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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1958-06-11, Page 6Q, Does the receipt of a 'alittattltrentelIC.V4PItk , one to eend. a gift to the new .baby"? A. There is Be obligation, but it is a nice gesture. If, however, one feels one cannot afford 4 gift, or is. not on intimate terms with the new parents, then a Congra- tulators, card or handwritten no te Q, wouldIsitobriesitn ae red proper t or a girl tvho is not engaged to wear a diamond. ring on the third finger of her left hand? A. There is nothing improper about this—that is, if the girl does not care about the impres- sion she is giving other persons, Q. When a family is in the habit of saying grace before a meal, is it proper to adhere to. this custom when, there are guestsvlis dinner? for icloinsi r? Acertainly is the proper thing to do. Q. if a great many wed- ding gifts have been received, wouldn't it be all right for the bride to mail out engraved cards of thanks' A. Never! If a bride does not consider the gifts worth her time and effort to write ipersonal notes of thanks, then it seems a shame that the donors devoted any time and money to her.. Q. We have just moved into a new community. Would it be all right if we were to give a huffet dinner for our new neigh- bors? A. This might be all right in a very informal community. Us- ually, however, it is more ad- visable to wait until your neigh- bors . make such overtures of friendship. Q. I have been invited to spend two weeks with a good friend and her huSband who live in an- other town. Would it be proper for me to offer them some money to cover any extra expenses my visit might entail? A. It would be much better if' you • did not offer them any money. A nice useful gift of some kind would be much more in order. factor—the skill of doctors and the cooperation of patients—and their families. All play a part; all help or retard a patient"s re- covery. If only more people would realize it — especially those who, in the kindness of their hearts, visit friends who are ill. A few days ago I called to in- quire for an acquaintance con- fined to bed in her own home with a heart condition. The fore part of the week she had been improving nicely; then on. Thursday came three visitors in succession. One of them, a good hearted soul, but unfortunately very talkative and having a loud voice. Towards• evening, follow- ing these visits, the patient took another attack and the doctor had to be sent for. If only sym- pathetic friends would confine their visits to about five min- utee, A sick person loves to know that :friends are thinking of her but the effort of taking part in a conversation, or even listening for too long a time is often more than she can stand. Weakness and the extra exertion involved often leaves her in a bath of perspiration. In hospitals the hours for visiting are fortunate- ly limited, It is in a patient's own home where the greatest harm is clone; the patient and her fam- ily are afraid of appearing un- grateful to those who come to call. May I suggest that in such cases you ask the advice of your doctor. He will probably limit the number of visits and the length of time the visitors should stay. His authority will let you out of an awkward situation. To the next visitor you may truth- fully say—"Yes, Annie will love to see you but the doctor says visitors should stayno longer than five minutes." ft the visit' is prolonged, break it tip! We had visitors yesterday, but for more than five minutes, Daughter and family arriteed for their .first Visit since the boys recovered from the measles, Full of fun and energy they made a bee-line for the swings directly, They were happy so Daughter, the baby and. I left the big men and little risen together and, took off for Milton on a short Visit to Bob and jeer in their new home, We did not stay fair sup- per as they' are not yet ready for a houseswarreingl Incidentally we are etteoideting how !Ong it takes anyone to get settled. Last Week we were held up three days over the iristalla, don Of a screen deer. It was partly finished and then left for three days. A general mix-up all round. We waited esspecting the men to return; the men meanwhile lacked the .proper tools arid Waited for therit to come in, The girl in the office did hot Understand the situation and gave us incorrect infertile, den. NOW We ate Wthidering see it it takes three days to install a door how tong would it take to build a 'house? Modem Etiquette . AN Nf 14_1.RST uweZrL ): Ii) Roberta 1,eo ' tattle in your appteueh to liv,se * men. you knew and .1OSts • Nearly a year ego enollser * reader wrote me with the * same problem; she was severat years older than you, and as. hopeless, I remember that I • denied being a fatalist, and I * persuaded her to relinquish the. * idea that one's destiny is fixed, The great element of chances 's added to a woman's imagine- * Lion and common sense, has been known to bring the fut- * fillment you seek, * A successful peoleselonel career can develop in a woman * an arrogance that stifles any 4' romantic impulse; positive per- * sonalities emerge that Limn- tentionally reflect superiority. * They defy one truth: That a * male is still conquered by * sheer womanliness, a little * flattery and honest com- * panionehip, A girl can make * him believe that SHE is tne * girt he'd like to come home to, * an individual who fits' his. varying moods like a pair of * gloves, asks no embarrassing * questions, and is inspiring, 4 sympathetic or tender as the moment demands, SPARKS LAUGHS — See any- thing to laugh about? Neither do we, but every time Red Skelton looks at long-limbed big-eyed, perky-nosed Shari Stennette, he laughs. But she, doesn't mind:, She's in bit parti on his show, but he's grooming her as a future comedienne,. She says: "Mr. Skelton sees n clown quality in my face." Laugh, clown, laugh: `Dear Anne Hirst: All my life I have tried to live as a good woman should, but now, at 30, I ant frustrated, Why ean't I hold the friends I make, especially the men? I'm not a beauty, but I've been called very .attractive and Sevetal. men have paid me solicitous at- tention for quite a period. But I feel I have failed them all, ,they show they care for me, sod Some made promises that sound- ed sincere but turned out to be I vague; they cool off, and have to admit they have simply be- some bored. Then naturally I grow more self-conscious, and cannot be at my own best, "There are so many women. whose horizons end with then own four walls and, idle eoesip, yet they land husbands, °While I (a successful woman in my profession) With varied interests, a true sympathy for others' prob- lems, and a better-then-saving humor, I go on and on .from friend to friend making no pro- gress toward my goal. "Am I to sit back and give up? Never know marriage, never have a home and children? Or what can I do to interest a man and hold him for the rest of my life? "Can you blame me for con- cluding that men are out far what they can get, some decent girl to practice their lovemaking talents on until they find the right girl for themselves? FRUSTRATED" * Sit down today in your quiet * room, and examine yourself as * though you were somebody * else; you may ferret out the Young Play-Set PRINTED PAT-I-IAN A girl with marriage on bee mind who has suffered more than one disappointment some- times errs by yielding too soon to a man's lovemaking; be con- cludes she has been as free with others. Again, eager young women snub a man with such hostility that he be- lieves her incapable of any emotional response. It is wail to realize that ,most men can be repulsed graciously so that he believes he appeals to her but she has too much self- respect to yield to his bland- * * * * * .ishments, * Miracles do happen, you * know. At just the time a * woman like you gives up alt * hope, the right man suddenly * turns her corner. Then how * glad she is that all those other * males passed her by! Tomor- * row may bring your fate to you. 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The salesgirl was describing *the new four-piece outfit a model was wearing: "If you remove the bodice you will have a play- suit, •If you remove the skirt you will have a ,sunsuit, If you re- move anything else you will have a lawsuit," Hospitals are not what they used to be, Gone are the austere white walls and furnishings: the white crinkled spreads and high sickroom beds. Modern hospi- tale now are cheerful and attrac- tive—most, of them similar - to the one t visited yeeterdey. it was "Open House" at the new South-Peel General Hospital, Small, as compared with city hospitals, but lackine few of the essential facilities. The locetion is ideal — a stone's throw from No. 10 Highway, about a mile from Cooksville but actually on what is known as the "Upper Middle Road," with a backs ground of fine hardwood trees, The present accommodation at the hospital is 125 bed's and 55 baby tots, But there is plenty of room for future expansion 'which undoubtedly will be needed,. cum.4 mita% Daughter looks so pretty its this whirl-skirted pinafore, COL- orful embroidery trims neck. Button front — she 'can dress all by herself! Pattern 866: em- broidery transfer;, pattern Oils dren'S sizes 2, 4, 6, 8 included; slitectiOne for sewing. Send tutitTY-EliVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal bole for safety) for this pattern." to LAURA WHEELER, Boit 1, 121 'Eighteenth St., New Toronto. Print plainly PATTERN D114E:it, your NAME and. AD- A§ a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in Out LAURA WHEELER. Needlecraft Boole: Dozens of other designs yoU'll Want to order—easy fas- cinating handwcirk for yourself., your hone, gifts, bazaar Aetna, Send 25 eerits fee your copy or this book today! DIRTY DOG The character and his hound came into the billiard parlor and sat down. "This dog talks," the (sheenier announced proudly. "I don't believe it,' snapped the proprietor. "All right, I'll show you." Turning to the dog, "What's on top of a house?" "R-r-r-roof!" "And how's business these 'days?" "R-r-rough*" "And who's the longest hates' in baseball?" "R-r-ruth," "Waugh!" snarled, the pro- prietor. "It's a fake." And ha tossed both the character anti his ,dog out of the place, "Shame on you," said 'the character to his dog, as he stag- gered to his feet. "Yeah," apologized the dog. 'Maybe I should have said Willie Mays." Cute And Cool "Why did' thew little shoe run away from home?" "Betatise 'his Mettler' teat it Sneaker and his father was loafer. SENTIMENTAL. JOURNEY Seageing, "newsboy", , William 4115 eitl°'-.Ontil above,. Makes. a situ mile voyage 'every week .from Cdhaseets Mass., to 'Boston Lightship' to deliver Sunday editions cif'EIbtliart neWepselperse Delivery is made, tinder farms of . the will of the late James Dearts, Boston slciekestelteitigse, executive,Dean, etehd Made the run himself uhtrl bis death in placed .$10;000 in the Permanent Charity 'Fund Boston Oh' condition that: 'th'e delivery to' the lonely lightship. be perpelua DAY Out in Akron,. Ohios Most Of the. CN.O., teams ale coached by young ptieete. whom the youngsters ate very fond at During- the baseball Sedeem s the, kids frequently gay 'things- "Pallier .101artagatii WhO'e. playing third? u "Rattier ,Murphy, do you think; we'll One titripled Phil. bienott was -surprised and .flat.. leteti• When of the young- Steil walked ttp. to Hite and said, tlfripirei -what!' the. ISSUE. lit • MI i7,11 • IMO • • FASHION HINT HRONICLES INGERFARM Gweadol.in,e P. Clarke There are only a few prissate rooms — at the present high rate few people can afford the luxury of a private room, Nor is it always advisable, Semi- private rooms are, favoured by most of the general public. Or even ward-rooms — ward-morns being a lot different from what they used to be. At South-Peel a ward consists of two' beds to a room separated by a curtain or panel the length of the bed. At one side of the mom there is an open connecting doorway leading to the other half of the ward — again with only two beds and the usual furnishings — a chest of drawers, bedside table, an easy chair and a straight chair and ,an adjustable bed-table for meals or reading, all in attractive steel walnut finish, The walls are in pastel colours with- pretty drapes and spreads completing the colour scheme, The beds are edjustedi by hydraulic coltilieht — tow for convenience of patients able to get in and (nit of bed; high for nurses' making beds or oaring for the patients, But all the emphasis has not been given to attractive sur- roundings—to whet, some call the "frills," Vital arid essential equipment was given top prior- ity. There are.illy equipped X-ray ,rooms, laboratories, dis- pensaries, surgeries and labour rooms—plus a comfortable waits ing-room for expectant fathers! And of dented there is a Mar- vellous 'kitchen with stainless steel sinks, tables and working areas, The laundry and steriliz- ing rooms are equally modern. All hi all it looks like a hospital where one might expect the ule Ornate in care to promote speedy recovery to hertriat health—pro- viding the Board it able-td main4 lain a ehmpetent. staff of physis dens, -err e ems and nurses, At aft. 4 1%.*ttiln to the human' Took Twelve Years To Find Family When Corporal Ceorg. mann of the Wehrmacht panne back from a Russian prison camp to his little Bavarian town, in 1945, it was to be confronted with tragedy, He had left beh;nd him his wife, Anna, and six children, Iwo years before. But now, where his house had stood, he found nothing but ruins. The whole of that area of the town had been flattened to the ground by bombing, asked a passer-by what had happened, and the man replied that almost all the inhabitants in the quarter had perished during the raid, buried under the ma- sonry of their houses, Further inquiries did no more than con- firm the dreadful news, His wife, together with his six children, had disappeared, That day, Hoffman began ghastly pilgrimage all over the region, going from one Red Cross post to another in search of news, of somebody who had seen or heard of his family. He heard nothing until, one. day, he met a man who had lived near his ruined house and who told him that Anna and the children were dead. He was sure of it, so sure that he accompanied Hoffman to the town hall where he swore out a death certificate for all of them. Broken-hearted, Hoffman took lodgings in the house of a widow whose husband had died in his own Russian prison, giving him his papers and a letterset fare- well to his wife, The widow had a young daughter, nd after a few months Hoffman proposed to her, promising to 1pok after the little girl as thougin she had been a child of his own. They were married, and went to live at 'Ulm. All went smoothly enough and Georg Hoffmann gradually be- gan to recover from his tragedy. Then, one day, he was due to attend a gathering of ex- prisoners-of-war. When he came back, it was with a grave face and startling news. "I have found Anna," he told his second wife. "She and my six children are living at Bay- reuth. I am going back to her." Remarkable though it seems, George and Anna had managed to live in Germany for years, each presuming the other was dead. In fact, Anna had not been in their' house when it was de- stroyed. She had taken her six children to live with relatives in the province of Bayreuth. At the end of the war she had mov- ed into, the city, finding work with the Americans as a laundress: Like her husband, it had been long before she gave up hope of being reunited with him. Every day she went to church to pray that she should find him, and her confessor became her 'chief helper in this quest. But when, by 1950, there was still no trace of him, the State gave her permission to presume him dead and began to issue her with a widow's pension. Anna, however, still refused to despair, and.every time there was news of prisoners returning front Russia she made her way to the camp at Friedland where they wer repatriated; always without success.. And the inquiries made by herself and her confessor, pos- sibly because Hoffmann is a common name in Germany, never led to any result. At last, seven years after 'Georg was presumed dead, the priest called Anna into his sacristy after a service in whicn prayers had been offered by, the congregation for absent relatives. "Anna," he told the trembling woman, who had half guessed why he wanted her, "I hatte great news for you, God has answered cur 'stayers . . ." Before he could „proceed any fatrher, Anna Foffmann had fainted. Together with the priest, She went to the reunion at Dussel- dorf where she fotind that Georg was indeed alive, that at last her search was ended. The priest, took was convinced. When he heard that Georg was alive; that he had married again, that he would be coming to Dusseldorf ; the story seemed almost too lets testis.: to him to be true. But it was 'true, and today Georg and Anna are reunited, their happiness marred only by the fact that Georg had to leave his second wife again a widow, and his adopted daughter again without a father. "Dear Anne Hirst: I should be happy, because I've found a boy I really love. But one day he says he loves me,' and the next day he acts so funny that I am afraid I em losing 'him. I know that I fe,I too hard for him when we first met. "When we are alone we are al- ways fighting, but when we're with another couple, or with my parents, he is a lot of fun. What shall I do? "Do you know any way I can fall out of love? WORRIED" * Stop giving this boy every * date he asks, That will mean * that you, will include your * parents, or another couple, 4` nearly every time you see him. * This is the simplest way to * fall out of love. * When you go out with other * friends you will soon find out e how much fun they can be, * how much more considerate of * you they are and you•will have * to admit that they are superior * in character and thoughtful- * ness. • if you will be honest with • yourself, this boy will -soon • find himself at the bottom of 4' your list instead cr7. tops. * 4, When, clouds of frustration darken your view, remember that happiness may be just Around the corner,. Theres • al- ways tomorrow, and it may be bringing your greatest joy . Write your problem to Anne Hirst, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ontario.