The Exeter Times-Advocate, 1973-12-13, Page 4TODAY'S CHILD
BY HELEN ALLEN
THE TORONTO ,cmk) SYNDICATE
Kenny spent most of the summer at camp and loved it with the
opportunities for swimming, fishing, canoeing and hiking. He
plays baseball, football, hockey and basketball,
Just turned 11, Kenny has been in special education classes
but has now moved into the regular Grade 5. He has a slight
perceptual handicap which interferes a bit with his reading but
does not otherwise seem troublesome. Though not a top student,
Kenny likes school and is eager to learn.
Kenny is a good-looking boy with blue eyes, blonde hair, fair
skin and freckles. He is near-sighted and really needs glasses,
but he hates to wear them so they are more often in the case than
on his nose.
Pleasant, co-operative Kenny is always ready to help with
chores either at school or in his foster home. He is generally
happy, with many friends. He follows rules well — indeed he
seems happiest when life is planned so that he knows what the
program is and what is expected of him.
Kenny needs a mother and father with warmth and sensitivity
who will give him love and encouragement but will not be
demanding about academic achievement. Since he gets on well
with children of all ages, he will like to have brothers and sisters
in his adopting family.
To inquire about adopting Kenny, please write to Today's
Child, Ministry of Community & Social Services, Box 888,
Station K, Toronto M4P 2112. For general adoption information,
please contact your local Children's Aid Society.
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imization uer-or.
Suffer the parents
The volunteer system is 'dead',"
"We say, over-organization is
worse than no organization at all. It's 'kill-
ed' the spirit in many a community. And
once dead, it's difficult to revive."
Many communities in Ontario fall far
short of the recreation activities provided
in Exeter primarily because this town has
an energetic and dedicated group of
volunteers in many areas of endeavour.
Perhaps some more consideration of
the local program should be given before
any major changes are undertaken.
It would be indeed unfortunate if our
extensive recreation program was
destroyed by over-organization similar to
that which has occurred in Markham.
In view of the current discussion being
conducted by Exeter's RAP and council, a
recent comment in the Stouffville Tribune
proves most interesting,
It notes that recreation, or lack of it, is
cited as the number one problem in the
neighboring community of Markham,
which the editorial notes is a rather
remarkable finding in a public survey,
"Unbelievable, we say, because
Markham has one of the most organized
recreation programs in the region (York
region) with the cost exceeding by many
times, the budget in Whitchurch-
Stouffville," the comment continues.
`But perhaps herein lies the problem,
Their (Markham) recreation is so well
organized, the incentive perhaps is lost,
Parochialism the killer
Nobody really knows what brought it
about but Huron County Council boldly
decided last Friday at their final session for
1973 to turn down the proposed plumbing
bylaw which had received hours of study by
the Board of Health and was the culmina-
tion of much research by MDH Dr, Frank
Mills and his staff.
One of the main concerns may have
been the fee structure which had been pur-
posely designed to make the plumbing in-
spection department self-supporting. One
reason for the surprise defeat may have
been a simple lack of understanding about
the intent of the bylaw. Still another may
have been something far less tangible - such
as the possible poor timing of the presenta-
tion by the Board of Health.
Whatever it was - and nobody is really
able to say for sure - the plumbing bylaw
was defeated by members of Huron County
Council. And to make the situation even
more confusing, one of the opposition,
Reeve Bill Elston of Morris, told Dr. Mills
the county really wants plumbing inspec-
tion and with a little more work to clarify
the bylaw somewhat, it would probably
pass at some later date.
Dr. Mills' reaction was one of astonish-
ment. He said he found it difficult to believe
the county wanted the control the plumbing
bylaw could provide or county councillors
would have adopted the bylaw on the spot.
While it wasn't a recorded vote on the
subject, it appeared that the opposition to
the bylaw came from the rural quarters of
. • So 1 Said to Gromyko—Look here Andrei, it's about the way
you treat your minority groups . . ."
the county where plumbing inspection does,
not carry the urgency it does in the urban
areas.
In municipalities such as Goderich, for
instance, plumbing inspection is deemed
absolutely necessary to protect would-be
homeowners from the costly problems
which often develop because of improper
plumbing procedures at the time of con-
struction. It is safe to say that plumbers in
all parts of Huron County, and especially
those in municipalities such as Goderich
where building and development is constant
and heavy, would welcome a plumbing
bylaw.
One wonders whether another possible
reason for the veto on the plumbing bylaw
might have been parochial thinking which
has plagued county council for long years.
If councillors are still unable to think
beyond the borders of their own
municipalities, especially on such impor-
tant issues as plumbing, there is little
wonder that the county system of govern-
ment is being threatened.
What's more, with the news that county
council plans next year to take a closer look
at the possible methods of restructuring for
Huron, it is difficult to imagine that council
members who cannot approve county plum-
bing inspection for the good of all despite
pressures from at home will ever be able to
effect an amicable and meaningful attempt
to restructure the county to the satisfaction
of an impartial Queen's Park.
—Goderich Signal-Star
It's a complex situation
At first I stood my ground. Not
a penny, Let him starve in
Houston. At least he won't freeze
to death (he'd airily told his
mother it was 90 degrees down
there.)
we note the father not only
permitted his son to go to his
probable destruction, he actually
gave him the money with which
to do it, This kind of permissive
love is very difficult.
Parents want to protect their
children, to keep them from
being hurt, not always because of
their love for them, but because
of the pain they suffer when their
young are hurt.
The prodigal eventually 'found
himself' in the pigpen (as low as
any Jewish boy could get) where
Jesus says he 'came to him-
self' . . ,. he looked himself in the
face and was so disgusted with
what he saw he picked up and
headed back home.
But remember it was in the
pigsty that the revelation came.
It',s a terrible risk parents
sometimes have to take . . to let
their children go unkempt, unfed
and neglected in order that they
will find themselves.
When the prodigal returned
home . , what then? The
father's reaction was probably
not what yours or mine would be.
He brushed off the son's request
for forgiveness because his love
was so great, forgiveness wasn't
needed to be asked for.
There were no sermons about
hoping you've learned your
lesson and you'd better not let it
happen again, Neither was there
any mention made of dragging
him off to church, or sitting
around sentimentally embracing
him.
Instead, the father provided
good food and clothes for the
bedraggled, wayward rascal, and
gave orders for a gigantic
celebration to honor his son's
return to 'life'.
The father had no assurance,
either, that his son wouldn't just
get cleaned up, fed and rested
and then decide to take off once
more. We, as parents, are often
put to this same test. It's costly
love that almost breaks our
spirits and our hearts.
When Jesus told this story He
was dipicting God as the Father
whose love is freely given, is ever
forgiving, and is unconditional
even at cost of great suffering.
What else can we do but
follow His example is showing
this kind of love to our wayward
young who seem destined 'to go to
the far country in order to come
to themselves'.
Jesus said, "Suffer the children
to come to me", but I'm sure he
also said, "suffer the parents to
come, too,"
There's surely never been an
age when parents, agonizing over
their young, needed comfort and
assurance so much as right now,
It's true adults have always
worried about the younger
generation. Way back in 1274 a
monk, Brother Peter, wrote,
"Young people of today think of
nothing but themselves. They
have no reverence for parents,
are impatient of all restraint.
They talk as if they knew
everything, and what passes for
wisdom with us is foolishness
with them."
But regardless of this, no other
generation has raised their young
in a time of bloody highway
killings through the use and
misuse of fast cars and motor-
bikes, in a time when alcoholic
drinks, flowing freely, are at-
tainable to even the youngest
teenager. This is also an era
when glue sniffing, the use of pot,
speed and other drugs, along with
free sex, are considered by many
youngsters as the norms of the
day.
We stand in stunned horror as
we watch many of them, who
were trusting and lovable babies
such a short time ago, turn into
distrusting, sullen, illusive
strangers with whom we can no
longer communicate.
Strangers, who to us, have no
moral fibres, who live by codes
laid down by their peers,
themselves caught in some
terrible trap of violence,
dishonesty and a pathological
disinterest in anything that would
free them.
In silent anguish we watch as
they seem intent on destroying
themselves while we pray they
will somehow find themselves (as
they are wont to say) before it's
too late.
The Bible speaks of the
prodigal son going to a far
country to a life of reckless and
wanton living. But our kids find
their 'far country' as close as
Main Street or the next block. I'm
sure it's more excruciating for
to have to watch their
prodigals hurl themselves to
ruination than if they went away
to do it.
But there is much for us
parents to glean from the Biblical
prodigal story. In the first place,
Do they ever grow up?
Perhaps someone who has gone
the whole course can tell me
when one's children stop
depending on their parents when
it comes to the clutch.
Is it in their forties, fifties,
sixties? Certainly it is not in their
twenties,
Recently, we received a note
from our son Hugh, to tell us he
was taking some holidays and
would be home for a few days'
visit.
I thought, "Good. He's saved
some money and won't arrive
broke, as usual." He had.
Some days later, in a telephone
conversation with daughter Kim,
we learned that Hugh had
dropped in to see her, and had
drifted off, muttering something
about going to Chicago. That is a
slightly roundabout way of
getting to our place.
And a few days later there was
a collect call from Houston,
Texas. You guessed it, Hugh, flat
broke. Could we wire him money
for bus fare to get home?
He was crafty enough to call
when I was at work. I would
probably have refused the collect
call, and regretted it later. Or I'd
have shouted, "No, I will not send
you the price of one serving of
Kentucky fired chicken", and
slammed up the receiver.
But he sweet-talked his mother
for five minutes before he popped
the question. She was not only
affronted but taken aback and
didn't think quickly enough to tell
him we were just off to Florida or
the west coast or anywhere.
She waffled a bit, and even-
tually said she'd see what his Dad
said but not to expect anything.
He sighed with relief and told her
where to send the money.
I came home from work on a
Friday after a hard week. AU I
wanted was to get my shoes off,
have a quiet drink before dinner,
and read the latest goodies about
the energy crisis.
And all I got was a family
crisis, a. scramble to the bank,
and a dash to get to the telegraph
office before it closed for the
weekend.
terest, and he'll never pay if off.
This has been happening to me
for years. First, the kids go to
their mother, and soften her up.
Then she comes to me, and
softens me up. Then I go back to
the kids and practically apologize
for being.so slow with the .loot.
Of course, I reason, Hugh's
only a kid. Practically a baby. He
won't be twenty-seven until July.
You can't expect him, at that
tender age, to know enough to
SAVE SOME MONEY FOR BUS
FARE HOME!
But that other kid. She's a
different matter. She's almost a
mother. And she pulled a swifty
on us this week, Another collect
call, on Sunday. Nice to hear her.
Asked how big the tummy was.
All very matey and maternal.
Then came the punch line, Don,
her husband, was on the way up
from the city with their cat, to put
in our care. He had to hitchhike
because he couldn't bring the cat
on a bus. Her mother nearly blew
a cork. The danged cat isn't
trained.
So we have two additions to the
household this week. Two fat
cats. One in the back yard,
yowling to get in. The other
watching TV, sleeping till noon,
and waiting to put the bit on me
for more bus fare back to his job
in Quebec.
I shoulda been a cranky old
bachelor.
And she agreed with me. "He
doesn't deserve a cent. He was
told he was never to do that
again. Ungrateful young pup.
Why doesn't he hitchhike home?"
"Well," I said, "some of those
southern states are pretty tough
on hitchhikers, Throw them in
jail for a month,"
I could just see her thinking of
her first-born slaving on a
Georgia chain-gang or something
of the sort. After a heated half-
hour, we agreed that money isn't
everything, that you can't take it
with you, that he's the only son
we have, that it would be nice to
see him, and that I'l better hustle
if I wanted to get to the bank in
time.
• It cost me about $115, counting
the bus fare and grub to get
home, the cost of the collect call,
and the charge for sending the
money.
That's what I call sending good
money after good. Of course,
Hugh wouldn't dream of ac-
cepting a gift. It was strictly a
loan. According to his figures, he'
now owes me $380.00, without
interest, and will have the whole
thing paid off anytime now.
According to my figures, he owes
me $880.46, at eight percent in-
50 Years Ago
Mr. W. F. Abbott attended the
Bee-Keeper's Association
meeting at Toronto Wednesday
and Thursday of last week.
Warden B. W. F. Beavers was
presented with a gold-headed'
cane at the December session of
the Huron County council.
L.O.L. 924 has elected and
installed officers for the following
year as follows: W. M. , G. Davis;
D.M., Howard Dignan; P.M., W.
Lutman; recording secretary, G.
MacDonald; financial secretary
J. Bradt; treasurer; James
Brintnell; chaplain, Rev. James
Foote; first committee, W.
Elliott.
Mrs. Elmo H. HoWey has been
successful in passing the junior
examinations held at the Ontario
College of Pharmacy, Toronto.
Mr, Charlie Coward who has
been in the west for some time,
arrived home last week.
that big fellow will attempt to
take by force that which he
desires.
For that reason, Canada must
be prepared to share with those
less fortunate and Canadians
must be prepared to conserve as
much as possible for future
generations — not only of this
country, but the world.
After all, as the John Atlas
advertisementi suggested, the
98-pound weakling couldn't keep
his beautiful gal when the muscle
man decided to take her.
Change that situation to one
where the 98-pound weakling is
trying to keep his natural
resources from an extremely
hungry or cold muscle man and
you can see what happens.
Canadians may want to turn
thumbs down on the Americans,
Japanese or whoever, when it
comes to sharing our natural
resources but it's a practice that
can only be short-lived at best.
Now, as far as coffee is con-
cerned, we can all switch brands
and be good Christians, but don't
ever tempt our faith and
dedication on anything that
would result in hardships for us.
Having started on a religious
topic, we may as well finish,
although as everyone knows,
there's no such thing as an end to
such debates, Fortunately, there
are never any winners or losers
( tempters excluded) either.
What brand of coffee are you
drinking?
That may not appear to be such
an unusual question, but when it
appears in the church bulletin, it
takes on some sort of different
connotation.
First of all, readers of the
bulletin were not actually being
subjected to a new quiz, but the
point was that they were being
told that by buying certain
brands of coffee they were in fact
maintaining — or at least con-
doning — the type of treatment
Angola citizens receive while
working at their country's coffee
plantations.
The church suggests we should
choose other brands of coffee and
thereby put some economic
pressure on those who inflict
hardships on workers.
One of our fellow employees
found it difficult to imagine how
she could bring any pressure to
bear on the situation by merely
switching brands.
However, there is no question
but what a boycott of products
would certainly help in many
instances, although some of the
firms which are subjected to
boycotts appear to continue with
no real hardships. For instance,
the Farmers' Union and many
university groups have a boycott
against Kraft Foods, but the
latter firm continues to function
with no apparent difficulties.
The point about such boycotts
is that people will join them only
as long as they do not suffer any
personal hardships by so doing.
For instance, can you imagine
the church suggesting a boycott
against Arabian oil if it meant
that members would suffer
hardships. No, the Arabs can do
what they will and as long as
other nations are dependent upon
them for some vital supplies,
there will be no economic
boycotts.
In fact, the situation is working
in reverse. The Arabs have
forced some countries to support
their actions by threatening to
cut off the oil supplies their
trading partners require.
Taken to a conclusion that is
not improbable, it may well be
that in the future the U.S.A. may
have to change sides in the
Middle East if they want to stay
warm and drive automobiles.
+ + +
The complexity of the situation
points up the fact that as the
world's natural resources
dwindle, there may be some
strange "bed partners" indeed in
the future. Or it may well be that
World War III will erupt as
nations battle over the areas
where such resources still exist.
That is the folly of any
"protectionist" policy for
Canadian natural resources, We
may save them for a few years,
but as soon as someone bigger
has been subjected to much
suffering because of that policy,
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At any rate, the words of our,
spiritual leader last week were
that to enjoy Christmas more we
should share that which we have
with those who are less fortunate.
It's a point well-taken,
regardless of your religious af-
filiations.
There are many agencies in-
volved in helping the starving
around the world and your gift, —
big or small -7- is always ap-
preciated.
The Batten family held a
discussion on the subject after
church and it was unanimously
agreed that we could do without
one gift this Christmas and give
the money thus saved to the
needy,
We were pleasantly surprised
that our offspring were so
generous until We realized they
had misconstrued the question.
They were prepared to give up'
one gift alright — dad's!
Not exactly what we had in
mind of course, but it's a start in
the right direction,
Editor — Bill Batten — Advertising Manager
Assistant Editor -- Ross Haugh
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15 Years Ago
Football teams at the J.A.D.
McCurdy School, RCAF Station
Centralia staged their own Grey
Cup battle recently, complete
with cheerleaders and
majorettes. Sale of candy at the
game raised $30 which Was
donated to the Springhill Disaster
Fund.
A head-on collision about one
mile south of Exeter on No. 4
Highway early Saturday killed
four airmen and injured four
others and was the worst in the
district's history.
First prize in the T-A's public
school essay contest on "My
Christmas Wish" goes, to Helen
Cole of Exeter Public School who
would like to have a wonderful
party for orphans.
First prize of $25 was awarded
to Dinney Furniture for the best
decorated store window for
Christmas sponsored by the
Exeter BusinessMen's
Association.
10 Years Ago
The new transormer station
being erected near Centralia by
Ontario Hydra's western region
will provide a capacity of three
times the present need and will
cost $550,000, It is eXpected to be
in service by October 1964.
Dashwood Industries will Soon
open its second plant at Mt.
Brydges and plans to build a third
one to be in production before
1964. Three of the key men
planning the major expansion
program are Sales Manager JIM
Finnen, Vice-president Howard
klumpp and President Maurice
klumpp.
Slightly over 22 inches of snoW
has fallen on the area in the last
five days. The biggest single fall
was on Sunday when 11.7 inches
fell, most of it in a Seven hour
Stretch. An Exeter man at RCAF
Station Centralia suffered a
heart attack shovelling snow and
died the same day.
25 Years Ago
Leavitt's Theatre will donate
the entire gross proceeds from
the Monday and Tuesday
showings Of "The slack Arrow"
to the Exeter Hospital Fund
sponsored by the Exeter Lions.
The night classes sponsored by
the Department Of Agriculture
and held in the Exeter District
High School each Thursday are
growing in interest with 70 in
attendance last week.
On Wednesday, Rev. George
Lamont, a son-In-law of Mr. and
Mrs. Harry Strang, of town, was
inducted into the pastorate of
Knox Presbyterian Church,
The county of Huron has
purchased the antique display of
Mr. Neill of Gerrie, This is the
largest display of antiques in
Ontario. It will be plated
somewhere in the county,
Mr, and Mrs, Russell
Broderick, Joyce and Jerry left
last week to spend the winter in
Arizona. ttK.'