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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Brussels Post, 1955-07-06, Page 2Far from ne ignoble strife; Their'sober Wishes never learted to stray; Along' the cool, teiltiester'd vale off life They kept the• noiseless tenth' Of their Ivey Th °Mee Grey. "That letter YOU published while ago froze), the wife who re- Xttseti to have her mother-in-law live with her brings sharply be- fore me the nine years I *pen! With my own," writes a regret- ful wife. "I em glad that her husband stood by her; I don't think mine would have . . I had thought I loved his mother, but I came to hate her and hated myself for it," * The nine years that followed * her mother-in-law's coming have been nine years of sub- * jugation for this couple. The older woman took over com- * pletely, She has run their pri- * vate lives, checked their corn. * ings and goings, even planned * the family meals. "All my * husband did was to bring in * the money," his wife com- * plains, "I have been, maid of 4, all work, cleaning and laun- * dering whether I felt like it or * not; my mother-in-law, healthy * and active, has never even * made her own bed. She just * had all the fun of running our " lives — and neither of us had * the spunk to prevent it." * As some people grow older, * they are apt to become self- *. centered; like spoiled children, * they do as they please with no * thought of the consequences * Here are two nice people who, * with every good intent, made the mother welcome. What • happened? For nine long years " she has robbed them of the * privacy without which no mar- * riage can flower. She has * supervised their activities as * though they were tenn-agers, * she has even chosen their * friends. Without a qualm she * has swept them blindly on her * imperious way, and today is * probably preening herself on * how she "helped the children * out." "My husband and 1 finally faced it -- and only a month ago he found a place for her to live with mutual friends. You „..._esunderstand 'how grateful 1 `am for the'', -but, ,cannot help reproaching, neye,eIfi tor, not put- ting my footd'O';wrpm the very first. We havievairegh-fiI be good - 'debrief best This one topped them all . . When it conies to crazy hats, just leave it to grandma. At least that's what Charter 1.15 of the Federated Grandmothers' Club believes. So they held a Crazy Hat contest and here are the winners:'Mrs. R."1-i. Lambert, top, walked off (a bit unsteadi- ly) with all the hanors for her "Picnicking With My Grand- children in the Park." Mrs. Sophie Lubowski, bottom left, came in second with her creation, which features a hen setting on two hard-boiled eggs in a nest of yarn. Flag on top reads: "Hatch- ng, Don't Disturb." And Mrs. Jessie Thompson, bottom right, showed up with 'a' fashion that was super back in 1917-and is still good enough to win the "oldest hat" ,:prize in the contest. Proceeds' from the contest went to youth welfare propects the group sponsors. „t e. cis . .-0*** t°12447A4 C01/401,S ei#0"te Christians, and I learned to con- MI RST ly many of us. would have planned our lives! Nine years ago all of your clouds were * rose-lined, and you had not • the heart to refuse, your • mother-in-law; don't waste this * new freedom you know today * in regrets, for it is unlikely * your husband would have felt * he could refuse his mother a * home. Now YOu are both wiser, * The years which lie ahead * will be all the sweeter for the * memory of those trying ones * you lived through, GRANDMA SPOILS "Dear Anne Hirst: Our little son is six, and devoted to his grandmother. We have been dis- tressed for some time by her spoiling him. He has a delicate digestion, and though, she knows it, when he is at her house she lets him have foods that disegree with him. The: child and we must pay the penalty, I have talked this over time and again with my mother-in-law, yet she still. persists and, of course, our son loves it. "I should not, like to stop his visiting her; they love each other dearly, and, in every other way she is discretion itself. But what else can I do? His father agrees with me, but you know a man won't face an issue. WORRIED MOTHER" * Your mother-in-law brought * up her children, I' ereteet, with 4' the old-fashioned idea that * any food's the youngsters liked * were good for them. Fortu- * nately they survived, so she * can prove her point. But your * little son reqUires a special * diet, and though she admits * it, she is too tender-hearted * to refuse him. * Try once more. Convince * her that;' you know how 'she * loves the heye, but tell her, 'eee'• eee ceal my feelings, but the strain has told on me," "1-.1ow true it is, as you've ten • remarked, that even in her own home a wife cannot compete, with • her man's mother!" — the wife concludes.. To"WEAK WOMAN": If we * could see ahead, how different,. • • • n * in detail, how much and how e long he suffers the consequenc- * es of her indulgence It you * remind her that these attacks * weaken his resistance and can * impair ,his general health, I * believe she will co-operate, e Make out a new list of foods * he should not have, and tell * her your doctor insists= upon * his following it. Say you must * depend upon her to,resist his * entreaties (which, you do at * home) and stress your faith in * her compliance. * 'This should turn the trick. * If it does riot, then you will s * have to forbid his eating any- * thing at all at her house. . * "If 1 had only knc;wn How we regret what we haie not done! The fact that we did:What we thought right at the time' should comfort us; it surely strengthened our character. If you face an'important decision, ask Anne .Hirst's opinion before you. make ,it. .Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth 'St., 'New Tor. onto, Ont, ••• , Last week as;I wrote this col- umn we were still waiting for "the truck to arrive, for transport- ing the doves' that Partner, had sold. -It was, almost nine o'clock at night before the...big tractor- trailer pulled into the' yard.' In about half-an-hour it was on its way again — with all ,our milking cows and three calves at ,foot. • • • We put in-along rerve-raek- ing day waiting for that truck to come! And of purse Partner had to milk the cows ,again. But now it allebelOngs to the past and we have r already ,had the experiencef-'"one week with- Out cows. But we are' not with: ut milk. yet -- I had plenty tacked, away in the ..refrigera- 3 to' see us over for a little Bile. It will' seem odd when e start 'getting our milk in ottles —= or= cans,' or packets' — cording to what . We want. Wednesday morning 'pee took ironic twisi. I was but in ;the. rettiest Ensemble 114 44”4 Prettiest ensemble We've seen! Cool scooped-neck dress) :gath, ered below its graceful yOke — brief cover-up bolero smoothly • fitted to a slender bodied, YOu'll live in, love it for daytimes datetime now and all through st ./liner! Pattern 4816: Misses Sizes 12 141 16, 18, 20, 40 Size 16 dress takes 4i/z, yards 80-inch fabric; Mere 'takes 16/a yards. This. -pattern easy to lite.' Shia, pie to sew, is tested for fit. Has coniktete illustrated d (850) in ceirie (stamps barite& be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly Sitti DRESS, STYLE NUMBER, Send order to lox New Toronto, Otit, kitchen at 0 a,M. — force of habit will continue to get us up early for awhile yet, I ON - peat. looking out the window what should I see but a number of cattle -- all over the garden, of course, In a few minutes Partner, in his pyjamas, was out chasing them away from the house, We phoned our neeeest neighbour but he was not the owner of the strays, which we found, to be five two-year-old Holstein heifers. While Partner was getting dressed the heifers wandered down the lane to the road and the last we saw qg them they were running down the highway ahead of two pre- viously fast-moving care. At noon we were told they were in a neighbour's • wheat-field -- but we baven't heard yet who these cattle belonged to: When I saw those heifers I really thought it Was a. NemeSis on us for selling the cows! News travels fast these days. Qelr cows were still in the stable when a young fellow liv- ing twenty-five • m i I e s away came in to see If, partner wanted ' to sell the milking madhine. lie did: A little later we had two offers for the milk-cooler — so that's going out too, Before'long I shell really believe we are out of the dairy business! At pre- sent it seems *like a wonderful dream from which. I fear a rude awakening. It was really splen- did to see Partner stepping out for the O.A.G. at Guelph last Friday without a worry in the world about what time he would be home. However, the fOrces of nature are conniving to keep him em- ployed. There .was a strong wind. the other day which blew down part of a big chestnut tree in the backyard Completely wreck- ing my triple clotheline.' So now Partner has some Work tb' with buck-saw — plus a Clothes- line to fix. There 'have also been pails and, pails of water to carry to the garden it has been so dry — but jhank gOodn'eSS we had a beautiful rain last''night. 'Also a thunderstorm — 'and I could watch the lightning- and listen to the fall 'of ,the thunder" Without eating 'if' the, power ,did go off — .insofar is we, were concerned., So often storms come up just about fehore time and • in the,past a power-failure' was my one tear• ----'rforoing,:Partner to inilk.bY hand'--a thing which 'his 'crippled; arthritic bends are no-longer capable ,With- out.tremendous. effoli and 'con-, siderable ,pain. - That rain must have, been "a blessing ;to the strawberryTgrow- ers. Withont it there would Prefab- ably have been a `",very,, short season. Next week I expect 'to be away so I get 'thy berries early. Now they are safely stowed away in the jars. = Of . course it being to nearly in the -season I had to pay top price for my fruit, Now.I'm thinking per- haps it pays to buy early. These are such beautiful berries — no waste — so to my surprise I put down ,tbirepen pints from ten hokes -of 'berries. s My goodnesS, I ahriost forgot to mention that important, event that 'took place .last week., The Provincial Electien. HoWever, we didn't forget to, vote — which is more than some' people can say. At the little 'country school where we cast our, votes , there were 164 "on the voters .list..ye went along about fetal, p.m. and at that time only 54 citizens bad been to vote. 'How is' it:,peseible for so many td care so little for the privileges' of a free democ- racyT No cidubt there were more - out before ,the .polls closed but usually the country people get out early in the day. ' Well, this chronicle -is coming from Ginger Farm. The next One 3 if my plans hold good — may' be'written many miles from here — exact location unknown. I have been . very' busy laying in supplies for Partner—he says it looke as if 1 were preparing for a siege! However, he Will not be alone for long at aelirne. The family are taking it in turns to come home and see that all is well. So . . you'll be hearing from me again next week . . . I hope! MORE DIPTHEitIA The number of diptheria cases reported* iii Canada climbed to 208 lest year from 182 in 1953, the first increase since 1944. "]ft's not a tikhill They're 'o:d iieW!!" Sir Anthony Eden Called Sloppy Dresser One thing you will not find Sir Anthony Eden mentioning in any of his speeches is how be got ills M.O. Anthony Eden went straight from Eton at the age of seven" teen into the. Army in 1915, and within six months was hi the thick of the Somme battles. One night he took a small, party into No Man's Land, but when they returned found that a man named Harrop was mis- sing, At once he asked for vol- unteers, and with two men re- turned under heavy fire. They found Harrop lying wounded and bleeding profusely, and brought him back. For this Eden was given the M,C., which he always said later was doled out with his rations. Harrop became director of a Sheffield ironworks, and ' was chairman of the Sheffield Branch of the Old Contempti- bles' Association. One of Sir Anthony Eden's greatest dislikes is the label that has stuck to him all his life; that of -being a natty dresser. He hates it, Years ago an "Anthony Eden suit" used to be sold in Sweden, The picture which il- lustrated it showed a crinkly hair Apollo with the 'colossal shoulders of a super-spiv and a slim, wasp waist. But the editor of the 'Tailor and Cutter' pointed out that Eden was really quite slovenly and had several defects 'in his dress. The fact is that. Sir An- thony Eden, like most well- dressed Englishmen, wears well- cut clothes but is not conscious of his. attire, and that alone gives him a well turned out: appear- ance. Sir Anthony Eden's flair .for languages stood 'him in good stead when he was Foreign Sec- retary. His French and German are particularly good. He once re- vealed that he painstakingly and conscientiously 'taught himself 'the complexities of • ,German grammar out of a grammar bemek prepped up next to his mirror while shaving. When he, was very young , his mother ' took him iraVelling • abroad.' Studying languagesewas not 'the happiest part of those holidays, but the young Anthony did so for several hours every day., On 'their return, he'eVas taken by hii mother to the Eden an- cestr• al mansion; Windlestone Hall, Durham. As they alighted on ,the vil- lage station platform, the rail- way porter g'rpet;ed the lad'a. mother In 'broad Durham. dialect and, she introduced. him to. her son. "Oh, Mummy! Not auothee foreign.. language, please!" to, protested.• lit Cuote.Wlitztak. Dress-up your dining table with', these new "pansy" doilies! Simple crochet forms the pretty design — perfect for buffet, chair-sets too! Pattern 883: "Pansy" doilies! CroChet directiona for two sizes, larger 15 inches, smaller inches; in No. 30 mercerized in coins idnsl (stamp cannot be fie- WENTY-EIVE CENTS cepted) Tor this-pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto„Oot.,Addiess.' Print plain- ly PATTERN 'NUMBER, your NAME. iind ADDRESS. 110001C FOR 'smartest ideas its Needlecraft in, our Laura Wheeler Catalog for 1953. Cro- chet, = knitting, embroidery and lovely things to wear. Iron-onto, quilts, aprons, novelties — easy,' fun to make! Send 25 cents for. your copy of this book NOWT You will want to order every new design in rit: ISSUE 27 1955 ,r FASHION TELLS;'FS'FIORIS ;•StORY-- Inspired by jockeys' silks, beach outfit; cit 'left,' is modeled in Florence, Italy. It's made of white cotton, features long sleeves and sewn-in neckerchief. Feedbag-like straw' bonnet doubles, as beach bag, is carrier by ear pieces. Three-piece cotton ensem- ble, at right, is in 'a traditional rose-and-scrolk print and is an outfit in itself. One-piece playsuit has scoop, neckline and above-the-knee Tyrolean shorts; is worn with matching but- ton-front skirt. Short sleeved bolero packet is not shown. PUBLIC MARKET—All buyers may see your stock and bid againit each other, for its posses- sion when it Is offered on the public market. On a normal busy day, more than 100 different buyers operate on the. Ontario Stock Yards market at Toronto. When your stock is sold through the mar- Iceth competition influences the price.you receive; competitive bidding assures you of maximum FULLY-00001ED SALESMEN—Abattoirs hire well-trained,ibUyers to act for ,them; ;",them aim is to purchaie.os cheaply as possible, need a fully-qualified salesman to represent your interest's, to make sure _ you receive full market • valiae for yOur.iive stock. the REMEMBER—The Public Live Stock :Market is 0.11y place where fully qualified salesmen are always available, as your representative. 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