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euvadollne. P. CleizIke
way wouldn't even know
ed. When we got home again we
found. Partner had Washed, all
the dishes., put the furniture
back where it belonged and gen-
erally speaking had the house
restored to a semblance of order,
It was a wonderful help. Some-
times I have a feeling I chose
the right men for husband.
Partner explains away his help-
fulness by saying that because
he can no longer do hard, phy§i.
cal P.r9r1,k,tbratleaves him free
to do what b'e'eala in other' ways,
Incidentally I should mention
I was out to another W.I. meet-
ing the day before at which Mrs.
Mary Fix, Reeve of Toronto
Tcwnship was guest speaker.
She gave us a very clear picture
et her duties but unfortunately
there was no time for a ques-
tion period. That was just too
bad as, being taxpayers, a neigh-
bor and I, prompted, by our re-
spected husbands, had gone fir-
ed with a few questions to
which we wanted answers.
' I brought back twenty chairs
from the Wednesday meeting
ready for my affair next day.
Friday Partner and I took them
back to the funeral parlour from
1.'4/hence we thought. they came.
But ownership was denied. Stu-
pid me I, forgot there was
more than one funeral parlour,
Finally we found the chairs
came ,from Streetsville and so
eventually they were duly re-
turned to the proper owners, af-
ter a little unnecessary travel-
ling, around,. the' country.
• Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. Should garage employees
tipped?
dpesdqvice station attendants be
A. 'Only when some special
service has been performed out-
side of what is regularly charged
for.
Q. To settle a discussion we
had recently, will you please tell
me just what are the purposes
of a dinner napkin?
• A. To wipe the lips before
drinking from the waterglass, so
that the glass will not be smear-
ed; and to wipe the fingers.
Q. May an invitation ever be
properlycard? written on a visiting
A. Yes; a card may be used
for an invitation to a tea, to
meet a' guest, an informal dance,
or a bridge party.
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ISSUE 41.— 1958
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"Dear Anne Hirst; I am so up-
set I'M nearly out of my mind!
Seven Months ago I met a young
man from a nearby OW, and
we've dated regularly ever
since. He comes every week and
stays over when he can; he takes
Me to the nicest places, and. al-
ways brings me lovely gifts. But
as for a word love, there isn't
any.
"Front the first, he asked me
not to see anybody else and the
few times I did he lost his tem-
per and declared he couldn't
trust me. He hurts my feelings
(sometimes deliberately, I think)
and then laughs it off, Yet I am
crazy about him, Anne Hirst! I
don't know how much he cares,
nor what his intentions are, if
we any. He hasn't even given me
his class ring to wear. He says
he'd come over more often, but
he thinks I should, spend my
spare time studying. (I'm a
high-school senior, and my
grades are good.)
"I can't stand this uncertainty
any longer. Where do we go
fro here?
WORRIED TO DEATH"
YOUNG DICTATOR
* Why will you girls let a boy
* make the rules, and obey him
* like a slave? Haile you a mar-
* tyr complex? This domineer-
* youngster has the effrontery
* to demand you give up all
* your other friends and sit at
* home alone until he happens
* to drop in. He tries to make
* you over, implies you are ig-
* norant and lazy, and you sit
* by and take it.
"` If you think this proves how
• much he loves you, you
• couldn't be more wrong. He
• is born dictator, and just now
* you are his latest victim. The
• boy is so in love with himself
* that he has none left for any-
* one else. You, being in love,
* accept the miserable role. —
* And for what? He has never
* spoken a word of love. He
* hasn't even offered his class
* ring for you to show your
* friends who ask what's going
* on. And how do you know he
* hasn't a girl in his own town?
* You ask little enough —
* only to be sure he belongs to
* you as surely as you belong to
* him, You can't be certain of
* that so long as you crawl to
* his beckoning finger. The' only
* girl he will take seriously at
) this stage is one who asserts
) herself, and refuses to be
• treated like a moronic child.
* Date any nice boy you
know, whether you want to
* or not. It will show him that
* other lads desire you, too. He
• needs to be taught he cannot
* command a girl as though she
• belonged to him unless he
* gives the same loyalty he de-
• mands.
* No matter how deeply you
* love him, you could never be
• happy with him as he is today.
* To keep your love, he will
• have to earn it.
* You will not relish this
* counsel, but if you ever hope
* to win him it is the one way
• you may succeed. If it does
• not work, you can remind
* yourself that he wasn't worth
* having. Cold emnfort,`I know,
• but you have asked for it.
'Isn't that wonderful, darling.
lie thinks you're his mother:"
GIIII CONFV$E))
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am very
mixed up on this, my loth birth
day, Boys seem to like MP, but
they won't accept my standards
of how a lady should behave.
"Why don't parents teach
their children ( and warn them)
how to behave? I am disgusted
by how many nice girls and boys
are reduced; to petting! They
seem, to think that's the only
reason for being friends, If they
had been, told one decent thing
by their mothers, they would
heed it • , . No, I'm not an 'old-
timer', but I do have common
sense, Why don't boys who are
otherwise nice learn they must
keep hands off?
"I love my friends, but how
can I keep on loving them and
still hold fast to my convictions?
1VIITZIE"
* Boys of the age that attract
* you are apt to set their own
* standards of behavior, but
* they do learn from the girls
* they date.
*. You, for one, will hold on
.* to your 'standards, and prove
• to them that mutual respect
* is 'the .firsts= cornerstone of
* friendship. They aren't stupid,
.* they will get the idea; if they
* don't want to be friends for your
* own sake, they aren't fit to
* see you at all.
* I agree it is a pity that so
* many parents are too self-
* conscious to guide their chil-
* dren in proper relationships
* between the sexes, and warn
* them of its dangers.
* * *
A girl should set the rules for
the boys she dates. If he does
not observe them she will know
she is not important to him . .
Anne Hirst knows the ins-and-
out of courtship, Write her
frankly, at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth
St., New Toronto, Ont.
Cruelty Of Youth
"Both Parents Work"
Juvenile delinquency, all too
often, ls thought of as a problem
of the big cities, born of slums,
poverty, and racial conflict. Ac-
£ually, it infects all economic
and social classes and areas.
Associate Editor Jack Iams tells
how youngsterseof a solid, semi-
rural community reached a new
low:
The old men who used to
limp — or wheel themselves —
about the spacious, shaded lawns
don't feel quite safe there any
more. They prefer to stay close
to the main building of the New
Jersey Home for Disabled Sol-
diers that covers /03 acres just
outside of Menlo Park—a town
best known nationally as the
home of Thomas Alva Edison's
laboratory.
The vegetable garden where
the old men used to putter is
now overgrown. The greenhouse
where they tended plants is
gone. The flower beds around the
proud flagpole have been rav-
aged. The summerhouse where
they used to read, or play check-
ers, or just drowse on sunlit af-
ternoons is a black circle of
charred ruins.
-The old men never know when
they will be startled by the crack
of an air rifle and the shattering
of a window pane in one of the
outbuildings. Or by the burst of
a giant firecracker bitried in the
grass. In the •machine shop, alone,
26 windows have been shot out.
The greenhouse was the favorite
target until the home got tired
of replacing the glass and tore it
down.
But worst of all are the taunts.
There was the veteran of the
first world war sitting on a sunny
bench one afternoon," trembling
with Parkinson's disease, A
youthful voice cried: "What are
you shakin' for, Grandpop? It
ain't cold out." Or there was the
veteran in his 60s with a pecu-
liar sort of sideWays limp He
heard the jeer: "Look at that
DOUBLE EXPOSURE—Alert pho-
tographer caught double imago
of a four-engined airliner tak-
ing off from O'Hare Field. Air-
line hostess Jean Boulay is the
gal behind the sunglasses.
old geezer; walks like he's afraid
to sit down."
Things like that hurt the old
men most. After all, they haven't
got much left except a fierce
pride in the sacrifice they made -
for their country—most of them
in the war to make the world
safe for democracy. (There are
83 veterans in the home alto-
gether; a few are from the sec-
ond world war and half a dozen,
including one man of 93, from
the Spanish-American War. The
latter take pleasure in being
known as "the Spaniards.")
And who are the offenders
against these old men? They are
kids from the adjacent housing
development of Menlo Park' Ter-
race, one of many 'that eliaveeee
mushroomed up in that ex110.0:
ing part of New Jersey in recent;'
years. But this is not the:3:kind
of housing project that,7411es
spawned delinquency in he big
cities: This is a neat and attrac-
tive community of split-level
houses — about a thousand of
,them -- painted a variety of
pastel colors,'set in small green
plots, and costing around $15,000.
The children who are everywhere
—they average three to a home
—are healthy, well-dressed, 'nice-
looking kids. The parents are in
the $5,000 to $7,500 income
bracket, There are no racial
problenls. And, as a final ironic
touch, the huge, majority of the
fathers—better than 90 per cent
according to one of them—are
former GI's,
What brought the situation to
light was a request by the insti-
tution's superintendent, Jacob
Hauleriheek himself a veteran
of World War II--for an extra
$20,000 in his budget to build
a high wire fence between the
soldiers' home and the housing
cieveloptri-ent. His request, now
pending before the State Legis-
lature, cites "incidents of de-
struction . . the setting on fire
of a summerhouse-shooting out
of 26 windows in the occupa-
tional workshop , . . taunting
and hazing , . a definite safety
problem."
"It's still going on," Stipetin-
tendent Hatildribeek Said last
Week. "The police have extra
patrol data On duty now and
that helps , .I don't know
what's wrong with those kids,
They come from good homes.
One trouble is that in a let Of
those familieS, both the Parenta
work. Another' is that the PeOPle
Who` bUitt the development Jan-i-
vied the houses in Withetit
entitigh Speee for',recreation. I
don't lino* the anSWetv MI I
know IS we Want these kids kept
away fterie iieree"-4rcim NEWS-
Well, that W.I. meeting sched-
uled to take place at our home
last week actually came off as
anned. There were times when
I wondered if it would — what
with plumbers around a few
clays before; drapes that I
wasn't sure would be back from
the cleaners; one or two hot,
humid days when the floor wax
wouldn't set and that awful,
jittery "I'll - never - be-ready-in-
time" sort of feeling that many
of you may not know about but
which. I do. However, I told
myself that none of the things
that could happen was likely to
be a major disaster and Part-
ner was working like a Trojan
inside and out helping me to
get ready, so I decided every-
thing would probably turn out
all right, And it did.
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Joy and baby Ross came al-
ong shortly before noon bring-
ing with them an' octogenarian
friend who had been looking for-
ward to the meeting. Joy being
here to receive people left me
free to meet our guest speaker
et Cooksville, 'who was none
other than Miss Ethel Chapman,
editor of that splendid little
magazine ""Hone and Country".
When we got back- we found
nearly forty guests awaiting her
arrival which did not surprise
me at all. Miss Chapman is such
a 'splendid speaker that she is
always sure of an attentive and
• appreciative audience wherevel
she goes. Last Thursday was n,.
exception.
-Miss Chapman's theme was ed.',
ucation — that is, in its widest
scope.. Education as it applies to
W.I. work in particular. She em-
phasized 'the importance • of en-
couraging and using local tal-
ent, as "far as possible, in arrang-
ing programmes but agreed that
it was also necessary to invite
outside speakers for specialized
subjects. As, for 'instance, P
member of the Library, ,Board
to explain how, to make ,the best
use of "library facilities; a rep-
Iesentative of schools for the re:
tarded, outlining 'their work' 'and
the ways• in, which , the , WeIe.can,
help; a .-speelterep.
w
n
local conseryation,autheritY„
a Study of buymanship for home-
purchasing needs. Miss Chapman
was very strong on •thei,:laSt
named subject, deploring the
modern• trend -in advertising; the
mass hysteria in buying; going t.;)
a shopping centre with pOssibly
/Meer: items on our shopping
list and coming home with tWeri-A
ty. In effect, she begged her
toners not to be led astray
glib advertising; to estimate the
worth, and the necessity, of their
purchasei and not to be overly
concerned iri having all the up-
to-date gadgets just beer use our
neighbour has them, 'Don't be
afraid to be different. Confor-
mity has' its merits, she agreed,
but we must be ,On guard lest
it kill originality and initiative
of purpose,
These are just a few Of the'
subjects touched on in Miss
Chapman's address.' There Were
Many others. Iri feet it WeS
of suggestions that could well,
be Made use of by any branch
in planning its programmes. One
very good idea Was for members
to stibinit, anonymously, written
.suggestions as to What subjects
Li speakers they wonld• like to
see ineltided in their monthly
prograriThieS.
And then, after the" meeting
dids6c1; what a bitti of voices] It
was 'more conspicuous bedatise
'Ot the quiet, rapt attention that
had prevailed while Miss. Chapi=.
Man Was speaking. The lunch
Corninittee "did Itself proud" and,
no one seemed in at hurry
let away. 'Finally the last tiod,
byes' Were said. Joy, ROSS' ,and
our elderly guest, also tOck their
leaVe So' the
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residential" 'Spots in this district,,
streets and toads that the av,,
breed traveller along the high,
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HOT WORK — On location at the_beach In ,San biego for, the'filming of the' Billy Wilder farce,
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:non masquerade as• women in the film-Marihm, however (it's nice ,to know), just plays her
natural self.
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