-beyond the human endurance ,of ,
relatives to stand such a gar-
,rulous tongue. I ,also thought, as'
'we should ll think upon such
`Occasions —
."'There, butef or the-
grace of',God, go I."
reel well; she should turn to
4iin and ask, Is this all right?"
This gives him a chance —
should he be near or farsighted,
to suggest a at that is closer or
farther away,
At a Well hifornuel wed",
ding, is it all right for the
bride and bridegroom to walk
down the aisle together?
Yes, if the wedding is
small and the bride has no neer
male relative to walk with her.
Q. We've been having a Vittle
argument as to whose place it
is to speak first when meeting on
the street, the 131Alt or the wo,
man. Will you please eettle this
for us?
A, Once upon a time, it was
the "lady" who always spoke
first, But today, if they are good
friends, there's nothing at all
wrong with the man's speaking
first.
Q. Should. the used silverware
be gathered up before removing
the plates from the dinner table?
A. No; the silver should t'e
left on the plates, and all re-
moved from the table together.
Q. If a knife has not been used
during a meal, should it be Pic'E-
ed up at the end of the meal And
placed with the fork across the
plate so that it will be taken out
when the plate is removed?
A. No; it should remain where
it is on the table.
Easy Chili-Chasers
61;
Be smart! Get set now for
frosty days ahead. Tassel-cap
,for sister —7 helmet for brother.
Easy-knit' cap" 'n' Mitten sets
in ,.garter stitch, contrast cable-
trim sewn on, separately. Pat-
teen 948: directions to ,fit 1, 2, 3
year old children included.
Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS'
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1; 123 Eighteenth St, New Tor-
' onto, Ont. Print plainly , PAT-
- TERN NUMBER, your NAME
,and, ADDRESS.
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Wheeler , Needlecraft Book. It
hes lovely designs to ordet:
embroidery, crochet, knitting,
weaving, quilting, toys. In 'the
....book, a special surprise to make
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