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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Lucknow Sentinel, 1953-09-23, Page 64 / '■ TAqE SIX this’ll’that ■ .. ‘ by / ■ .' . . ROSEMARY THYME . Summer is over. The young­ sters are back to school again, mid once more quietness reigns from 8.45 to 4.30. J think they, themselves, are mostly glad to be back, John admitted the day be- —77jore_schooHopened~that-he-would- bei ‘‘But I4 didnH feel like that .. He has had a, variety bf play­ mates this summer, and Ij have / liad many an pbject lession in child psychology. I’ve been in- terested in the tattle-tale, in the bully, and the ibrag, in the ^ame .little good sports, the ones jwith sunny dispositions and the per­ petual whiner. And, do you know? That back of them all, the brag, the, good sport, the / whiner, and all, there are the parents, and more (particularly the mother, making them just What they are . .,. and, more im­ portant still, making them what they will be*.. Beirig a < parent is a terrifying THU LUCKNOW SENTINEL, JLUCKNQW, ONTARIO WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 23rd, didn’t run crying to^ mama; hq shquted with laughter, and then got his hands on the hose hiim self if he could. A very satisfac­ tory adjustment to the state of affairs, and one that will take him a long way in more import* ’ ant things, \ • At this stage of thteir^lives jt miay not seem itnportant .that rnama is always ready to listen ‘ . to her children’s tale of wbe, and take their side in childish griev­ ances. But it is important. The child, whose mother comes too •. actively into the picture in this ■way^-comes—to—be—shunned_Jby— other children, they refuse to let . him play-with them,~because ihe.’ll:: — tell mama when things don’t spit him, qrid:/she willxcome out with her hands on her hips, and tell them off. Actually the normal ‘ child doesn’t want his mother to do anything about it when things go wrong and he. tells her. all about it. He soon learns, how un­ popular' if* makes him . . . and he. may be pedalling up and down the street alone; for a long time. A Wise mother listens, because, after all we like to know these things, and we may advise opr uvy iCI.uu.u..s ... u.c ......Sw, „ e.-, ,...... — - child as to his future actions in • neighborhood is no playmate for young Johnny MeGaw. A game .like ■ circumstances, but, unless, i ■ ° ■■ — ■ ‘ . 1 <>. .• _ ■- • ITn i X ■ I 14 ' i ir. rr ■■i.zanl i guilty that "John does not care, one turned the hose on him, he I we stay ■ out of it. responsibility. Xdu aye the one selves , ,, , along, with all the to p|ay with him. But th^re is who helps your child to build Mp we may g?t/elsewhere. * —.u„. t .bout it attitudes that resultin success dr failure, that givehima happy social life, or lack of assurance, doubts, fears and uncertainties. Many of us are. too busy to see just what we are doing, many of us are too blind, or too compla- cent. Few of us try to understand as we should. All of us make ex­ cuses for ourselves,. We can. see the mistakes others make, but it is honestly hard to see where* we err ourselves. It is always a ticklish business, writing^ of . child, psychologyJ_ read articles and VI say to my-: self, “That person hasno child* ren?-i:> ♦ that’^f^sure’’.Pebble whoknow > me / will say, “Huh, why doesn’t she take that, to her­ self . I’m Sure her John . . . and so on. I have one. child, and I ‘was constantly reminded this summer that I could know no­ thing qf the problems Of raising more than one. " As I say, it is a ticklish subject; You know what they say about the Onlooker and ; the game. We can learn a great deal from observation^ . . but we. have to have sense to-apply it, ourselves. It is. certainly some­ thing, this being a parent, that we have to work out for our- nothing that I can doabout it, ’• , . that. I can, see* at.any rate. I really 'don’t biome him! Earl is the most complacent 7-year- old I iever saw. Twenty minutes of him around, and I am seeing black spots before my eyes.* Most children can talk a steady stream each sentence beginning < with “Why?’-. “How?” or “What’”JEarl can out-question any child I ever saw . . ,, the difference is that he already knows all the answers. His vocabulary might compare favorablywith any adult’s; his assurance is startling • . • the re- suit of being, too ; much alone, with? Wul^ play. he is . a 2-year-old . . - runs crying to mama; on the slightest provocation. Unfortunately, ma"- ma isno help in overcoming this tendency. Consequently, he spends most of his time pedalling up and down the street alone. His mother suggests apologetically that heis too young for John and his friends; he is too old for the other children around./ It isn’t a matter of age; across the street" all summer was a boy -of I yememb^r asking a frjepd* ! whom • I considered was. piakihg a fine job of bringing up her. fam­ ily, how she did it. John was very small, and I wanted tp make a fine job of bringing .him up too, and was ready to hear how it might be done. “Just love him”, she said, Apparently she figured, if you loved them, you ‘ Would always act with wisdpm, But it, isn’t enough. She is almost com­ pletely estranged from one dau- ghter.andtheotherdaughteris. a -thoroughly ' selfish; ' spoiled; grown-up’ ibrat. - Somewhere, just 'loving. them must have? .slipped up. Loving them is most .neces­ sary, but it must cover discipline and understanding . .. . . among ether things. 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