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"Dear Anne Hirst : For
number of years 'my hueband
has been a steady drinkee; it
has caused me a great deal of
trouble,, and even despair. When
i've asked him about quitting
or joining. Alcoholics Anony-
mous, he laughs as if it were a
big joke The longest time he
ever quit was about a month,
and then he would be miserable
and make me miserable, too,
For years he would have an
affair every so often and stay
away from home,
"He does work, and eon-
eider him intelligent, but he
doesn't seem to WANT to do
right, What can I do that. I
haven't done? If he doesn't
straighten up; I believe I will
have to leave for good. Any
help you could give me would
be greatly appreciated.
MRS. T. M."
WHAT CHANCE?
* The trained minds of brit-
* liant specialists have con-
* sidered this grave condition
* for years; their opinion seems
to be that, unless the victim
* wants to stop drinking, there
* is little hope that he will. In
* any applied treatment he
* must BELIEVE that he can
* be cured, and collaborate
* with his, physician or advisor
* with all his physical and
* spiritual strength.
* Your, husband's efforts have
* not lasted more than a month
* at a time, I give a layman's
* opinion based 94 observation ;
* If he had, persisted a little
* longer (exercising his will
* power and, faith from day to
'l day) he might have joined the
* throngs who have endured, the
• suffering that eornetimes ac-
* companies total abstinence,
* and come through without.
* even the desire to take a
* drink, Can lie find the moral
* stamina to try once more?
• You could bear being as mis-
* erable as he, if you, felt that
* final victory might be his,
• Before you think of leav-
* ing, ask him if he will make
* this effort for your sake;
* without your underetanding
* and spiritual support, it seems
* doubtful he will overcome
* the habit. Surely if you are
willing to atand by, he should
* accept the challenge, Why not
'' talk it over with your family
* phyisician and see what hope
* he holds?
* It boils down, to the ques-
* tion of how you can make
* your husband want to live
* without alcohol. When he
* learns that you will not stay
* with him through repeated
* periods of alcoholic inconti-
* nonce, •he should recognize
* the gravity of his situation,
* take his final chance to be
* the man he can be, and save
* his marriage, too.
*
A WORTHLESS MALE
"Dear Anne Hirst : After five
years of living with. a drunken
husband, who else gambled,' got
in trouble with the law, and
was cruel to my little son and
me, I have left.
"But I still am not convinced
I did the right thing, We are
taught there is good in us all.
Am I deserting a weakling when
he needs me? Will it drive him
faster down the wrong road? I
am so confused I appeal to you,
whose work I honor, to set me
straight,
MARY"
* I urge ypu to stop senti-
* mentalizing, and face the
* facts of your marriage as
* your letter revealed' them.
* Your husband is irrespons-
* ible, dishonest, brutal. He'
* made it necessary for you to
* move from one little place 'to
* another, while he continued
* his drinking and ,various of-
* fences that humiliated you so
* much. He has had all the
* chances he deserved. Living
* with such a creature can
* bring only misery to a per-
* son like you, and later, to
* your little son,
* Go through with the ciiv-
orce. You have succeeded in '
* making an honest'living for
* yourself and your child; you
* have found some measure of
* peace. Keep it that way.
4, *
Anne Hint does not pretand
to be a psychiatrist. Her down-
to-earth gviclance and knowl-
edge are based on years of ob-
servation, 'experience and' ap-
plied reading. Everyone who
writes her will understand her
wise counsel and common sense,
and she is alWays' Write
her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth
St., New Toronto, Otit,
MERRY MENAGERIE
"Now, don't get impatient '---
we've got a search party out fore 'a
the honey ," 5
ball of flying cord to. bridle at a
point about one-third of the way
down from the top.
Now, you're ready.
So, we are not trying to be
offensive when we 'fay at this
time of year : "Go fly. a kite 1"
Out Of Afriea
A forthcoming book by the
Rev. 'Walter B. Williams and ,
his wife,. ‘AdventorescWith the
tiros in West Africa,',',, tells of,
their experience as.,,MethOdist
missionaries in Angola and Li-
beria between 1903'aild 1933. It
includes a collectioff-of African
sayings, some, of which appear
below.
Anger le a warmth which
lights itself:-
* *
You are like a small, pot
between two fires. (You are•
squeezed between two onee
mies,)
I bore this child, but not his
heart ,or soul, (Said of a bad
child.)
• *
We like to wash our clothes
in the front yard. (Spreading
our friend's troubles,)
*' * *
When the scissors are open
and you get between them,
they wile cut you bad. (To be
caught between foes,)
The tail must follow the
head. (The rank and file must
follow the leader.)
*
If the head falls into the fire,
the beard will not burn also?
(People who complain about
their ruler suffer with him,)
*
No man .:clever enough to
lick his own back, (There ere,
some things -we cannot do, ri(i.
matter ho* smart we may be:),
* *
The eye crosses a full riven.
(The desire to go beyond the
possi bie. )
• * * *
The cow, licks the one that
licks her, kindritee brings its
own rewardJ.
*
Ha weeps with One eye, (the,
aindere.) • *
When push comes on top' of
itiOVe i hOW's Man going to do'?
*
" 610 , softly netteliet the
nionkeY, (Patience.)
ern
tiquette...
By: Robert' Lee
Q. !JuSt. what:is proper when
meeting on:Ilte, street, for the
man or the woman to speak
first?
A. Formerly, it was always
'the lady" who spoke first. But,
today,. if they •are good friends,
there is nothing at all wrong,
with the man speaking first.
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Q. Is it obligatory, to, reply' to
letters of condolence? -
A. -Yes; send .a , brief note of
thanks to everyone who has
sent flowers or personal let-
ters.
*
Q. Does' it matter in which
direction serving 'dishes are
passed around the dinner table?
A. It is most practical to pass
these dishes towards the right,
or counter-clockwise. * *
Q. Is it proper to state on the
invitation the length' 'of time
the guests are expected to stay
at a wedding reception?
A. The hours are' never stipu-
lated on reception invitations.
Guests are expected to leave 'as
soon as possible following the
departure of the' bride and
bridegroom. * * *
Q. When attending a large
dinner is it necessary ..te wait
until all' the other guests have
been served before' one begins
lb eat?
A. No; one should not, be re-
quired' to wait until one's food
has cooled, if there are a great
number of• guests to be served.
* * •
Q. Is it proper to address the
envelope of a letter to a man
without using the titles "Mr.,
Miss, or Mrs.?"
A. Never,
* 4,
Q. One of my neighbors• per-
sists in stopping in at my house
frequently while I'm in the
midst of my housework. Would;
it be rude of me to continue
working while talking with
her?
A. Not at all. This might even
*serve as the "gentle hint" your
neighbor evidently needs,
Q. What amount should be
given as a fee to a clergyman
for a house christening?
A. This, like the fee for wed-
ding, is determined by the
means of the _parents.
Q. IS it proper for a married
woman to send a gift in her
If
name only to a' bride, especially
the bride is not known by her,
husband?
A. Never; her husband's
name should always be indite:l-
ed.
* * *
Q. How soon after receiving
an invitation to a large dinner -
Party should one send one's ac-
ceptance or regret?
A. Iintriediately, Nothing is
more inconsiderate or ill-bred
than to keep" a hostess -'eraiting •
for a reply, since she lutist tiave
the' time to invite anieetittite
guests.
On The Job
Bunning up to a pOliteinan,
Middle-aged pan allotted, "Of-,
facer Offiteie sciniebody just
"stole my ear—hitt I got the lie.
tense, rittinberi"
ISSiii 11' 101
It is such a bright, sunny
morning it just makes you feel
glad to be alive. And yet it is
cold — ten above by our two
thermometers -- so we still, feel
as if we are definitely in the
grip of winter, But it doeen't
seem to matter — it can't last
too much longer, The birds
know it and so do the trees and
shrubs. The 'willow branches
are getting a yellowish colour
and the dogwoods a little red-
der every day. Crows are fly-
ing, not just one now and then,
but by twos and threes they
are leaving the woods exploring
the fields and coming closer to
the buildings. Watching nature's
reawakening just before the
spring is beautiful and inspir-
ing. It is so big, so very big, that
all our man-made plans seem
small and insignificant by com-
parison. Each generation has
its span and is gone but the
natural forces of nature go on,
century after century, changing
only as the seasons change.
Even now, as our thoughts
turn to spring, 'we look around
and see more snow than we
have had al) winter. Actually,
there hasn't been a day this
winter when our lane has really
been blocked. So different from
conditions existing in other
parts of the Continent. And we
don't have to go many miles
from home either to notice the
difference. Last Thursday a
friend and • I went to Guelph to
visit a convalescing patient. The
weather was just grand when
we left here but ten miles from
home it was another, story —
snowflurries swirling across the
fields and along the highway.
We wondered what we were
heading into but we went on
our way. And then, coming back,
we found, good weather again as
soon as we crossed the invisible
boundary.
I was• also, in -Toronto last
week -7 oh the only otheregood
day thdt we had. My time was
taken ,up with business 'mat-
ters until two-thirty and then
I was free to visit with Daugh-
ter and David. Dave, I am glad
to say, was full of -life and
mischief, very different from
the little boy we kneW a couple
of months ago. Children are up
and down so quickly. We get
so worried about them and then
first thing you know they are
back to normal. Too' 'bad older
people haven't the same bounce!
I. wish that particulaely just
now because so many of our
friends have been seriously ill
this winter, Maybe when the
buds are swelling, birds singe
ing and spring flowers peeking
up through the soil, everyone
will feel better. I sincerely
hope so anyway.
I expect all farm folk who
take a genuine interest in
farming as a way ofJi ving —
and in conservation and re-
forestation will learn with
regret 9t the. death of Tonle
Bromfield in Ohio at the. ,agal
of fifty-nine. He had been such
an active man all his life, end
had contributed e,o much to age
001.fier§. iii both .a practical and
lirrkeWaY), that one, imagined
considerably older
titk r.he was. Not everyohte.
agreed; ,,with his viewpoints. but
=there is, little doubt that any-
otie who ,ceuld 'arouse interest
to the point of controversy per,
tainly contributed. a great deal
to agriculture,
Well, there doesn't seem. to
be any let-up in the rabies,
scare, It seems a downright
shame so many • dogs and cats
are being needlessly destroyed.
It just proves that the owners
had little real affection for their
pets. Either that or they didn't
want the bother of looking af-
ter them or the expense of bay-
ing them treated. In homes
where there is probably only
one dog, or possibly a cat, and
immunity from the disease so
easy to procure, it seems like
wanton destruction of animal
life, However if that is the at-
titude of the owners .perhaps
the trusting little creatures are
better off dead than alive.
wish the problem could be as.
easily deelt• with on a farm or
thet an overall charge would
cover all the cats and dogs. At-
ter all, in districts where a free.
clinic has not been established,
inoculation should at least be
cheaper by the dozen! Then of
course there is the problem of
catching the cats, With home-
grown pets that's easy. but when
two stray cats come along and
take up residence, as they have
done here, it is like trying to
catch a bird by putting salt on
its tail, However, according to
De. McKinnon Phillips, there is
no need to.get kilo ra panic over
the situationeUp to the present
time there have been only fif-
ty-two known cases of rabid.
animate in the entire province..
He advises that the necessary
precautions be taken but say.;
the wholesale destruction of
household pets is entirely un-
warranted. I am beginning to
wonder whether our cats and
dogs knOW -that - something un- ,
usual is in the' wind. I never
knew them 'to be so full of life
and energy. Rusty and Robbie
'are - chasing around after each-
other all the morning • but the
cats. devote their energy to eat-
ing and sleeping, both of which
they are doing to excess. Speak-
ing " of eating — I must 'fly'
Otherwise Partner will come in
to find a bare table instead of
-dinner waiting for him, A man
will put up with many things
but dinner-time is dinner-time.
-And that's that.
SHALLOW REMARK
5 • ••,-, ••••••••
One afternoon Lefty Gomez
turned around and saw Joe Di-
Maggio playing an- excessively
shallow centerfield. With Rudy
York* coming up, Gomez blanch-
ed and waved. DiMag back. Af-
ter the game, he asked Joe why
he had moved in so close.
"I'm supposed to make people
forget Tris Speaker," DiMag said
with a grin.
"If you play in for guys like
York, you'll make them forget
Gomez,'!: retorted Lefty.
5;
ANNE HIRST
*tut. fanaly aumAtiot
It's " Spring 1 The ,winds ere 4P" • ABSENT-ROWED PROFESSOR
blowing--and, kites are fly ing
again.
And small boyse-and girls,
are pleading with theieeparents,
for some help in .making a kite. -
So let's clear the workshop
table and give ,the yotingeters'a
bend. Fetter yet, take the chil-
dren to ,a breezy hilltop—and
"go fly a kite,"
Of course, you can buy kites
ready-made; but children are
naturally "do it 'youeselfere."
They get a special thrill out of
the simple _craftworkee"Beaidese
they can, heve fun decorating
their kites in personalieeCetylee,
pattern; or motifs,
We don't claim our idea, is a
new one. Actually, kite-making
is centuriee old, The Chinese
have long been rya/Id-fen:icing
kite makers.
But mostly, kites are just for
fun—as hordes of small boys,
know,
To make a kite, you will
need : sticks of Spruce, white
pine, or bamboo; tissue paper,
heavy wrapping paper, or cloth
for covering; rags for tails and
kite string, Your• tools will in-
clude a knife, coping saw, ruler,
yardstick, pencils, paste or glue,
and crayons or watercolors for
decorating. -
Use a vertical rib, 41 inches
long, and a cross stick the same
length. Notch the stick ends and
outline the frame with a string.
Cut the paper frame, decorate
it, and then paste it over the
string frame, When, cutting the
frame pattern, allow two inches Nee
extra—one inch for pasting and
one inch so that the paper will
not be too taut.
Turn the cross stick at right , lee O.
angles to the upright. Insert
string corners in notches at ends
of cross stick. Tie a string taut
between ends of cross stick on. ,
the back side of the kite so that
it bows about six to eight
inches.
On the front side, make a
bridle string by tying a 36-inch
string through paper to upright
stick. Tie one end at a point
eight inches from the top of the
vertical rib and the other eight
inches from the bottom, Tie the
The' teacher's not even in schoot, but' these physics students
carry an 'under his instruction at Manchester College. A student
supervisor, Virgil Huber, right, keeps order and illustrates the
lectures of Dr. Charles S. Morris as they...
. over: the twonway intercom installed by his students
between his bedroom and the classroom. Prof. Morris is con-
fined to his bed by a heart attack..But he delivers his lectures
over the intercom and condects class discussions just as if he
were,; in ,the physsics room.
Sift 3 times, c,once.sifted poetry flour (or 2 q. onee-
sifted all-purpose flour), 1,/3 tsp. Magic faking Powder, Ye •
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Go Fly a Kite!
Cockroach cannot crow he
the fowl's country, (A poor than
, cannot dictate to a rich', nor a
stranger to. the native of a 3" Ode .)
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beat hi 3 evell‘beaten egg yelks, and ,34 tsp. v4anilla:'Add dry ... : ..Water is never tired Of rune
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not, dry; 3, egg whites and a tbvt, ::aine salt; Ee
radtially beat, in I a., lightlY•licie Ale brown
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Acooled mills itiettire and
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doWited-ongh aitd roll out into,an
Oblong about 9" wide and 24 king; lOOSon dough. Combine 1/2
c. lightly-packed brown algae
c. liquid honey; spread
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greased We" tube pan and join
ends 'of &nigh forM a ring.
Brush top with Melted butter.
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top With honey and sprinkle With
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