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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Citizen, 2015-02-05, Page 12PAGE 12. THE CITIZEN, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 5, 2015. By Pastor Gary van Leeuwen Blyth Christian Reformed Church A little while ago, I had a couple in my study was planning their wedding for this summer. In preparation for that wedding, we have been talking about expectations and the like, and it has been a good conversation. Through the course of that conversation, I was reminded what marriage is: it is a covenant between two people. We don’t use the word covenant too much nowadays. We are far more likely to use the term, contract. A contract is a helpful agreement, especially if we are building a house. In the contract, the contractor will give me a house built to specifications to which we both agreed, and I will give him money. In such a situation it is important to have a good relationship with the contractor because we are going to have to make decisions as the house progresses. But the relationship is not the most important thing. What is far more important is that I get my house and he gets his money. In a contract, what is important is what we get. A covenant is rather the opposite of that. In a covenant, like a contract, there are certain stipulations. When we say our marriage vows, for example, we make promises, and those promises, if we understand what marriage is to be, are about being faithful, being supportive, and being loving as long as our lives shall last. In a covenant, what is more important is not what we get but what we give. We give our promises on our wedding days and we live out those promises for the rest of our lives. The difference between a covenant and a contract is an important distinction. Again, in a contract, the emphasis is on what I get. In a covenant the emphasis is on what I give. Sadly, it seems to me, too often times we enter into marriage thinking it to be more like a contract than a covenant. How many times do marriages break up simply because one or both of the married couple are not “getting” out of the marriage that which they think they should? Rarely, if ever, have I encountered a marriage that is in trouble where both husband and wife talk about how they have done on the giving end. A husband, for example, doesn’t have an affair because he has given all he has to his wife (as he promised). Rather, he has an affair because he doesn’t think he is getting enough understanding, love, companion-ship, etc. from his wife. There is much more that I could say about marriage, but what I really want to talk about is our relationship with God. As we read through scripture, we notice that God talks often about his covenant with us. His relationship with us is formed around covenant, not contract. God makes promises, and then he keeps them. He promises to protect us, care for us, provide for us, help us and, eventually, give us a place with him in eternal life, often referred to as heaven, or “a better place.” In order to make that covenant work, he does ask that we live by his rules. We can understand why, for if God is going to bless us, it is very helpful for us to live in such a way that we don’t ruin his blessings. The Ten Commandments are one example of the rules God expects us to live by, and they are summarized nicely by Jesus when he says, “Love God and love your neighbour as yourself.” If we don’t love God or our neighbour, God really can’t make his promises true in our lives. It becomes very difficult for God to offer the promise of peace if we don’t participate in that peace ourselves. God makes a covenant with us, and in that covenant he makes promises to us. We receive those promises, and we promise, in return, to live according to his ways. Sadly, however, we often treat God’s covenant with us like a contract. And that is where we run into problems. If I have hired a contractor to build my house, I demand perfection. I will not pay him if he has put only a half-hearted attempt into finishing my house. I will withhold money. Most of us would, especially if we have a signed contract in hand with the expectations clearly laid out. And yet, far too often, we act like contractors and become offended if God, for whom we are doing the work, sets high standards for us. The Bible is quite clear that God demands perfection, but if most us are honest, the best we give to God is very seldom more than a half- hearted attempt. For example, in the rather simple example to love our neighbours as ourselves, we eagerly spend money on ourselves when our neighbour struggles to get by. And, in a global economy, our neighbour almost certainly includes the people who make our cell phones and clothing. We would never work in conditions and for the pay that we ask them to endure, so we don’t really love our neighbours if we are truly honest about it. And, yet, although we understand that God asks much better of us, we don’t deliver. Still, we expect him to come up with what we think we should get. We want him to heal us, bless us and take us into heaven. But we aren’t really willing to admit that we didn’t do a very good job and therefore don’t deserve to be paid when we present the bill. It seems to me that many people today treat what is between us and God like a contract. It’s all about what we get. Sadly, if we are honest, we fail to make the grade. In a way, how we expect God to act is a lot more like our relationship with a contractor than our relationship with a spouse. In a contract, we have to get along, minimally, to make it work. In a marriage we have to give our all. 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Children Welcome SUNDAYS Morning Service 10:00 am Evening Service 7:30 pm Hwy. 4, Blyth www.blythcrc.ca 519-523-4743 Minister: Pastor Gary van Leeuwen You’re Invited To Join Us In Worship BLYTH CHRISTIAN REFORMED CHURCH BRUSSELS WORSHIP SERVICE AND SUNDAY SCHOOL 10:00 am All Welcome United Church Minister: Rev. Gary Clark, BA, M.Div. Bulletin notices: 519-523-4224 blythunited@tcc.on.ca Church bookings: 519-887-6377 Other concerns: 226-963-1175 getlivingwater.org Living Water Christian Fellowship 10:30 a.m. ~ Worship & Sunday School at 308 Blyth Rd. (former Church of God) Pastor: Ernest Dow ~ 519-523-4848 Feb. 8: Jn. 2:1-11 Evangelical Missionary Church Small Groups Weekly in Blyth & Wingham “Jesus’ Response When We Run Dry” FREE MOVIE: Fri., Feb. 20 ~ 7:30 p.m. We have seen lots of new people coming to Huron Chapel this winter and we still have room for you. Sundays @ 10:30am huronchapel.com From the Minister’s Study In a covenant, examine what you give Continued on page 16