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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1957-05-22, Page 2.`" FIRST owmpoe know he gets bored sitting home night after night, and he won't go out unless I go along, Have you any ideas that would help give us more freedene?" * How times have changed! * When this wife was. growing * up, fete couples would have * permitted their parents to live * anywhere but with them, • Their compelling sense of duty, their pride and their * compassion Made suer an idea * offensive, and they took it in • their stride with no thought of * resentment. * It is 'true that the presence * of any older person, day after 'e day and year after year, de- * stroys the hope of personal * privacy; not only is the * couple's social life restricted * but their habits are revised to * suit the scene, Many aged * people grow querulous, self- * pitying, careless of their per- * sena' daintiness, and otherwise * difficult. To maintain harmony * in the household, understand- * ing and patience must be * practised daily; yet how' re- * warding is such discipline, * especially for the children * growing up! 4, * COLLEGE OR JOB? "Dear Anne Hirst: Some of the fellows in My class at college fell a distinct urge to get ahead faster than we can here. I do, too. We wonder whether you could give us some suggestions as to what fields to enter. We are sick of school and none of us likes to study. "I am not afraid of hard work, and. I'm only staying here be- cause my parents want me to. I want to make money now. My father's .finances are not in very good shape, and there's a younger brother too. "What sort of jobs should I and my buddies try for?" "WE WANT OUT" If I could tell you which * field would insure your finan- * dal success and that of your * friends, I'd never have to * work again. * One thing I am sure of, * however; your parents do not * want you to leave college in * your first year and flounder * about from one job to another, * getting nowhere, They are * making sacrifices to provide the cultural background that * will prepare you to be Some- * body in whatever career you * choose, and they are happy * and proud to contribute ex- - * penses. When you have gained * that background, you will * know what you want, to do, * as will your friends. * You all can best show your * appreciation by applying your- * selves to your studies (no mat- * ter how you hate them) and * graduating with honors that * will reflect on your families as well as on you. I know you * won't let them down, "Honor thy father and thy mother, etc.," is a commandment too often shrugged aside. The later remorse is not easy to live with, as many confess, but then it is too late . . . This problem and others that confront married couples can be handled tactfully when Anne Hirst's comments are followed. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. The telephone rang and kept on ringing, but the new typist made no move to answer it. "Why don't you answer the 'phone?" asked the boss irritably. The girl stopped typing and , considered the matter. "I will if you like," she replied, shrugging her shoulders, "but it seems a bit silly to me, Tt's bound to be for you; none of my friends know I'm here yet." FLATTOP This'new version of the piled-up Gibson Girl hair- do was unveiled by Parisian Designer , Guilliavene. It was one of a number of old-fash- ioned hair • styles shown for summer, 1957. Some might say that the critic who mentioned eyes had no need to refer to ears at all. Mr. Benny's own eyes, this reporter has no need to "stale, are exceptional. They have a way of mirroring innocence, surprise, and hurt, when it seems alto- gether certain that the gifted man peering through them is just about the shrewdest calcu- lator of ,audience reaction in the United States. Folks had to keep fheir eyes on him, though; not just to get the most fun possible out of the way he looked at• them, but to keep track of his fiddle, his bow, and the fiddler, Once, after"' he had disposed of two concert masters for example, he sud- denly took over the first chair. When he came Out for his first number 'with the orchestra, an item called • "Gypsy Airs," he didn't have his bow with him at all. The audience may well have -Wondered how Mr. Benny felt about cadentes; not to mention competition with his own virtu- losity. It was when the concert- Master David Frisbee gave out with a real difficult on that Mr, Benny stopped things, held a Whispered conference with IVIr, Wallenstein, arid got Mr. Frisna banished ,from the stage. The same thing happened- later to Ileirnann Weinstine, who was filling in for Mr. Frisina and only tried to be helpful. In the first movement of Men- delssohn's E Minor Concerto, Mr. Benny got through the cadenza beautifuly by leaving it out, But when he, generously embarked on the unprogrammed-"Capriccio Eepaenol," he dealt with Rim- sky-Koreakoff resolutely and shoved hie way through the cadenza. so hard, pausing to ask Mr, Wallenstein to -slow the or- chestra down a little, thee it was plain he ',mild play a cadenza. Or leave it, just as he chose.—by ICimniie Reedrick, in The Chris. lion Sciefice Monitor, "What a euriouselobleitig eet," remarked a visitor to the lionse. "I don't think 'I've over seen one with markings quite like that before." "Well, you see," olcplaiiied his hostess, "my husband's an artist; and hd rieN7er will look where he Wipes hiS brush." acriny'4. ,F1001.o.. . • • hundreds of people paid $100 a seat here the other evening to hear the worst violin playing in, the memory of Los Angeles Con- cert goers.. They had a magnifi- cent time, The virtuoso, of Course, was Sack Benny. With soprano Dere', thy Kirsten he appeared as soloist M a benefit performance of the Los Angeles Philharmonic Orchestra, Guest eencleetee Al- fred Wallenstein was on the podium, Music critic Albert Goldberg, writing in the Les Angeles Times the next Morn, lag, said that Mr. Benny had "a small but offensive tene," and "apparently uses goose grease instead of rosin on his bow," Musically, the effect was fas- cinating, and Mr., Goldberg's appraisal should not be taken as meaning that he did not enjoy it thoroughly. He did, So did the other critics, who usually have to put upewith the flaws in the work of artists who make no comic pretensions. Critic Patterson Greene said in the Los Angeles Examiner, for instance, that Mr, Benny's performance was "one of the funniest ribbings of solo fid- dling ever to reach the public's eyes and ears." And C, Sharpless. Hickman, The Christian Science Monitor's Los Angeles music critic, reminded the present cor- respondent in an exclusive in- terview that "you have to be able to play quite well to do that badly." Mr. Greene's reference to "the public's eyes" was not imperti- nent. This was one violin recital where there was more to be seen than heard. The eyes had be keep busy, too, watching the business on the stage. Otherwise, one got almost nothing out of the music, Modern Etiquette by Roberta. Lee Q. Isn't it all right to Send a typewritten letter of condolence, signing it of 0111'0 by hand? A, While it is acceptable now to type most social letters, it still is considered more proper to write the letter of condolence by hand — this seeming to inn dicate more personal and more sincere warmth, Q, When a hoarse guest wishes of to appr e ciation, glve hostesshlS whets iii a little gift it ppir'Acess'eenfnitta ?saoyo nb r nf tge thai si oanit and , at some time during his visit, or send it to her soon after his return home. This, of course, does not relieve him of his ob- . ligation to write that all-impor- tant "bread and butter' letter to ehis hostess promptly after his return home. Q. What is the proper way to eat. Italian spaghetti?' A, It is probably better to avoid embarrassment or mishap by breaking it with the fork, un- less you are very dexterous and thoroughly experienced in the Italian manner of eating it. Q. Isn't it all right, when in- troducing a man to a woman, Merely to say, "Miss Collins, Mr. Philips?" A. Yes, with a slight pause between the names. Q. When the guests begin lighting cigarettes after a meal in someone's home, and you find there is no ashtray near you, is it "all right to use one of the used dishes in front of you? A. Never. Don't light your ci- garette until you have asked yodr hostess if you may have an ashtray. Q. At a church wedding, on which side of the main aisle should, pews be reserved for the bride's family and for the bride- groom's family? A. The left side (facing the altar) for• the bride!s family, the right side for the bridegroom's family.. Q. Is there any rule of eti- quette governing the length of marriage engagements? A, No; but long engagements are not so common as they were years. ago. The usually accepted length oe an engagement today. is about ..six months. Shapely Si math N41V PAINTED PAT1TRN 11' 4670 "` SIZES 12-20 Our new PRINTED PATTERN takes a shapely sheath and makes it even prettier by clever use of trim! 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Using a knobbed shoe, Mrs. Farris dials a telephone placed on the floor, -,T semi krop:gee,46, tigged Melting pot 160. fOr, ftin."'13;uttlie labght ended if WaS the wrong ?de Fitt ,,lit§ii,'ttii6d1 M51:-.6.ntr6if", and kip this mustcalt when he found band: Mirth* trumpet for this A‘ Iti faun. W6(2.4 going to like it 'here very well. The new house seemed strange at first but now that we have some of our old furniture in it, it seems to feel mbre'like home —especially as from My den I can look outside and there is Rusty! Yes,' we brought him along last Saturday, more or less as an experiment. If he settles down we shall keep 'him. If he doesn't there it• a good home waiting for him elsewhere. None of the family wants us to part with him so .I guess ,the rest is up to Rusty. So far he has be- " hayed very well in spite of the fact that a 'Germen Shepherd" lives on the'next lot. Of course he will have to• be tied up more than he has been used to but when he is taken out for a walk Partner will get exercise too and that will he good for both of them. Last Saturday we •were all down at the farm, each one gath- ering up whatever • he or she Wanted from the things that were left. Dave wanted to go to the barn, When he, got there he wondered where all the chickies had gone. Eddie had a great • time crawling around the floors through the almOst empty rooms. A couple of visitors blew in and we managed to find enough old cups to have a cup of tea. Dee had brought along cookies and tarts. The day, before when. Part- ner and I were there alone the surveyors Were very busy and were, working nearer to the • house than they had done on any previouS occasion. ,+ The tables, seethed to, be turned—we began to feel that'We were the intrud- ers, not the surveyors: :However; we have not yet given up posses-e lion of the, farm so we, have ' every right to come arid go as we please fOr a few days yet. I hate to think what the place will look like in a few weeks time after the grass and weeds have taken over. Maybe it will look so awful We shall be glad to keep aeeay from it. On the other hand it might be rented until the toad machinery moves in. We don't know and apparently no one else does either. In some respects the Department of Highways stays very close to Biblical pre- cepts—its,left hand never knows • what its right hand, • 'Very erudite and sa tOnceited - about it that he does crossword puzzles with a fountain i3eri,! .ISSUE: iii 1957 V 1 A:0 , . 4,4 "This Is DeCtOr'S rieWt-sereen for his special eye teats," , „.,.. 4174(bY all this • to-do among Married children As to where heir aged parer* should live?" .Q11.te wife, whose privacy has. been sacrifced since her .hus-• band's mother ,came to live with, them, is eheeked by what she calls the modern attitude of so many young ceuple$ who close their doors against intruding: Older folk, 'The errangenient is not entirely satisfactory," she confesses, "but if you haven't the Money to pay for a lonely moth- er to live somewhere else, what can you do but take her iti and Make her declining years as • pleasant as you can? mothet-in-law 'doesn't. • like to be alone at night so my husband and I have few chances to go out together. She. has a few contemporary friends left; and I take them for drives, bring- them here to dinner, and othee0 wise keep them in touch with. each ether. I don't mind doing this; .They are nice old people, and as the years .creep upon me, I find mYsell more in 'sympathy • with their ideas and hebits. "My own training makes this easier for me than for some others, I .expect. For years. my grandmother lived with us, and her domineering tendencies irk, ed us youngsters no- end; but we were beought up, to accept it without complaining, and it. certainly did us no ham • "There is. just one problem: my huebandehae many friends, and -levee to be with them. I. Color Beauty! Queen of cbloe—the peacock displays all its vivid beauty in this embroidery design! Many different poses, each a lovely de- coration for towels, scarfs, cloths, Pattern 622: Transfer of 8 pea- cocks 5xfilh to 6x1114 inches. Embroidery you'll be proud to show! 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She's been muted "Hunter College Queen," We are hereeein our new home On the whole we think we are —at least we think we are. As to that. I am not quite sure be- cause for the last few days we have been living in two places at once and moving by degrees. We sold some of our oversize furniture and traded in the elec- tric stove and refrigerator so that eliminated moving a lot of heavy 'stuff. What was left Johnny was able to bring over in his, truck, making two trips. "What was_left"—that sounds as if there wasn't very much, doesn't it? Ye gods—you should see our baiementi H'alf the Con- 'tents of the old' farm home seem to be there.' • Somehow, some- time, we shall, get things- straightened away but at the moment what we want is never where we expect it to-be. Sounds like bad organization, doesn't, it? Well,,it is and it isn't. We start- ed out labeling everything that was packed and thought there would be no confusion at all. And then it rained, A'very heavy rain that temporarily ptit an end to work on, the land, •,Johnny, naturally, -wanted to move , our stuff during the wet spell. So over he came and to make a long story shortee'ierything in sight was loaded Into the truck—sorted and unsorted, And the end is not yet in sight—at least not for me. OVer at the feemethere are still most of my bodks, pa- pers and -historical reference ma- terial. It was useless :to, bring the stuff over, until We bad some place ready to receive it. Other things too — dishes; orheirierite, pictures and house ,linen—ariy-- thing that could be broUght over,.. in a car, So we .have been, driving back and forth—the first part of last week sleeping at the farm, the latter part at "Halfway House." By the end of the week we were too tired to organize anything properly and forgot to bring the very things we needed most. One day thete was no bread and - at 'breakfast coffee but nothing to make it in. Instant coffee would have been 'all right but that had been left at the farm. However, Friday afternoon I went shopping . , and what a , treat that was! Down in the vil- lage there is a very nice general store—'all the Usual staples, plus frozen foods and excellent fresh meat, AND NO PARKING PROBLEMS! I was back" home in fifteen Minutes and all my Shopping: done. 'Prices Were Om- parable with. Most of the 00- ceterias• -end there Wee no line up at the cash register. And What is it like -around here? Believe it or not it is quieter than it was on, the farm. Except for the birds. Such lots of birds, Mainly, i euPpose, bee cause thete are plenty Of treee. It is wonderful to step outside, eed thetri hOpping around on the lawn or singing, froth the tree-4 tops. it May ehe becattse there is no fast teaffiO On our road, The only people Who use the road are residents, their visitors and delivery then. And Yet" if one hold hanker for traffid five minutes' Walk takes you to the busy Dundee highway--we can See the tare Otto-Ugh gaps be., vech the trees.