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"Dear Anne HirStt •Praelleaf, •
1Y• every letter in your column,
is from wlVes complaining alt,out
husbands, You know sometimes
the shoe is OP the .other toot.
I've been ,Inarried. foe 10 years
(a wartime marriage) and t .
knew almost. . immediately• it,
shouldn't have happened. 1 tried •
to make the best of it, though;
being a good and, I believe, at,
tentive husband,, thinking it
might eventually work out. But
I've about reached the end of
my rope.
"It's been nothing but fault-
:finding, nagging, humiliation •
and constant grumbling, I know
I've never really loved her,. but
now I've reached the stage-
where I can't bear the sight of
her, My family .aild':,Oven her
people have never interfered,
but now they air say the.,4arne
think,: 'How much can :y o u
take?' .-. •• •
"I've left.-.her new, and if she .•
doesn't ,divorce.roe, I intend to.
do it. I could never stand liv-
ing with • her • .agaipl certainly
therq.. must- .be- some, happinesS
left .for. me.,in this, world,
"1.. hOpe • you., print this, Anne
Hirst, . and. .perhaps it will show -
some Wives that they, too, may
be in the wrong before their
husbands get to the stage I am
in TOM.
GUILTY. WINTS
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many times I suggest that a
* Complaining Wife examine
herself 'as though stie were
* somebody else and ask,
I be at fault?" There are
women who, swept away by
emotion or ,deliberately luring
a man, into. Matritn9115N 4111"
proaell the future with the
idea, "Well, I'll change all
that," and proceed to, nag
their man into State ,ef
lapse, usually over nonessen,
* tials, from the clothes he wears
* to the way he holds a fork.
* Haying, attained the dignity
* of marriage, a wife like this
k reveals her mean nature and
* demands a state of perfection
existing in no living male.
* She finds fault with all he
* says and does, she grumbles
* because he doesn't make more
money or -doesn't cater to her
whims as .he used to; any ex-
* cause is stifficient to prove her
* superiority and her dissatis-
faction with the mate she
chose.
.Most wives (and you and I
know so many) have only one
aim in marriage — to make'
* their man •happier at home
than anywhere else. He is the
* center of their thoughts and
plans; they study ,his habits
and indulge his moods; the
household. routine is . governed
by his wishes. Their patience
With his peculiarities is infin-
ite, and their reward is his on-
swerving loyalty and a grati-
tude for all her loving kind-
ness that lasts as long as he'
lives.
You shcr.ved more patience
than many a man would; for
* 10 years you did your best.
* this, plus the fact that even
* your wife's family are sorry
* for you, is proof enough that
* escape is the only, answer. A
* man can stand so much; when
* the point is reached. living
• with the woman is actually
* living in a hell of her de-
* signing. A LAD IMPOSES
"Dear Anne Hirst:. Two of Us
girls live together, and We have
a nice group of friends. A young
man. I've known for a long time
has the habit of inviting himself
to dinner at the last momeht,
taking his welcome for granted,
I don't like the habit.
"He is really a bore. He never
helps wiith the dishes, just sits
and listens to the radio He
hasn't taken me out for a tong
while. But he is the son of a
friend of my family, and. I don't
dare be rude. Have you any
ideas? SUSAN"
• * This boy, like yourself,
living away from his people
* and he turns to the one link
* he knows for companionship.
* Many a lad is as thoughtless,
* not realizing he makes a
* nuisance of himself and ac-
* cepting hospitality without re-
* turning it.
* There is a limit, however,
* to such imposition.
* Next time he appears sud-
* denly, tell him that you and
* your girl friend have a double
* date tonight, or you're tired
* and going to bed early; or
* you're havi ig dinner out and
* going on to a movie, and would
* he like to rime along?
* When you write home
* again, tell your mother huw
* things stand. If he is as super- .
sensitive as some boys and
* gives his family the idea you
* are not being nice to him,
* your people will know the
* true circumstances.
Marriage failure is never the
fault of one alone. If you are
unhappy, question yourself as to
the cause, for the cure may lie.
in your own hands. Anne Hirst
will help you know yourself, 'if
yet. .write her at Box 1, 123
Eighteenth St., New Toronto
Playing The ,Crgan'
The organ was my first or-.,
chestra. If you have never play-
ed the organ, you have never
known the joy of feeling your-
self music's master, sovereign
of all the gamut of sounds and
sonorities. Before those. key-
boards and pedals and the. pa-z•
lette of stops, I felt almost like'
a demigod, holding in my hands
the reins that controlled the
musical, universe.
I played well ,:enough to De
able to take my father's place in
church sometimes and this was
my great joy. Walking along
the river to St. William's, open-
ing the4ittle.,door to the organ
with a big old key, looking over '
the day's.hymns lest I forget the
repeats, ,finding a :prelude in a
good key in order to avoid a
difficult modulation, choosmg
a gay piece for a wedding . .
not falling asleep during the
sermon, sorrietirnes improvising a
„ little in . the - pastor's favorite
style,' not playing a long reces-
sional because it would annoy
the sexton—all this filled ma-
with pride. — From "I Am a
Conductor," by Charles Munch:
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,SIMP,LE 'REMEDY, ,
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Getting Married
At Long Distance
Altheugh.,2 ,his dark-haired,
sliti?4rideitb 7be ,1„va t:„Stina rules
sway,_ ill L:Oputh,
'WealthY yeung, LOncen.husinesi-
man recently ' went to a Lon-
don social club as a bachelor
and returned . several hours
later — a married man.
Soft lights shone in a private
room at theclub,.asmall orches-
tra -played. wedding music. The
bridegroom's parents toasted the
bride and„: bridegroom in cham-
pagne. The smiling groom was
showered With 'coegratulations
from relatives and friends as
they raised their 'wine glasses
to a ,portreit.of the bride which
hung on the wall.
While all' this was 'happening
In London. ,the bride was sign•
ing docuMents.in South America
which rnacl. the 'couple man and
wife by prOxy.
And while the bridegroom
slept in his • laachelor flat that
night with 'her portrait by his
bedside, his bride was beginning
her long journey by air -to Hol-
land. More than thirty hours
after their wedding, the couple
met in' Amsterdam for the first
time as newlyweds and spent a
joyful — and official' — honey-
moon.
That couple well knew that
love laughs at distance. Scores of
other couples who have, through
forCe of circumstances, married
by proxy can testify that' the
temporary separation only made
their hearts fonder:
An excited and happy twenty-
year-old 'girl living in South-
East London received a cable
one spring day a few years ago
infOrming her that she had just
been married in Sernerarig, Java,
about 9,000' miles away.
It was sent by her Dutch
bridegroom immediately after
he had gone through the. wed-
cling ceremony — with a mar-
ried woman at his side!
Olive and Johannes had fallen
in love when they Diet in UM-
don two years previously; but
his business had tied him to
Java since then.
Their courtship flourished by
post.
At is was impossible for him
to get back to London for the
wedding, the pair agreed that it.
would ;more convenient' for
Olive if she travelled out to
Java as a married woman
Their , marriage-by proxy was
carried out under Dutch law
following the signing, by the
bride of documents whieli were
sent to the Consulate in tendert.
She had also received the wed-
rih,e by post; and the tieWS
that a lovely bungalOW hatpe
W;'s ready for, her in Java,
Wheb, a month after the
pre* °wedding, she reached
Samarare. she end her husband
welt through the' Marriage.
cercinon ,> at the,-EligliSh Church
these, .Then they had their
h moon.
During. the twit; World wars
Were were a number of install
ces of nroky inerriages for then
at the 'front„ The tteritierr Gov-
ernment in •10'0 pease a law
enahtit,n solders on active Serv-
ice Iii wed their sweethearts at
h„ ,O "fi.v.t.,-'`Aee) A formal de-
cht'efLire to Unit cantuandine
MTh.
At home' the, bride registered
the marriage Offieially within
two months of the declaration
t— even if her bridegroom bad
been killed In the meantime.
A ,nrettY" girl Serving, in the
A.T.S, was married by trans-
atlantic telephone ever a 5,000
mile hook-up to arm ex-service-
man in Pocatello, Idaho, in 1946.
The bridegroom, who was
, twe-ty-three, sat during the
ceremony ;tvitli his" family in
"their„ honie,:at Pocatello. The
bride, who was ,nineteen, and
her linii1S-'e were 'the guests of
' •the -landlord 6f; a' village
. a 4witness fat the inn:
"Wm waited .an ,heur and then
:cente,.thro4h from the
"States. The bride" to the
'phoiler•drid 4'aictil 'Is that ,,yett,
George?' Reception" was clear..
"Thn the heard the
voice,,of, the magistrate conduct-
ing ,idle brief ceremony in the
United 'States, The bride ans-
'We're& her and then, in an
-atmosphere of krOr excitement,
wet. heard,-,kier -make the re-
sponse,, ,I ,. „
"The Parents: of , bride and
bridegroom' ' exchanged greet-
ings' e? over th line before the
nine-minute -call "ended, Then
drank to the future hap-
piness of bride and.nridegroom,"
Lawyers ,stated that' this •un-
usual wedding rwas'quite valid
in 'both' countries; although'
there has never been a test ease
in the British courts on the
point.
It's all over now. The Christ-
mas tree stripped of its trim-
mings; the gay glass ornaments
carefully wrapped and put
away; strings of coloured lights,
bereft of illumination, packed
in their proper boxes. And the
needle-dropping tree thrown
.on „the woodpile or, in some
gases, out with- the garbage.
Poor little tree . . such a short
while ago we joyously ,brought
you into the house; decked your
greew branches with glittering
baubles and then ' further en-
hanced the glitter by tiny elec-
tric lights. You were very love-
ly, little. tree, and served a good
purpose so I. hope you are, not
feeling too badly because your
period of brightness was so
brief. Yours was a short life but
a ,gay one, In every home you
were the_ symbol of goodwill ,
and laughter. But now, with the
New Year we must discard you
as we pick up again the' threads
of ordinary, everyday life, car-
rying with us' happy memories
of 'family gatherings, stacks of
greeting cards and perennial
letters.
At Ginger Farm our letters
and cards included greetings „
from readers of this column. I
love to get your mes”sages.of.
cheer ,and encouragement: Writ-
ing this column would be, a,
lonesome sort of job we're it not
for you, my readers. So keep
your letters coming. friends. I
love them, everyone. But during
a special season like this, I Hope
you will forgive me if I reply
through.'this column. Answering
a lot of letters 'at one time
seems to be more than ,I can
manage.
`Glencoe Reader" advises• me
"ti feed, our cats a little flaxseed.
Thank you for the tip "Glencoe"
— it 'sounds like a good one. ,
"Nenora" — you will know
by new alr little gi,•and§94 4
greatly improved, There were
no eat-naps for him .over Christ-
mas. Sleep in the daytime? Not,
he — he might miss something!
Thank you for all your kind
inquiries and, good wishes, We,
hope you will he feeling much
better dttring the 'Venting year,
"Writer" — that was a grand
tetter. I havo a, feeling you 'have
what it takes' and I am sure you
always make A success of what-
ever you set out to -do — writ-
ing or anything else, I don't
'think YOU need much advice
from me, Once you are properly
settled you should do well. 1,
too, subscribe& to Donald
.FrcaeNa *found it,
very helpful:
"Mrs. F ," So you are going
to drive the family ear, That
seems like an excellent idea,
'especially if yet; make that visit
you mention, Start driving now
before you get any older :and
you will learn that much, easier.
"Irish" your letter was
most interesting. Your music,
the old family home, and your
cats and dogs, seem to provide
you with a full and satisfying
am sure you never knew
what it is to 'the bored.. Why
shoUld you? LiVing 'as' we' all
do, in the most. interesting, and
progressive period history has
ever known, I cannot', see ,why
anyone, at any time, should suf-
fer from boredom. I am sure
that ;your`Italents, your active
mind and hands, help you to
forget to some extent the pain
you suffer with thoSe aching
joints.
— your letter and
gre.etiegs .were .very welcome.
It was nice `to hear from you
again, Later on I mill reply
more fully. At the moment I
am particularlycbtisy. Davichex-
,peets =to to, hospital again
soon. This time for the removal
Of tonsils' acrd adenoids.
The foregoing will, 1 hope,
take care of replies to letter's
for the time being. But -in ,• ad-
dition 'oto , the 'letters I would
also ',like' .to -, thank .those who
renenihered us with greeting
cards. It was so nice to get
them and to know we have so
many unseen friends. tilt 'I
wonder ,„,what „happened ,to „pin'
'"Mr.friend the 'mysterious 'r.
I was certainly .looking for a
card ,with his classic signature!
Among our family letters was
an "aerogramrne" from Part-
ner's brother in Australia.. He
was not expecting his sons hoine
for Chriatmas as they were both
in NeW Guinea. Last year when
' we heard from him the oldest
boy had just returned after two
Combine 1 tbs. soft butter or margarine, c. thick jam,
.1 tbs. lemon juice, and, if .desired,11/3.p, breken, nutmeats
and divide between 6 greased individual baking dishes.
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dulled shortening., Combine 1 well-beaten
egg, cr milk and a tsp. vanilla. Make
44t,,wP11 4rY fillgediel#4 StPd,R4Aliquida;
mix lightly fliwo-tbirdA' fill'irep,ared dishes
with batter. ,Bake ti;moderittefir hot
"oven, 376°, ilbOat 20'ini''ntiti'S':*Tilin out
and serve hot with 9r cream. Yield "-0 servings:
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MON$A,:ratizatMENAMTL'I
A GOOD s —1121'Mcii-qiiis Grimaldi, left, pretender
o the throne • a. send "the 'usurper,'
nnce Rainier,; 111,. 'his. cojfgratulations whet ,th'e prince marries
Orate Kelly. Grimddi, sliown above in the. tavern he owns
let Ighthain i England,. says his grandfather spent most of the
• fortune .,establishing l the line of ;descent, Which. ,he.Sayt has
beehd)reEOgrrized by England's College -'of Amis.. But the Mar'.
qUit, Who'S known as "George,' Says it Would take too Muth:
iriOneX to press the claim foe the' flitone, Shown With hien! are
lift, Wife, the-Martini-Se, krioWit OS "Kay", arid ari Unidentified
years in the• Antaretle. mesa
Qiarkgs seem to get around,
don't, they? How strange to
spend Christmas in a country.
like Australia with the thermo-,
meter around 100 degrees. If
must ask them how they cele-
brate.
Would you like a good, sug-
gestion for the New Year? That
is if you have a lot of Un-named
and undated •-photographs as we
had. One night I got out the
whole collection, and, then sorted
them and put them into enve-
lopes labelled according to ta-
mihes, with each photograph
named and dated separately.
This idea came to me while
was doing some historical re
search and found families with
stack's of photos whom no one
could identify. Quite suddenly
I realized the same thing could
apply in our family once Part-
ner and I were gone beyond re-
call. And so I got busy, It takes
only a .little while. Try it your-
selves, ,,and, ;if I'm not mistaken,
you will, get quite a lot of fun
and enjoyment doing the job.
"MINK'S'' MINE" "— Film bomb-
shell Sibiana Pampanini • has
given a Rome, Italy, court rea-
sons why she shouldn't return
$50,000. in jewels, minks and
other gifts to her movie pro-
ducer, Morris Ergas. Ergas
wants everything back because
he says Silvana got the gifts,
under false promise of mar-
riage. But she says it ain't so,
laecause:`She never loved Ergas,
and never said she did; she
never asked for them anyway.
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