HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Huron Expositor, 1975-07-24, Page 18A MOMENT OF TENSION — It's not easy to meet your sister after 34 years of
silence. Nellie Young, left, introduces part of her family, Terry, Debbie and k im to
their new aunt. Anne Keough of St. John's, Nfld., who is visiting her sister,
remembers she had mixed fellings when she learned her sister was all ve and well,
(Staff Photo)
After 35 years
Seciforth lady finds family,
but mostly she was "overjoyed."
by
Elaine Tawrishend
Small Words
Everyone can't be a mind-reader. If we
want our thoughts to be acknowledged, we
must speak them., Often we take for
granted that another person understands
how we feel.
Some of 'the hardest words to say are
small ones, such as "I was wrong; I'm
sorry" or "Thank you" or "I love you".
We all make mistakes, but 'some of us
hate to admit. ours. No one is perfect, of
course, but we avoid drawing attention to
our foibles. We stubbornly refuse to
concede, "I was wrong and you were
right."
In a heated argument, we defend our
stand whether it's right or wrong. We spit
out hurtful words- that we don't mean.
Saying we're sorry indicates we're at fault.
Instead we mumble and grumble or say
nothing at all, hoping the' other person will
give in first.
Strangely, though, when he or she gives
in, our conscience isn't relieved. Victory
doesn't taste as sweet as we anticipated.
Silence doesn't always affirm our
superiority; sometimes it signifies our guilt
and 'obstinancy.
Although we won't ask the other person
for forgiveness, we assume he or she
perceives our regret.
When we were children, our parents
t aught us to be polite. We had to say
please and thank you. What a nuisance! '
As we grow older, we sometimes neglect
this courtesy. We believe the world owes
us something, and we take whatever we
can get. Nevertheless, when someone
treats us kindly, we presume they know we
appreciate it. By uttering the two small
words, thank you, we could remove all
doubt.
Love is another simple and beautiful
word that, isn't spoken often enough. We
feel it, but we don't say it. We take for
granted that the other person recognizes
our sentiment.
We decide to let our deeds. do the
talking, but our actions don't always reflect
our thoughts or achieve the desired results.
Stubbornness won't let us say "I miss
you". Pride won't let us say, "I need
yoU." Foolishness prevents us from
saying, "I love you." Because words
aren't spoken, our thoughts, are left
dangling in the air.
Sometimes the opposite is true, though.
When we try to express our feelings,
verbally, our words are ignored and we
soon give up.
Communication travels a two-way street
between the dispatcher and the receiver. If
the dispatcher doesn't voice his thoughts,
the message will never be conveyed. On
the other hand, if the intended receiver
closes his ears, he will never hear.
For best results, the dispatcher and the
receiver should switch roles automatically.
A few lucky people can communicate
their emotions to each other without words.
They aren't Mind-readers; they just
understand one another. They don't need
flowery speeches to male a point.
Nevertheless I'll bet they occasionally
murmur simple words, such as "I was
wrong and I'm sorry", "thank you" and "I
love you."
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These last two months have
been a rather emotional and
truamatic time for Nellie Young,
53 , of Seaforth.
For the first time in 35 years
Nellie was in touch with her
mother, "and four sisters.
"I didn't think I had a sister
living. I just gave up hope- and
thought "they are all dead," she
said.
Mrs. Young, a mother of seven,
and grandmother of six, said she
left Conception Harbor,
Newfoundland, where she and
her sisters were born and raised
when she was 18 years old
because ,times were bad during
the war years.
She came to Ontario to work in
a towel factory in Galt 'and finally
married Ivan Young, whom she
has since divorced.For the last
ten years she has been living with
her kids in Seaforth.
Mrs. Young said she wrote her
family throughout the years, but
the letters were always returned
unanswered. Just two months
agov her ldst letter was forwarded
to her youngest sister who is now
married and living in Colliers,
Nfld.
Through the years she said she
wrote and sent pictures of the
kids when they were small, but
everything was returned. She felt
she couldn't afford to return to
Newfoundland to find her family
on the chance they were still
alive. •
Before writing and posting the
last letter she said she thought,
"Lord, I'm going to try again."
She said in the letter she pleaded
with anyone knowing the
whereabouts of her mother,
Bridget Gushue, 'te forward the
letter.
Her Youngest sister, Josephine
Fowley, 45, who now has 12 kids
of her own got the letter and got
in touch with her sister Rea, who
lives in toronto.
Her sister from Toronto called
and then everybody called. All
that was said was: "Is that you
Nell?" I couldn't describe The
rest, you've never heard such
bawlilng and crying.'
She learned that all these
years, she had a sister living
in Toronto and Kitchener. They
had tried to contact her but didnt
know her married name. One
sister actually advertised in
newspapers to find her since her
mother was getting old.. "It was
just a miracle that we got in
touch," she said.
Once she heard from her
family, money wasn't going to
stand in the way, and last month
she flew home to visit her mother
and three sisters.
Things had changed. Her
father died 17 years ago, but her
mother she said is "just as smart
as the day I left her 35 years ago. I
know she can climb the stairs
faster than I can."
Her mother was speechless and
didn't want her to return when
her month's visit was over.
"She's bound and bent I return
with all my kids and
grandchildren," she said.
A lot of changes have occurred
in Newfoundland she remembers.
A lot of things are built up from
when she left like new factories
and homes. There is more work
and school buses pick 'kids right
The Seaforth Women's
Institute' enjoyed fun and
barabecue,at the home of Mr. and
Mrs. Earl Papple Tuesday, July
15 at 7 P.M. Mrs. Papple and
Mrs. Bruce Coleman were in
charge of the program.
Lucky cup was won by Jas.
Keys. Winner of the lucky plate
was Gordan Papple. The
contest, "Guess who you are"
proved humorous.
Scavenger hunt winners were
Brenda Coleman,Cheryl
McAllister, Nancy Taylor,
,Joanne Carter. Balloon Relay was
won by Susan McAllister's team.
The winners were - Guess the
book - Marjorie Papple. The
person who was up the earliest on
Tuesday morning- Lorne Carter;
Lady with white earrings - Mrs.
Kathleen Whitmore, chairman
of the Flowers of Hope for the
South Huron and District Associa-
tion for the Mentally Retarded
reports that this year's campaign
was the best ever.
Donation • amounted to
$5,711.19, That's about $2,000
more than last year.
The Seaforth lady expressed
gratitude on behalf of the Asso-
ciation to everyone who helped'
with the canvass, donated funds
or contributed in any way.
The break-down for donations
from the various communities and
organizations is as follows:
Centralia $129, Creditors $97.35
Exeter $1,008.93, Grand Bend
$260.80; Hay $1,302.68, Hensall
$517.20, Londeiboro United
Church $52, Port f ranks $170,
Seaforth. UCW $40, Stephen $413,
Thathes Road pastoral. charge
Arnold Taylor; The man with the
thickest hair- Bruce Coleman;
Guess the beans in jar. Mrs; Mrs; Ken
Stewart.
The children enjoyed a candy
scramble. Cathy and Brenda
Coleman, Susan and Cheryl
McAllister played several musical
selections on guitars, accordion
and drums.
Mrs. Lorne Lawson, Mrs. Alex
Pepper, Mrs. Gordon McKenzie
and Mrs. Harold Hugill convened
the barbecue assisted by Mrs.
Earl Papple and Miss Marjorie
Papple,
About 53 members, families
and friends attended. All
reported an enjoyable evening.
Mrs. Harold Hugill, Pr esident,
moved a vote of thanks to Mr. and
Mrs. Earl Papple and all those
who took part.
up at the door.
"I remember when I was a kid
we would have to walk for miles,"
she said.
When she returned home on
June 10, they had two feet of
snow, and the weather during her
stay was damp and cool. "You'd
never get a suntan that's for
sure."
When she went home she went
sightseeing and visited her
former neighbors. "They are all
old now, but they still remember
me," she said with a smile.
Mrs.Young said she felt her
letters were never received
because of the old post office
being torn down, and new people
who took over not knowing how, to
find anyone.
Traveling around the bay from
St. John's to Colliers is like
travelling around a "rainbow".
"That's one beautiful place to go
for a holiday" Mrs. Young said.
Like numerous poems say, all
roads lead home, and her search
for the pot at the end of her
rainbow, leads back home.
Now Mrs. Young looks at her
reunion with her family
fatalistically saying, "It just had
to happen," and plans to move
back to Newfoundland with her
three kids, three others having
married.
To those who may waspishly
say, you can never go home
again, Mrs. Young says she's'
never forgotten her home, "it's
about time I returned, 35 years
away from home is long enough."
She plans to return home next
month before school st arts. "The
kids are looking forward to
meeting their grandmother".
"They couldn't believe, they
didn't think they had an aunt in
the world," she said.
Her sister from St. John's ,
Nfld., Anne Keough came to visit
Nellie and her family after
visiting her sister Mary in
Kitchener, and will later visit her
sister, Rea in Toronto.
Mrs. Young said she talked to
the kids and they want to go to
Newfoundland and her sister
Josephine has found them a
house.
So for Nellie Young and her
three kids this family reunion
seems to end, Hello Nfld.!
Goodbye Seaforth!
Although, her married children
will miss her, they'll have an
excuse to come to visit
Newfoundland next summer
vacation, she said.
$63.07, Thedford $623.32, Tuck-
ersmith $506.19, Zurich $527.71.
To provide information qn
issues affecting women, the
Ontario Government has set up
Information Units in 20 key
locations throughout the province
this summer. Stratford is one of
these key locations.
The information service, which
is being staffed, in Stratford, by 3
university students, is part of
Ontario's program in support and
recognition of International
Women's Year. This summer
project is sponsored by the
Women's Bureau and the
Experience '75 program (the
Ontario government student
student summer job program);.
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The government hopes that the
information units will achieve
three important goals;
be a useful service for local
communities, provide signifi-
cant feedback to the various
government ministries on the
needs and concerns of Ontario
women, provide a valuable
working ' experience for
students, and show
Government support for women
in International Women's Year.
The unit w ill not offer
counselling, but will act as
on-the-spot information and
referral agents on a variety of
government and non-government
programs and services that are
available to women in Stratford
and area day care,property laws,
job 'retraining, recreation,
housing, and all other programs
promoting equal opportunities for
women;. The group says they also
have information of interest to
men.
The unit will work with
women's groups in each area and
will assist in organizing and
promoting special International
Women's Year activities and
events.
The infdrmation booth opened
June 12 and will run until August
31 located on .the Stratford
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