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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Exeter Times-Advocate, 1970-05-21, Page 8Pag, 0 possible to completely separate the spouse from his family ... and it should never be attempted. It is also true if a young person gets along well with his own family, he will likely get along with his in-laws. WRONG CONCEPT North American cartoons depict a man as being constantly beleaguered by his rancorous mother-in-law. Statistically, this is incorrect, as it is the wife-mother-in-law relationship which more often causes marital troubles. Ralph Linton, an anthropologist, indicates that 60% of in-law difficulties arise from wives being entangled with mothers-in-laws. The new wife, knowing she is not yet the expert home maker her mother-in-law is, may become over sensitive and defensive about her shortcomings and touch off in-law trouble that need not.exist. The mother-in-law, perhaps a little lonely or jealous resents her child's switch in loyalty to his wife, and looks for things to criticize and with which to find fault. Love, understanding and sense of humor go a long way when dealing with in-laws. I often think back to the days I was a silly, immature bride. After an eyeball to eyeball battle with my spouse I would flounce over to his mother's to tell her just what kind of a miserable lout she had raised. What a wise woman she was. Instead of rising to his defense, she would join me in berating him . to such a degree that I would soon find myself on the defensive. After all, he wasn't that bad! Often, I left her house quite miffed about the things she bad said about 'my husband', and went home completely won over to his side, How the must have smiled to herself. The privilege of knowing her lasted 25 years, and I count her among the best friends I ever had. • As I said before, all parents want happiness in marriage for their children. We may make a lot of blunders but we mean well. And we're not always wrong. Often we are only trying to save the young people from mistakes we made ourselves long ago. If the young couple can remember this, it will be easier for them to be more appreciative of their parents concern. A heap of loving, a peck of good humor and a lot of down to earth understanding . • that's what it takes to get along with your in-laws. 1111/1111111111111111#1111111 lllllllllllllll .1111,01141t11111111t111111(111k1Mtmallti11111 lllll 1 lllllllll III lll 1 llll III llllll 11111111111 Recipe Box lllll , lllllllllllll llllllllllllll llllllllllll SPECIAL PURCHASE Greb Mohicans WOMEN'S HEELS Reg. $15.95 to $17.95 WHILE $ 0 n o45 THEY LAST . on Boys' Clothing SIZES 8to 18 3 DAYS ONLY MAY 21 , 22 - 23 Times.Advocate, May 21, 1970 Special problems Single pa-rent in limbo SST: .SSZaS.'SSeessss,s,s, Facts N' Fancies. By Gwyn of tax concessions and yet most of them find their incomes tremendously reduced. Even in the case of divorce, most help is find they haveto go back to work. suddenly become single parents, 11 a 'd`Me eiOus4e ' tt parents,. when they in many cases, the women are untrained. There is also the question of who will look after 'tt hh eo children, those ohtoh "Another those who want social great problem -for companionship is `Where do they want to remarry or for meet people of the opposite sex, Separated parents especially are people in limbo — they are neither single — nor divorced", says Professor Schlesinger. 704 m444 a "Society's fifth wheel" — as the single-parent is sometimes. called — was the subject of a full -scale discussion at the annual meeting of the Vanier Instittne of the Family. „ Dr. Benjamin Schlesinger, professor of social work at the University of Toronto and the author of a book, "The One-Parent Family", was the moderator of a panel discussion on the problems of single parents .and their families. "Single parents constitute nine percent of all Canadian families", says Prof. Schlesinger. "They have special problems and yet they receive no special consideration from government. They receive no relief in the form ea taw? ..11--rte "What makes a good Mother-in-law?" I coyly asked my Son-in-law over the weekend. "About 85 miles," he answered with wicked candor. (That being the distance between his house and ours.) Becoming serious, he went on, "I think g'ood in-laws are people who are interested in what their married children do but who do not, meddle in their affairs." Toe cha. It is even more than that. The young marrieds in our family have celebrated their second anniversary and right now they are facing changes and problems that many of their contemporaries are experiencing. From a tiny house they are about to move into a huge place which will take hours and hours ' of renovating and redecorating. They are in the process of buying a business which will drain their finances and absorb their energies for many years. There seems to be so much to do and so many decisions to make, our hearts and minds ached for them. This past weekend they asked us for advice many times ... but it was clearly apparent that advice was not what they wanted. What they were really asking from us was our assurance they were doing the right thing, and that their plans were good. In short, they wanted to know we had confidence in them and stood behind their decisions. I hope we were able to do that. este will turn the simplest meal into a ELEGANT APRICOT CHEESE CAKE, easy to make and delicious to feast. Home, scene of many accidents results from falls Tragic A fall may look funny . . when a comic is taking it on stage. He knows how to fall, and how to prevent himself from injury. But a fall to a member of the family at home can have tragic they didn't expect to be there. Wipe up grease or wet spots immediately. Toys, clothing, linens and other objects that might cause you to trip should be put in their proper storage place . . . immediately after use. Move furniture back to its accustomed place. Don't carry packages or bundles that are so big they keep you from seeing what is ahead. Do not leave a baby unattended on the bed, couch or in the bathinette. If you must answer the door or the telephone, place baby in his crib, with the sides up and secured. The safest way to go up or down stairs is to walk, Plant the feet firmly on each step. Hold onto the handrail: The safe way to climb a ladder is to hold the rungs with both hands. Do not stand on the top rungs, and never over-reach from a ladder. Attend CCAJ graduation consequences. The 206 bones that form the adult skeleton are well covered, strong as cast iron, light and flexible. They're snugly hinged together. Yet they're among the most vulnerable parts of the body . . . when it comes to falls. And falls are the leading cause of disabling injuries and fatalities sustained in home accidents. In a year, falls in and about the home take the lives of hundreds of persons. Many are children under age four. Many are 75 and over. Obviously, falls in the home are serious business. The Council on Family Health in Canada, a non-profit public service organization working to encourage home safety, offers these tips on how to prevent falls in the home; A surprising number of falls happen on a single level . .. when persons slip on greasy or wet spots . . . or trip over something SHOE 5myth's Phone 235-1933 CHARGEX Exeter, Ontario STORE LTD. IN-LAW PROBLEMS When young people marry it is the chief concern of the three parties involved, that is, the couple themselves and both sets of parents, that the marriage be a happy and successful one. Yet, it is s proven fact, that the percentage of marriages which break up early, within two years, in-law problems are named as the most common cause. The longer people remain married, the lesser the problems of in-laws become, but in some cases a satisfactory adjustment in the in-law relationships never occurs. Often the trouble arises because each set of people has different ideas on how the happiness of the marriage can be achieved. ELEGANT APRICOT CHEESE CAKE If you have never made your own cheese cake before, this simple recipe is for you. Serve apricot cheese cake when entertaining, or to turn an ordinary meal into a special one — it tastes as delicious as it looks. CRUST 1 cup graham cracker crumbs 3 tbsp. butter, melted 3 tbsp. granulated sugar FILLING 1 (8-oz.) package cream cheese 1 (16-oz.) carton creamed cottage cheese 3/4 cup sugar 1/4 cup flour 2 eggs 1 cup 15% cream 11/2 tsp. vanilla MAGNIFY . Phone 235-0212 GARNISH 1/4 cup sugar 3 tbsp. cornstarch 1/2 lemon 1 (28-oz) can apricots To prepare crust, combine crumbs, butter and sugar; press on to bottom of a 9" spying-form pan 21/2" deep. Bake at 325 degrees for 10 minutes. To prepare filling, combine softened cream cheese, creamed cottage cheese and flour, beating until well blended. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Blend in cream and vanilla; pour over crumbs. Bake at 325 degrees F. for 50 minutes. Cool before removing rim of pan. Chill. To prepare garnish, drain apricots and save juice. Arrange apricots over top of cheese cake. Stir together 1/4 cup sugar and the cornstarch and blend in part of the cold apricot juice. Add the remainderof juice and cook until thickened and clear. Stir in grated rind and juice of a half a lemon. Spoon evenly over apricots. Makes 8 to 10 servings. YOUR FOOD DOLLARS AT FRUITS & VEGETABLES U.S. No. 1 Head Lettuce Town topics Denmark relative visits Large Size 24's head 210 Schneidera No. 1 Add a few drops of glycerin to starch if you want linens to have an extra gloss. Open Friday Nights Until Nine 011111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111I111111111111111H111111110111111111111111111111111111111lilllillillIal FROZEN Valley Farms Elizabeth Arden French Fries NEW LOYALTIES Once a man and a woman marry they are faced with the chajlengeef identifying with each Zal!if6r. This means adopting new loyalties in which each other comes first in the other's eyes. It means breaking away to some extent from both sets of parents. The success of marriage must be placed above loyalty to parents. Husbands and wives come first. Some parents, perhaps 'have forgotten this, and anxious to help, step in with uninvited advice causing unnecessary heartaches and emotional crises. And unfortunately, some young people seem to go into marriage with a chip on their shoulders about their new in-laws. When they do, they will more than likely create trouble. If they watch and wait for signs and clues of in-law interference, they frequently misinterpret small, innocent things. Another thing some young people often don't want to face is the realization each spouse marries an entire family. "For better and for worse," includes the close relatives on both sides. It is a great mistake for anyone to believe he or she marries only an individual, for it is never Ulrik Kruse, of Abenra, Denmark was a recent visitor at the home of his sister and her husband, Mr. & Mrs. Erik Gravlev: In honor of the occasion, neighbors of the Gravlev's, Mr. & Mrs. Richard Jermyn, flew the Danish flag on their flagpole. Mr. & Mrs. Nelson Howe, Cromarty, Mrs. & Mrs. Cecil Murray, Exeter, Mr. & Mrs. Don Morphy of Waterloo attended the 45 wedding anniversary of Mr. & Mrs. Ed Howe of Livonia, Michigan. Visitors with the Alf Wuerth's, Sunday, were Mr. & Mrs. R. M. Long and Denise of Birmingham, Michigan, and Mr. & Mrs. Barry Long and son, Robert, of Kalamazoo, Michigan. Friends who called on Mrs. William Thomson, Andrew Street, on the weekend were Mr. & Mrs. Herbert Bosley, London, Mr. & Mrs. Earl Pulleyblank, London, and Mr. & Mrs. Clayton Hanna. William Stephen, Woodham, and Greta Stephen, Vancouver, visited Friday with Mr. & Mrs. Milton Sleamon. Mr. & Mrs. Harold Turnbull, Tillsonburg, visited Friday and Saturday with Mr. & Mrs. David Millar, and Mr. & Mrs. Milton Sleamon. Mr. & Mrs. Milton Sleamon were Monday evening guests with Mr. & Mrs. Al Parker, Grand Bend. By MRS. WILLIAM ROHDE THAMES ROAD Mrs. Harold Dobson, Grand Bend, spent a few days last week with Mrs. Stewart Miner. Mrs. Grant Mills, Fullerton, visited Thursday evening with Mrs. Miner. Rev. Stewart Miner attended London Conference at Windsor part of last week. Mr.' & Mrs. Archie Etherington, Mr. & Mrs. Bev Morgan, Mrs. Newton Clarke, Joyce Ferguson attended the graduation exercises at Centralia Agricultural School, Wednesday, when John Morgan graduated. 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