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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1959-11-05, Page 2AN € 141 1? ST ifoun, rainati Cousivieicrt, STEP LIVELY, WALLFLOWER — Sarah Brockett's version of the hat dance may not be authentic. After all, she's from Illinois and a farm girl to boot. f"- ellA4:7410 HRONICL 1NGERFAR ewen.ciolit\e P. Cl&rive. "Dear Anne Hirst; I am a miserable ceeature, although I have a husband and two fine babies. All around me i see mar- ried maples so happy together -- but my husband is more like a brother to me, and I do not believe I can stand it any longer , . It is my even fault. I mar- ried in my early teens only be- cause all my friends were en- gaged or had husbands, and I just made up my mind I wouldn't be left out. I looked around and I selected a man like I'd get a good coat; I hoped he would wear well. "He has. He is good to me and the children, and I have stayed on hoping I could learn to love him. I haven't, and my heart is still without love. I have no other reason to leave him, but I am beginning to think I am do- ing us both an injustice by liv- ing this way. I have missed something really essential to a happy life, and I am getting more and more dissatisfied, "Am I doomed to live on and on without ever knowing the thrills of love? I will be grateful for your opinion.., , Your col- umn helced me a lot in other MISERABLE" FUTILE HOPE * You are the victim of your * own folly, and I am sorry for ' you. I cannot hold out any hope * for a different future unless * you change your desires, You * took on your role deliberate- * ly and you are duty bound to * play it through, to be the best * wife you can to the man who * loves you so much, and to raise * the children who look to you * both for love and guidance:- * Can you picture what would * happen if you left your hus- * band, took ethe children and * went your own way? A more • hazardous ambition I cannot * imagine. ,What if you did not * find love? Now you are at least * spared the frustration that * would. follow; you have no * idea of the disillusion that * would mean, nor how passion- * ately you would wish you had • stayed home where you belong. * Compared with other mar- * riages, your own is not un- • endurable. Your husband is a * happy man, well satisfied with • his wile 'and 'his family. Un- * less and until he misses what • you have not been able to give, * why not live one day at a * time? His well-being and the * comfort you find in your chit- * dren can mitigate in •a large • measure this discontent that * is draining your energies. Love Extra-Easy to Sew PRINTED PATTERN dust THREE main pattern parts eta otit and stitch tip this basic beauty' in record time, Wear it as a jumper by deee an alluring dress for dates. Choose cotton tweed or benge7 line. Printed pattern 4912: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16; 18. Bite 16 takes 1% yards 54-inch fabric. Printed directions on e a c'h pattern part., Master, accurate. Send VIII't3t CENTS (5603 (starrilee cannot be'accepted, use pedal note for Safety) for this. pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, AODRASS! STYLE /stUMBEIL Send order to ANNE ADAMS, BOX .1, 123 Eighteenth St., Netv Toronto, Ont., * is, I agree, one of the essentials * of a completely happy mar- riage; but if it is denied one * can look about for comPensa- * tions and, find them. I Your longing is natural, but '0 it is futile. Far ahead of your * personal happiness stand the * responsibilities you voluntarily * assumed. Reconcile yourself to • them, and set your heart on a * different pinnacle -- the con- * tenth-lent of this good husband * you have and the growing sat- * isfaction you will know in * your children, That aim will * bring a spiritual peace you * have never known. * Going to church regularly * should bring new courage, and • its affairs and those of your * community will keep your * mind in more rewarding chan- * nels. ADOLESCENT HUSBAND "Dear Anne Hirst: F o r the 'first two years of our marriage I was happy with my husband— until I found he is just a simple liar. I believe it is because he is so ignorant, and tries to cover up with inadequate falsehoods. He says nasty things about all my family except my father, whom he seems to respect. Though I was brought up in a Christian home and am still a Sunday School teacher, my char- ity is about exhausted. He gets angry at me for nothing at all, and for days will not speak. I still love him, but if he doesn't stop being so hard to live with I'm afraid there will soon be no love left. "I agree that the man should be the head of his house, but not to the extent that his wife becomes a slave. He is so un- reasonable and unpredictable that I live with nerves that are at the breaking point. I have been a good wife and I am a good mother, but I am just about through . . . Can I do anything that I have not? AT THE END" Why don't you ask your fa- ther to have a man-to-man talk with your husband? You say he knew your family three years, before he married you, and he must have sensed their background and their kindness to one another. I ex- pect his criticism stems from the knowledge of his inferi- ority, but he should at least be outwardly loyal. You will have to stop being hurt. You cannot stop his crude comments, for they bring him a certain relief. Try to remember that he doesn't know better. He seems not to have grown up, for to allow a disagreement to silence him for days is childish. To keep him amiable you may have to flatter him, and you are smart enough to find a few reasons to do that; he must be de- ferred to in some degree. He resents the consideration and respect which your church and your friends show you. Be grateful that they do, and overlook his jealousy. Since he honours your fa- ther, -it may be that the older man will be able to alter your husband's outlook to some ex- tent. Try it, * 9 * If you cannot have what you most desire, get the most out of what you have and feel new gratitude for your blessings. Anne Hirst can help you appre- cilteLthem more fully. Write hex at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "Dad, what's an opportunist?" "He's a man who makes hay with 'the dress ?Ott'Ve:let= grow under your feet," 'WHO,' YOU? - Ready for the worst' is this Marine Wearing ined erne eecold`- Weather .battle dress. Ballistic helmet shell, made .of the saite,Materat 'Wed .armareit Vests, is designed to repidde the :helmet 110W it eta:, Other items 'are' .face mask, cold-weather Inter 'tinti tilaW tAtaket,, Monty Eats Crow When Field Marshal Viseoupt Montgomery pulls a b011Ori, a. big one, and when he eats. crow,. it's a. big bird Thus, the crusty old ('Ti) soldier found himself confronted with an apol, ogy to 12, 305,535 Britons — all those who voted for the "Labor Party in the recent general elec- tion. INIontgomery with pre-. election Tory fervor, had said. that all Labor voters were "barmy and should be locked up in a lunatic .asylum." In a post- election apology, Monty recant- ed: "Sometimes when you make speeches, you say things you don't mean. It's rather a laugh. at the time." But Laborites still. • didn't get the joke: 50 Labor members of the Bolton, England, town council boycotted a civic luncheon... for the field marshal. And Earl Mountbatten, Britain's Chief of the Defense Staff, com- mented: "If Montgomery had been on active duty, he would have had his head examined." Princess Steps Out One of the most accomplished dancers in our Royal Family is Princess Margaret, She loves dancing so much that she has been called the Dancing Prin- cess. Her skill as a dancer stems from her dancing studies with the Queen when they were small girls. Once every week their parents had one of the sitting- rooms at their home in Picca- dilly, London, transformed into a ballroom where the two golden- haired princesses learned waltzes and reels. These were alternated with music to which the little girls happily sang nursery rhymes. To-clay Princess Margaret is a versatile ballroom dancer. She has a remarkable flair for learn- ing complicated new steps quickly. Although she is fond of modern rhythms, the „old-style Scottish and English country numbers also charm and delight her, NEW HAIRDO — Princess Marg- aret sports a new hairdo — reminiscent of the "roaring twenties" — as she visits the Bermondsey Youth Club in Lon- don. A French newspaper re- cently reported that the Prin- cess would announce her en- gagement to Canadian lawyer John Turner with the permis- sion of the Queen, despite re- ligious differences, British court circles denied the report. Diamonds Don't Like It Wet Eyes are sparkling in the dia- mond industry this year. There are signs -all over the 'world that 1959 may prove a record year for sales of gem and industrial dia- monds. One great diamond - selling organization has sold neatly . $75,000,000 worth of diamonds on behalf of. South African and other producers in , three months. The increase in sales of ,indus- trial diaftioncis is described as "drametic." Diamonds are used industrially foe precision work, boring, grind_ frig and Cutting, for the diamond is so much,-harder than anything else. A large motor company in the. United States uses 1,000 dia- monds to turn machine• parts. In almost every-,brand}"A on!" gineering diamond bids are note used to Menu-facture beatinge, piston rings, axle shafts and en- gineS. Diamonds, like people, are sornetiiries moody. They teact to the state of the weather and they can teMporarily lose their lus- tre. When this happens they are sent to a gent doctor! One of these Hattori Garden, Londoh, experts treated stones to the , value Of $10 Million in a single year. Square-thApea, round -shaped or pear-shaped, diamonds to-day are the he's' investment ill the world, declare dealers. Most women, especially brides-to-be, ftrefee a flashy diamond With flaws to a flawless sinallet stone, said tt prominent dealer recent. Studying a crowd of people is always interesting but I think last Friday I found the most in- triguing group it has been my lot to "observe. I went to "Medi- scope" — the display and demon- stration that was put on by the Ontario Medical Association in Toronto. I found it intensely in- teresting and most• informative. And the crowds . . . the officials themselves were floored by the numbers who turned up to see what they had to, offer. And it was all free — you couldn't spend money if you wanted to. It was even hard to find a'place to buy a sandwich. Actually there were two small stands•but they weren't very obvious. I watched the people passing • . . mothers with babies; high school students; nuns; middle- 'age folk, singly or in pairs; an occasional onlooker in a wheel- chair and also the very old. What brought them there' in such numbers, I wondered? Was it curiosity, a thirst for knowledge ,or a genuine 'desire to know what goes on inside our 'human body? I have a feeling it was the latter. Not all displays at- tracted equal attention but I noticed there was always a greater crowd• wherever there was any practical demonstration. For instance , by means of a spe- cial stethoscope you could hear your own hear beat, or by a contraption over the' ears you could test • your own hearing ability, There was also a Geiger counter showing its reaction when placed over radio-active and non-radio-active material. For this purpose chunks of rocks were used, one containing a fair amount of uranium' ore. There Were books shoWing household equipment , for paraplegics or otherWiSe disabled persona. One booth - denfonstratect various typesjitariaestheties. I never did get3close to ejthera 6/ those two. Of course the great' attraction was "The Birth of a Baby"' , Each time T went past the enclosure theie was a terrific eed it Was not until the third or fourth time I'd decided to take My chance with the rest arid wait, But I did not find the wait- ing too tedious because T Was• se eriteneely interested in Wateh- ing others in the tilittle; Next tci-nie Were two ministers, sever- al nuns, an elderly couple and four or dve high school students horsing around in the appioved fsliion — approved,, that is, by their own fraternity. I resented their attitude. = Here we Were;; waiting to get in to a denten- StratiOn Of the great Miracle of Life and ell thee young gaffere eiceuld rictewas,elteeve iteseeMing:IY levity, I had. no idea what we were likely to see — that is, the form it would 'take -- but what- ever it was I felt it should be given the respect it deserved. Well, I need- not have worried. The display was mostly in pic- tures and plastic models, show- ing the growth of a baby from its ,inception to birth.' 'And do you know, from the minute we entered the small building the young folk were all attention. No talking, no unseemly com- ments of any kind. They were genninely interested and moved slowly and reluctantly . along. Nor was there anything in the exhibit that was unfit' for the the youngest child to see. After, all the actual birth of young 'animals is no secret to' children on a farm so why should ,'they be denied the knowledge of how' the young, gradually grow until 'they are ready to' leave the pro- tectiVe shelter of their mother's body: ' As the youngsters left the building there may have 'been a few quips realtive to what they: seen but we have to remem- ber that young, people will do' or say almost anything to hide their real. feelings. • Later in my wanderings I heard a lot of talking and thought I must 'be nearing an-. other demonstration so I kept going in the direction of the' Voice. It was anything but a dem- onstration! I found a small booth. — 'or stall — Whatever' you like' to' call' devoted to geriatlea — that is, to the care, and light 'work that can be undertaken by the',-aged — either ' in homes for the aged or in pri- vate homes. The ialker, how. Over, wasn't the doctor in charge- hut a garrulous' old lady! The peer soul was airing all her greiVaricea about doctors, homes for the aged, the old age. pension' arid how few extras' it covered She had been a, Ptecti- cal nurse in her time and thought she should be allowed to. help look after the 'o ther' resid, tilts in the Mine, She resented, the fact that elle •Weeetiot allow ed to bring., her two trunks' kitli ' her. sorry," the' admittance nurse had said, "rici trunks al, lowed. Whit battee theth, anyway?" "What's in them?" the old lady told ' her indignantly; "clothes, that's what, I don't see you nurses running around in the nude so' WhyShouldn't I have my Clothes? And thete'a a num' bet Sickroom you could make use of that I'd let you' have for free." Well, the poor dear rah On like that at great length., tithe Canadian Aid For British Forests Because far , sighted foresters sent to the United KingcleM shortly after World War I lor.0 quantities of seeds and seedlings of Pacific coast 'forest species, a,serious Weed shortage in tain is being overcome. forIwn erd fox Scotland, oo p plazas whose aregoing raw materials will be derived largely from coniferous forests resulting from the vigorous young growth which originated in Prittsh Columbia, many thou- sands of miles distant. Forests were an important na- tional asset in Britain until the Napoleonic wars, but the inven- tion and widespread use of iron ships led to their-neglect: For- est productivity throUghout the United Kingdom declined, and the country became increasingly dependent on the Beltic coun- tries, Canada, and other outside sources of supply. World War I emphasized Bri- tain's desperate need for wood, and the situation was intensi- fied by the casualties suffered by shipping. Many cargo ships carrying vitally needed lumber were sunk, and their precious fregiht floated away, or sank to the sea bottom in the hold of steel ships. Foresters in Britain and over- seas sought to prevent a repeti- tion of • this, danger by carrying out an extensive tree-planting program in many parts of the British Columbia's coastal area that would be suitable as the foundation for Britain's post war timber supply. Douglas fir, west- ern cedar, hemlock, and spruce were planted, and almost invari- ably the seedlings grew into healthy trees, writes Charles Shaw in The Christian Science Monitor. Today, nearly one-third of the United Kingdom's lumber out- put is from trees planted in the form of seed or seedlings 'from the Pacific-coast. The trees have ,grown particularly well 'in the warmer and wetter parts of Bri- tain, according to Bernard Ren- dle, one of 40 botanists from overseas who made a tour of Briti h Columbia woods re- Gently.• The British government is the largest owner of forest-lands in the United 'Kingdom, says Mr. Rendle, because the industry re- presents a long-term investment — from 30 to 50 years, and the average individual or corpora- tion cannot wait that long. In most cases forests have been planted on ground that has proven unsatisfactory for agri- culture — much of it in the north of England and Scotland. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When one has finished eat- ing cereal, should 'the spoon be left in the cereal bowl? A. No; place it on the saucer under the bowl. Q. Who goes first down the aisle of a motion picture theater, .the man or the woman? A. The woman precedes. And unless 'she is with her husband, fiance or someone she knows back a second time and she was just moving away. As I watched her go' I thought — "There, If ever there was one,' goes an loved and unwanted soul."• She' probably means well but it is -beyond the human endurance ,of , relatives to stand such a gar- ,rulous tongue. I ,also thought, as' 'we should ll think upon such `Occasions — ."'There, butef or the- grace of',God, go I." reel well; she should turn to 4iin and ask, Is this all right?" This gives him a chance — should he be near or farsighted, to suggest a at that is closer or farther away, At a Well hifornuel wed", ding, is it all right for the bride and bridegroom to walk down the aisle together? Yes, if the wedding is small and the bride has no neer male relative to walk with her. Q. We've been having a Vittle argument as to whose place it is to speak first when meeting on the street, the 131Alt or the wo, man. Will you please eettle this for us? A, Once upon a time, it was the "lady" who always spoke first, But today, if they are good friends, there's nothing at all wrong with the man's speaking first. Q. Should. the used silverware be gathered up before removing the plates from the dinner table? A. No; the silver should t'e left on the plates, and all re- moved from the table together. Q. If a knife has not been used during a meal, should it be Pic'E- ed up at the end of the meal And placed with the fork across the plate so that it will be taken out when the plate is removed? A. No; it should remain where it is on the table. Easy Chili-Chasers 61; Be smart! Get set now for frosty days ahead. Tassel-cap ,for sister —7 helmet for brother. Easy-knit' cap" 'n' Mitten sets in ,.garter stitch, contrast cable- trim sewn on, separately. Pat- teen 948: directions to ,fit 1, 2, 3 year old children included. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS' (stamps cannot 'be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to L'aura Wheeler, Box 1; 123 Eighteenth St, New Tor- ' onto, Ont. Print plainly , PAT- - TERN NUMBER, your NAME ,and, ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler , Needlecraft Book. It hes lovely designs to ordet: embroidery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In 'the ....book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy — a' cut-out doll," clothes to colour. Send 25 dente foci this book. toti ETERNAL CITY When in Rollie, future tOUrISIS ab;.; to walk the "streets "hey, Were in ancient eity will be int5dei With Streeti_the She' of iide+Ptilkt. Herd;• a woman Checks. the rriiiiiCitlitis CeleiSetriTh